is it hard to make really good friends with wives that are in your husbands unit? i find it hard to have a true friend..i have one that is soooo annoying and tries to tell me how to do things and always keeps talking even when she knows she has pissed me off and is always bragging on herself..not looking for advice just seeing if anyone has found it hard to make real good friends.
2006-12-21 15:04:49 · 13 answers · asked by red 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
it is hard for civilans to relate if they never been in your shoes..true but the other wives must see me as prey! for god sakes the ones i know always think i am a nitwit and try to give me advice on whatever pops into their heads!i am just tired of it.
2006-12-21 15:18:27 · update #1
i guess i am a grouch...i miss my friends back home..ones i grew up with totally understand everything i do..not just army wise..but all of my actions,etc..i will say I LOVE MY HUSBAND AND WILL GO WITH HIM ANYWHERE.....but i am looking forward to going to kansas next summer!!5 hours from home instead of 25 hours away...
2006-12-21 15:23:10 · update #2
thanks to all and to mystic, thank you for the offer..i am going to Riley..
2006-12-21 15:53:50 · update #3
I did not have too much trouble in california, but I am here in Kansas, mainly because I live off base and know mostly Active Guard people who have lots of family around them, I don't. I found it the easiest when everyone was a "transplant." What base are you coming to in Ks.? If it is McConnell, I can help you get involved in some of the spouse groups.
Let me know. I am at mysticalviking@yahoo.com
2006-12-21 15:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by mysticalviking 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a marine wife. It's some times very hard to make fiends with the women in my husbands unit. I tend to be able to make better friends with the people in the same housing area as me. They are the ones you see every day. I do have some friends in the unit though. If you really want to get to know them then you need to get involved. If your enlisted then start doing things with the enlisted wives club(officers wives have the same thing). Don't worry about the one friend there is always some one like that. Just move on. You will be surprised....you will make some really good friends that you will stay in touch with forever. You will end up with friends all over the world! The key is "GET INVOLVED". Don't just stay in your house all the time. You have to throw yourself out there when your a military spouse.
2006-12-21 16:10:02 · answer #2 · answered by ch46marinewife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have no idea what this means to your husband. My wife suffered horribly as she found herself isolated from the FRG. The only thing I can suggest is that you attend every function the installation provides and try and find someone. Civilians can rarely relate to what you are going through and depending on your husband's situation, even other military wives may try and blame you for actions happening in the unit. I can only say I hope you the best and please keep plugging away. For those who have the time before deployment - START MAKING those contacts right this minute. You are going to need them once your hubby is gone. Find out who your rear detachment and the installation Chaplain is now. They will be of immense help in the future. God bless you all, and as my wife reminds me daily "Army wife - the toughest job in the Army!"
2006-12-21 15:09:40 · answer #3 · answered by sofgrant 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES, it is so hard to find a "normal" wife. We are currently stationed in Germany....so its either military wives or germans. I have found one friend that I love to death and she is helping me with my first deployment, I don't know what I'd do without her. But if you find one you like, hold on to them for life because you will always need some one who is going through the same thing as you!
2006-12-22 14:41:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sometimes yes and sometimes no....we were stationed in seattle last year and i found lots of friends...now we are in a small crappy town in florida thats so small and spread out, that we have been here 6 months now and i havent made 1 friend...i am not antisocial, just some places dont accept military wives very well
i have applied everywhere here and cannot obtain a job because i am a military wife...i dont tell them that upfront all the time and when they find out, they think my husband can get re-stationed within days then they are out of an employee...very frustrating and it ticks me off
2006-12-21 15:17:31 · answer #5 · answered by sherichance79 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey! I too am an Army wife. I find it hard to make friends within the other wives. Either they are stuck up and talk behind eachothers back or they are just too good to talk to you in the first place.
2006-12-21 15:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by Jaclyn 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I guess so, but I really haven't tried to make friends with any other military spouses. LOL in July I'll be able to really answer since I will be moving across the country to live with my hubby on base.
2006-12-21 15:58:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, I'm a military girlfriend and a lot of people just do not know how to relate to you. I know this isn't the same as having a friend right there but try out this website www.militaryissuedgirlfriends.com it's not just for girlfriends and it is a lot of help with a bunch of great girls
2006-12-21 15:58:51 · answer #8 · answered by mhmm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know anyone in my husbands unit and i prefer it that way. i don't have any real good friends here. i have people i talk to at school (PTA), i have neighbors i chitchat with, i have other people i just talk with on the phone and other women i know thru my children's friends. it is hard to find someone i want to hang out with all the time and that my husband likes as well. i would like to find a family that my husband and family could hang with together.
2006-12-22 16:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by haikuhi2002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not married to a guy in the military, but have been seriously dating one for a while and have worried about this as well. I have annoying "friends" right now though, so maybe they are everywhere.
2006-12-21 15:08:05 · answer #10 · answered by averyanne77 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋