no sex before she gets married
2006-12-21 15:34:51 · 20 answers · asked by dgebhardt79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
First I want to add that she Lives in Peru and I am in North America. Is this a culture difference? Also, We dated for about 5-6 months before we started foreplay. It was great. Then one day when I returned to the USA she told me that we can not have foreplay anymore because she hear of a woman that got pregnat from only foreplay. Also, she is 29 years old and told me I was the FIRST and only man to every touch her. She is a very very beautiful girl and it is hard for me to believe that NO MAN has ever touched here before. Also, when she kiss me, she is like a champ! The Best kissing I ever felt. Anyway, My penis would rub her vagina and and she would have orgasim and se loved it. We would do this 2-3 times every day for hours. And now she tells me NO MORE. This is a problem for me and When I try to talk to her about this she is angry that I want to. She is healthy and has no medical conditions that would prevent us from doing this. I REALLY need help. I am not happy NOW
2006-12-21 16:12:16 · update #1
I Love this girl too much, but I need to have this kind of romance and passion in my relationship, it is Very Very Very important for me. Because We live in different countries, I only see here once every two months and when I am with her, it is usually for 3 weeks.
2006-12-21 16:14:39 · update #2
**** UPDATE **** DOES EVERYONE UNDERSTAND THIS GIRL WAS NAKED IN BED WITH ME MANY MANY MANY TIMES. WE DID ALMOST EVERYTHING. NOW SHE SAIS NOOOOOO MORE AND SHE KNOWS THIS IS IMPORTANT FOR ME. I NEED THE INTIMATE PART IN ANY RELATIONSHIP!!!!!!! PLEASE GIVE ME GOOD AND SERIOUS ANSWERS.....
2006-12-24 07:08:26 · update #3
Find out why she doesn't want to have foreplay now. Sit down and talk about it. maybe something is worrying her. Talking about it would make you both find out what the problem is and solving it. And you both could resume foreplay. A lot of girls in India do not want to have sex before marriage. So, respect her wishes and do not force her. Remember that you both need to make love and should not force each other to have sex which will remove the magic of making love. Be patient and always assure her that you love her and you are not going around for the sex. A little wait wouldn't hurt. Might be worth its while!
2006-12-21 15:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by l_kur 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is probably having guilty, shameful feelings about the foreplay and therefore wanted to stop it.
How dare you question her virginity because of the way she looks and kisses. She needs to dump your *** for that reason alone!!
You are being very selfish by saying you are not happy and have a problem with her decision. Sex is an important part of a relationship but it's not the only thing.
If you truly love her, you will respect her decisions.
2006-12-21 17:02:02 · answer #2 · answered by Riviera_ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Foreplay Mr O'Leary consists of the following: A nice bunch of flowers. A good bottle of wine. You eat the dinner put before you without saying 'Whats this pigswill then?' Then you clear away the table Wash and dry the dishes Make a good cup of tea or coffee. Then you go and run a bath, plenty of oil and nice stuff in it. Heat the towels. Help your good lady into said scented bath and leave her in peace whilst you light candles in the bedroom, turn down the lighting, make sure its warm. Help good lady out of bath and help wrap her in heated big white fluffy towel. Lay lady on bed and massage in a lovely scented oil and make her feel cossetted and comfortable. Then and only then may you raise the thorny subject about the one eyed trouser snake finding its way into the darkened cavern of delight. THAT Mr O'Leary is fore play. It might take you four hours. It might take you five. But foreplay is what it is. Now - happenstance that the good lady may, after all that time have quite literally gone off the boil and be ready for a mug of cocoa and a good book. These are difficult times. He who says 'no problem darling - another night is fine' is truly a man amongst men. It goes without saying of course that she will probably run off with the builder next door after a quickie up against the garage wall - but its the chance you have to take Mr O'Leary - the chance you have to take. Its a funny business. A funny business.
2016-05-23 12:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your fiance issuffering from igorance! a woman cant get pregnant untill and unles a man penetrtes her. as you resiede in the us i am sure you can easily arrange for a visit to a docttor or even a relationship counsellor which you should attend together.
its great that yo are trying to understand your fiance but pls remember no relationship can work out without trust and you dont trust her when she says she is a virgin. i suggest both of you solve your problems before getting married rather than asuming that everything will be all right after marriage!
2006-12-21 17:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by urfriendfrlife 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do u care about her or sex? If you love her respect her feelings.
Love and trust between two people play important part in the relationship. Value this. If your fiancee says no for sex before marriage, then wait for marriage. Whats the rush anyway? She is not prepared right now and is waiting for the right time.
2006-12-21 15:39:36 · answer #5 · answered by FirstTime 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Now that you are getting married, she wants to make the first time you have sex even more special by making it seem like you're doing EVERYTHING for the first time. Just wait until you get married...you can take care of your own "business" until then, right? ;-) Seriously, though, please respect her wishes. This is actually very common--just pick up a wedding magazine; brides talk about it in there all the time!
2006-12-21 19:44:31 · answer #6 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off..Congrats on you're engagement and I'm sorry but I'm with you're fiance here...I'm a firm believer in no sex before marriage (but I'm no bible basher!!), you know she could have those values too but she doesn't need to do foreplay with you to prove she loves you. Dude, wake up and take a chill pill!! You'll be married to her soon...after you'll be able to do all the foreplay and have sex all you want.
2006-12-21 16:33:15 · answer #7 · answered by Aj super sexy!!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So? She obviously wants your first night as husband and wife to mean something. Also maybe she doesnt want the risk of getting pregnant BEFORE you get married. You need to just understand or else you shouldn't get married because you dont love her enough to wait. Push up the wedding date if it is such a big deal to you.
2006-12-21 16:13:05 · answer #8 · answered by Educated 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are many couples who decide, for various reasons, to be celibate before the marriage, even though they have had sex in the past.
If your fiance has decided to stay a virgin 'til marriage, then you, by all means, need to respect her decision.
2006-12-21 18:54:24 · answer #9 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are other ways to have intimate sexual times w/o "touching" each other. In fact, one way i'm considering is having her go topless. Is it okay with her if you touch or at least see her breats. Her is what others think about MY idea: feel free to use it or answer it http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=ArKT4R_XnwyvT7VCDDklz_3sy6IX?qid=20061219234210AANJPyK
2006-12-21 17:07:17 · answer #10 · answered by thank you come again 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋