is spanking your kids child abuse?

Answer 1

no

Answer 2

In my opinion, beating your children is child abuse.
Spanking is an obscure term that will get you no where. Depending to whom you are speaking, the definition of spanking can range from a tap on the bottom to a full out whacking with a stick on a bare bum. It can range just as equally regarding abuse. Some will say even tapping your child is abuse, while others will assert than leaving any kind of mark is abuse.

Many will say that it is a useless tool.

Everyone has their own opinion on this. My opinion is that, as a last resort, as in your child is NOT responding to your calm correction AT ALL and knows without a doubt that you have set boundaries that he/she has crossed, then they should know that a spanking is coming. My children all knew this. They all crossed the boundaries once or twice, and they all received the appropriate warning, and explaination as to why they were receiving a spanking. After they were spanked, they were asked why they received it, and they all told me (or dad). They only ever needed a spanking two or three times, then they got the hang of the rules thing.

My kids are all well adjusted, mature, non - rebellious teens who are well liked by their peers. They are by no means perfect, but they know I'm not perfect either. They love me and I love them. They know they were spanked, and they are not regretful about it or scarred.

I too was spanked as a child. Only once or twice, and I can't even remember what for.

I'm not scarred by it either.

The point is, no matter how you decide to discipline your children, it must be done in a loving and logical way. You don't hand out spankings for every little thing... that's when it becomes meaninless and can leave psycological scarring.

As well, no matter what is written here by me or anyone, everyone has their opinion, and everyone just might think everyone else is wrong.

Merry Christmas!

Answer 3

I believe their is a difference between a spank on the behind, and beating. I don't personally see anything wrong with one smack on the bottom...here comes some thumbs down im sure. I think spanking should be a last resort though. I always say no first, then depending on what the child did, sometimes just removing them for the situation is enough. If it is something extremely dangerous im making a clear point it wont happen again. My 2 1/2 year old twins think its much worse when i smack their hand then anything else....they don't like it at all. I try to never have to do anything besides say no or remove them from what they are doing wrong, but there have been times they have had a spank.

Answer 4

Total abuse! Oh my gah! If you spank a child to get them from killing themselves, it will TOTALLY make them lose all of their self esteem! Like Wow!

Get real, now.

I am so sick of the people who say it's abuse. I mean, normally, I'm all for every parent being the one to decide on how they discipline their child. But so many anti spankers want to tell EVERYONE else how to discipline their child. And I want to just smack them myself. It's so ridiculous.

I don't know if anyone notices how the world is today, but if you can't notice simple stuff like that, please shut your legs and never have kids.

I was spanked as a child. I have NEVER been in a fist fight. I have never gotten in so much trouble at school. Infact, I was never even sent to the principal's office. So, all those people out there who say every child who's spanked will be a bully who thinks it's okay to punch another kid in the eye... Think again. I have never done that.

So many kids who AREN'T spanked, their parents just "Talk to them" and "beg them not to do things" because it will "hurt mommy and daddy's feelings", these are the exact kids who would cuss out the teachers, and then tell the teachers to their face that "they can't do anything about it". I saw it EACH, and EVERY day. Throughout school.

I have also seen actual abuse. Yes, I have seen kids with bruises down their backs and all. And if you can sit there and say a tiny spanking causes ALL of that, then you need help. A spanking is normally just a tap or two to get a child's attention. To cause so many bruises, you have to do it more and more harder than a normal spanking. Therfore, spanking is not abuse.

Now, I'm not saying all kids need spankings. Some parents can get kids attentions with just a time out and things like that, but it doesn't work on all kids. Wake up and smell the roses, please.

This world is ALOT worse now than it was years ago. And you mean to tell me "spanking" has nothing to do with it? Please.

Omgz now let the "thumbs down" start rolling. I'm a total child abuser!!!

Answer 5

Not in all cases. I was spanked as a child. It taught me right from wrong. Some children need spanking ,and some you can just talk to and get your point across. It all depends on the child. I never felt like I was abused. I deserved every spanking I got. And then some. I am a better person for it now. Children today have no respect. I say, spare the rod, spoil the child.

Answer 6

I don't think it is. There is a HUGE difference in a spanking and a beating. Back in the day when I was a child I knew what was coming if I did something wrong. Kids need to learn that there are consequences to their actions. Now after a certain age it's kinda ridiculous to spank a child. That's when you take away their privileges. No tv, no phone, computer, whatever. Kids today get away with FAR too much bad behavior. I'm sure I'll get thumbs down on this, but oh well.

Answer 7

Anything can be abusvie. It is in the tone or the emotion behind it. Are you spanking your kids because you are no longer in control of your emotions? Spanking really hard 'to teach a lesson' or are you spanking while in control of your emotions 'to make a point'. I personally rarely spank (more if the kid is endangering their life and I don't want to be creative in punishments and wait for them to get the point. If they are running on the road, a time out does not drive the piont home quick enough).

Answer 8

It depends on how you administer the spanking and if the child realizes why they are being spanked. If discipline is given in a physical way its important that the child realizes why they have received it OR you can talk to the child about the problem. For me my parents made the "talk" so painful to endure that I would opt for the spanking instead...

Answer 9

It depends. All children need discipline but, they also need an equal amout of love. Your child should be spanked if he doesn't listen to you when you tell him not to get near the road (he could lose his life if done at the wrong time). At the same time, your child needs alot of praises, rewards, and hugs when he does listen to you. In other words you are saving your childs life by disciplining him and you could be killing him if you don't. Just make sure you keep it equal. You don't have to use alot of force to get your message across to most kids but, I do know, that there ARE some really bad ones out there. hopefully you don't have one of those(just kidding--all kids are wonderful--no matter what).

Answer 10

spanking ur kid is discipline. Beating ur kids is abuse. There's a BIG difference in the two. Sometimes kids need a spank or a tiny bruise to remind them not to cross a line. But parents should excercise full restraint; and have spanking be the last resort. Besides, for some, mental and emotional abuse is far worse than any spank they could've gotten from their folks.

Answer 11

It depends on two things: if it is in the sake of discipline, then it isn't child abuse and it depends on what type of person you are.
When you are trying to teach a child right from wrong, it's not abuse because this is called the disciplinary method. God approves the disciplinary method because it shows your kid that you love them by teaching them moral values.
But when you are an angry adult who loves to cause a child pain & have an anger management problem, then it's child abuse. A parent should never take any sort of wrongful anger out on a child or neglect their needs, it's just WRONG!