I was wondering if maybe anyone knew how to do a background check without paying a lot of money. Maybe see if has a violent background. Cps has already said that they cant so anything at this point.
2006-12-21 15:44:00 · 27 answers · asked by tarrgirl_4eva 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he has come home with a whole handprint around his shin , and because the marks are on his shin they wont do anything they tell us that it is a commonly bruised area Shin, forehead, forearms, under the eyes and chin. He is three years old. We do have custody of him. His mom and her bf are supposed to be here at 9 am tomorrow to pick him up, and we are just trying to figure out what to do , because we told her she was coming and he started crying saying he didn't want to go
2006-12-21 15:52:47 · update #1
i wouldnt ask about a cheaper background check, but we are kind of low on money
2006-12-21 15:56:27 · update #2
she does know that he is has a temper, and we know that he has been in and out of jail for the last few years, but she won't tell us the truth if we ask straight out, My son will show you how this guy hits him
2006-12-21 15:59:18 · update #3
we did a background check, and he doesnt have any violence that we have seen, but did have a felony for breaking and entering with intent, which he is still on parole for
2006-12-21 16:13:19 · update #4
if the boy was assaulted charges should be filed.talk to an attorney about getting custody
2006-12-21 15:45:51 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are a few options you can try if the police will do nothing then how about if you call Children services. Also, if they dont do anything the first time, keep calling them and reporting it, same with the police, eventually someone will do something, also, take pictures of all the marks, they will come in handy later. Also, you can go back to court to pull her visitation. Dont say that you dont have money for a lawyer because this is your husbands child, if he's cared about he will be protected, see what you can give up and what your husband can give up so that you do have the money..There are always ways we can give things up to save a little here and there. I understand what not having a lot of money is, I work 2 full time jobs to support my 4 kids. I make it on my own with getting no support and no assistance so, Im sure with two adults in the house you two can come up with money for an attorney. You have a very strong case and although I feel every child should have both parents involved in there lives, there are things that happen where the child would be better off without one. So, there are some solutions. Just dont give up. Keep thinking of how tramatized this boy is and how much you want to protect him, that will help you keep the fight up..
2006-12-21 19:02:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the first thing you want to do is gather evidence. Don't contact your lawyers. This isn't a civil or custody issue yet. You have no proof of a crime. The judge will base his decision on facts.Take pictures of the bruises or have the police come and take photos and a police report that would have to by your son (don't exagerate the truth and don't tell no lies). they can also follow up on your son's case and work cooperatively with CPS.You can contact your local PD or sheriff's dept and speak to someone in their records dept. The price for a criminal background shouldn't be no more than 30,35$, but really is $$$ an issue when it comes to your son's safety and justice if a crime has been comitted against your son. Either way if he does have one it may be a strong negotiation tool to stop visitation or update with supervision amendments.You can discuss this with the son's mother, however you should go off of what your son told you of he's credible.A conversation with his mother is just a courtesy. Remember the person in point is her BF.
Assault is often defined to include not only violence, but any physical contact with another person without their consent. When assault is defined like this, exceptions are provided to cover such things as normal social behavior (for example, patting someone on the back).
English law makes distinctions based on the degree of injury, between:
common assault (which can be even the most minor assault)
assault with actual bodily harm (ABH)
assault with grievous bodily harm (GBH
If the BF is on parole,he is on thin ice with local PD.You should vae called the police already.An officer would arrive to your house and observe the bruises,talk to your son,take photos and most likely make an arrest.If you haven't done that now...I really don't know what to think of you.
2006-12-21 15:53:59 · answer #3 · answered by Michael P 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you and your husband give you lawyer a call? He/she should be able to meet with you for about an hour and determine:
1) If you should contact the police
2) If you should file for sole custody
3) If he/she can push cps to actually do something.
4) To help you find the most economical way to get a background check dones that can actaully yield some information.
Meanwhile, I would not allow your stepson to go home to his mother's house until you have met with the lawyer and talked to his mother. How old is he? If he is 14 or over, he can pretty much decide who he wants to live with. I don't mean to be insulting, but is there any chance he could be lying to you because he doesn't like the guy?
2006-12-21 15:50:16 · answer #4 · answered by Zelda Hunter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, if the father of this child is very interested on the well being of his son (as I am sure he is) he HAS to be able to get a background check on the guy, even if he has to pay, what is a couple of bucks when is the life of his own son on the line right?. And for the bruises tell your husband that HE needs to speak with the mother about that, may be threat her to take her to court if this boyfriend keeps on hitting him, and that your husband will call the police on him. I am sure that if he talks to her, she probably (most definitely) will do something about it. Good Luck!
2006-12-21 15:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by fun 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your stepson broke out in tears when you mentioned his mother coming, that should be a huge red flag that something isn't right. He may be small, but he knows when he receiving love and it obviously isn't from there.
You need to keep your stepson home. He is not in a safe environment. I'm not a fan of Family and Children Services, but you need to either call the police and lodge a complaint or file for full custody with no visitation rights.
2006-12-21 16:17:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
1-Call the police immediately and let them take pictures of bruises.
2-Fill in a complaint form and press charges against him and her mom for being ignorant.
3-do not let them take him away(by doing this you are protecting him and at the same time you are showing the same to him)
If you need to hire an attorney and can not afford one,pay a visit to any Mormon church in your area and they will help you at no cost.
4-Although you have done a background check,the police will do an intensive check once child abuse is the concern.
5-doing all above will immune you against her mom claiming that you are keeping him away from her and she can not legally complain.
6-After all,If I were you and police did not take any action against this human looking animal,I would teach the bastard a lesson myself.
Hope you can solve the issue with the help of justice dep.
2006-12-21 16:54:36 · answer #7 · answered by Eric 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take pictures and write down when this occurs.
CALL THE POLICE! This d*ckhead is assaulting your stepson!
He should be reported to the police for each instance that he comes back with bruises. Let the police know what your stepson said to you about mom's b/f hitting him.
Talk to the lawyer regarding custody and visitation. Try to get in there that b/f must not be there in order for him to visit mom.
2006-12-22 02:35:03 · answer #8 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the mom inform her of what the step son told you. find out if she knows about it. if it really happened and she knew about it and didnt do anything. try to get the true story. it may have really happened or it could have been an accident or the story could have been made up. if it was intentional and the mother didnt know about it, then she should know and take action. if she knew and didnt do anything, she should be warned that action will be taken if this happens again. take pictures and write down the conversations with the mother and bf and the son. if it appears to be a problem, contact family services in your county, or start with the county courthouse and they will direct you to the proper authorities. nip it in the bud
2006-12-21 15:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you had his social security number you could pay online o have one done or you might be able to go to the police stationand have this done i know i can go to the police stations where i live and only pay $15 and get one one myself or boyfriend i would defiantly call your local police station and ask. If your stepson had bruises you should notify children services or the police and have the boy moved with you. Also take pictures of the bruises so you have proof of this.
2006-12-21 15:49:44 · answer #10 · answered by ~SAVY~ 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the guy is hitting him turn it into family services and the police. Document bruises with pictures, Go to an emergency room, the doctor at the er is required by law to turn in suspected child abuse cases. This will be difficult, but protect the child.
2006-12-21 15:48:27 · answer #11 · answered by Virginia C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋