my 2nd cousin just got killed in iraq by an improvised explosive device on dec 16th... i spent lots of time with him as a kid but havent in the last few years, i also havet been in contact with his close family recently... would it be okay for me to show up at his funeral and pay my respects even though i havent been in his life the past 5 or 6 years.... also what be a good way to express my condolances to his close family?
2006-12-21 15:23:13 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
he was only 22
2006-12-21 15:29:47 · update #1
Family is family, I don't think you should feel awkward about coming to pay your respects after a long period of no contact; if anything, it would probably mean something to his more immediate family that you cared enough to show up.
As far as condolances, sometimes "I'm sorry" is about all you can say.
2006-12-21 15:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, please show up at his funeral. He is still family though you were not in touch with him in the last years. There are not enough words to express deep sympathy and sincere condolences. The pain will be unbearable to some and time will only be the healing tool to get over the grief. Showing up at his funeral shows enough action for sympathy. Condolences.
2006-12-21 23:31:09 · answer #2 · answered by chanel_girl0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you should attend the services! Believe it or not when my brother passed the things that touched me most were pictures people had and sent on, and stories they remembered about him, wrote down and sent to me. It was painful but it is something I still have and look at. I'm sure you have some great childhood memories (things you two did and didn't tell!!) that his parents and siblings would love to hear about. You don't have to do it now--I got pics and stories months later. I have nieces and nephews I haven't seen in years--but I'd still give them a big hug and kiss if I saw them today!
2006-12-22 01:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by fallingstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the funeral, show sympathy for the loss and go on about your life. not meaning to sound crass but death is hard enough on everybody as it is, so don't add stress to your life. Just remember the good times and that is was an ungrateful camel jockey that killed your cousin.
2006-12-21 23:31:49 · answer #4 · answered by bigbro3006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should go to the funeral for shur. but people handle death in different ways so there is not proper way to handle it .
2006-12-21 23:36:13 · answer #5 · answered by Reaper G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋