I have a lot of guy frineds...and a couple are xboyfriends. So I just want to know other peoples opinions on the matter. I have been arguing with a coworker for the past 3 hours. He says if i would ask people from other parts of the US people would agree with him...where as people from the midwest would agree with me. So in your answer please state where you are from and if you are male or female. Thanks
2006-12-21 16:09:53 · 17 answers · asked by daisy_102 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im not really close friends with any exs, just occassionally internet chats, and phone calls, rarely ever hangout with them...most live atleast 2 hours away.
2006-12-21 16:26:19 · update #1
Sure, as long as you have bountries, and dont cross the line, why not? just as long your boyfriend knows, and you are not lying to him about your "guy friend", and you are ok with him have "gal friends" then there should be problem. But if you boyfriend doesnt know about the guy friends...than hell yeah there is a problem.
2006-12-21 16:52:04 · answer #1 · answered by kimmykay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am male and live in North Carolina. It is indeed unacceptable to have male ex-boyfriends as friends when you're in a relationship. I would be very jealous and concerned if I had a girlfriend that was close with other guys. Women cheat everyday and I wouldn't like for a girlfriend of mine to give in to temptation just because I'm not around.
On the other hand with the feelings of the guy you're seeing aside you have every right to choose your friends. There will be consequences if your boyfriend has a problem with these guys though. I honestly would dump a girl that constantly associates with other guys especially those she's been with in the past. There are many women out there and I wouldn't want to be put through the mental strain.
2006-12-22 00:18:18 · answer #2 · answered by Jamie R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have lived all over the country, east and west coast, north, south, and midwest. It is ok to friends with a person of the opposite while you and/or he is in a relationship. The fact that they are ex's makes it a little tricky. If you are spending a lot of time with them it can make it hard on the new boyfriend. Since you did date them at some point and they are ex's for a reason, I would keep some distance between you. But if you haven't had a relationship with them, it doesn't really matter.
2006-12-22 00:18:13 · answer #3 · answered by Lexy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am from washington state.
I am happily married, and both my husband and I have very close relationships with people of the opposite sex. The number one thing in a good relationship is trust. If you can't trust you other half to have friends than you probably won't be happy for very long.
2006-12-22 00:15:13 · answer #4 · answered by hossandemily1@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Female from east coast. I think you can have them. There should be no reason to hide it either. Introducing them to your boyfriend and make them his friends too. There should always be respect though. You can joke around with a friend of the opposite sex but I don't think your boyfriend would like you sitting on that guys lap. Know what I mean? So my answer is yes but with limitations.
2006-12-22 00:14:58 · answer #5 · answered by lanena423 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From Oklahoma.
I was friends with many of my exes. I think it is a good thing to have friends with members of the opposite sex and that usually hasn't been an issue with people I've dated. However, if those friends are exes, it complicates things greatly. I would be jealous if a boyfriend of mine was hanging out with an ex-girlfriend friend and my boyfriends were jealous if they knew I had previously dated a friend.
boyfriends always came across as too controlling if they tried to tell me who I could or couldn't associate with.
2006-12-22 00:15:40 · answer #6 · answered by corey t 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi there, I,m from new york but I was born in Chicago but yes you can have friends the opposite sex I mean why not? guys do it all the time beside if you and your other don,t see a problem with why not ? you have to remember your friends was a around a lot loner that he was keep you friends you may need them one-day to lean on . and that means ex-boyfriends too. good luck girl p.s as you know I,m a woman
2006-12-22 00:27:07 · answer #7 · answered by bigmomma3526 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is okay to have friend of the opposite sex, BUT - I could see where being friends with ex's could be a problem. If your bf is uncomfortable with you being friends with the ex's then you need to tell the ex's that you can't hang out together, or at least not unless your bf is around. As for regular guy friends - it shouldn't be a big deal, same as it shouldn't be a big deal for your bf to hang out with girls who are friends..
2006-12-22 00:13:23 · answer #8 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know for a fact that guys aren't too fond of having their girlfriends being friends with their ex-boyfriends. But i think it's okay if you have lots of guys that are friends while you're still in a relationship - just be careful how you talk to him about them - esp. the exes...if it bugs him, get him to be friends with the guys, it might loosen him up more - hope this helps!
female - seattle, WA
2006-12-22 00:15:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm from Texas and I totally agree that it's okay to have friends of the opposite sex while in a relationship. Just be careful that you don't cross boundaries.
2006-12-22 00:12:47 · answer #10 · answered by answering machine 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋