I have 2 boys.....5 months, and 2 years. My 2 year old is hard to handle anyways, and he doesnt enjoy his little brother very much. I am a stay at home mom, and I feel like I have tried everything to keep them happy, which seems to be useless. Any suggestions"?
2006-12-21 15:19:46 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Join the club of unhappy stay-at-home moms. You have a very difficult job. I have boys that are 18 months apart and it wasn't until they were about 1 1/2 and 3 until they were happy. Now they play everything together and are best of friends; therefore my life is a lot easier. The best thing that I could do at that difficult stage was trying to keep my 2 year old entertained. 2 has got to be the worst age for boys. Just hang in there, but I know you have a tough job, I have the same one. ;)
2006-12-21 19:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All I can do is offer some suggestions that I have found that has helped me. If the 2 year old likes the outdoors, then take them both outside and put the youngest in a baby swing. That will free you up to play with the 2 year old and the 5 month old will enjoy himself just being outside and looking around.
When you are cooking, put the baby in a high chair and give him some Cheerios or something that will entertain him and ask the older son to help make the meal.
In short, use your imagination and the tools you have for the youngest boy. He will enjoy sitting and looking and trying to feed himself something like Cheerios's. That will free you up to spend more time with the older boy. It's not that he doesn't like his brother, it's just that he had you to himself all his life and then 5 months ago some little snot nosed sibling moved in and now he gets more of your time because he's a baby. It will be alright. Just take any opportunity to spend time with the older boy. Ask for his help all the time and brag what a big boy he is. Tell everyone how much help he is to you and his baby brother. I think you will be amazed at how much it will help. Good Luck.
Been there done that.
2006-12-21 15:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will never make them both equally happy. They are both very demanding ages. Been there done that.
My advice is to do the best you can and if you can give yourself a nap, by all means do it.
Your 2yo is upset because the baby is quickly going to that adorable baby age. And he's 2. Try to give him his own special mommy time without the baby; that should help a lot.
The 5mo is 5 mo and will soon be interactive. That will please the 2yo immensely.
The 2yo probably won't enjoy his little brother for a while, but when your younger one is older, they probably will play really well together (and fight).
You're doing a great job!
2006-12-21 15:30:57 · answer #3 · answered by autimom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 boys same age difference and when I am home all day with them i feel as if i have been reduced to a moron.
Teach the older one anything letters numbers cleaning colors praise him for the smallest achievement... jump up ad down and make silly faces. they both will enjoy it and your older one will feel good about himself.
ALSO on the other hand ENJOY this time it goes fast
2006-12-21 16:36:27 · answer #4 · answered by its me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Allow your 2 yr old to be more involded in your daily routine with your 5mth old, ie: when bathing your 5mth old allow him to help you prepare everything and then after bathing allow him to help you drying the baby. Sit with him whilst he feeds the baby and even when nappy changing allow him to help you.
This will form bonding between him and his little brother. Keep doing this with him for a while till you notice a change in him towards his brother.
Then when baby is asleep make time for you and your toddler to play a fun game or creative like painting a picture, even help you to prepare babys food, he is sure to enjoy that.
2006-12-21 20:08:26 · answer #5 · answered by kitty76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might help to put the baby in a sling or carrier while you do things with the toddler... that way the toddler has your full attention but your younger son is still being stimulated.
a good baby carrier is the http://www.ergobabycarrier.com and the http://www.babyhawk.com and http://grapiebaby.wahmweb.com/ if you don't like slings
2006-12-21 19:20:48 · answer #6 · answered by sheila 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
TRY TO BE PATIENCE WITH THEM AND PAY ALOT OF ATTENTION TO THE TWO YEAR OLD, THE BABY IS NOT OLD ENOUGH TO BE JEALOUS. AND BY THE TIME HE'S OLD ENOUGH TO KNOW THE TWO YEAR OLD WILL BE BETTER.ADJUSTED WITH THE BABY. LOT OF HARD WORK
2006-12-21 15:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by bettys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋