About 3 weeks ago my sister in law was telling me how she cooks her ham. I made a joke as I always do, and she called me a stupid *****, and that she hates talking to me. She also makes jokes, anyway we are having Christmas dinner at my house this year and I do not want her here, but my husband tells me to get over it for one day. I called her and ask why she was telling everyone that she called me a ***** and she stated that it was none of my bussiness and hung up on me. I don't understand why she would even think to show her face up here, and I don't understand my husband, not standing up for me. She is 60 years old and lives at her mothers home with her husband. She is the one bringing her mom. Do I need to be nice, as far as talking to her, letting her in my house, etc??????
2006-12-21 14:53:16 · 12 answers · asked by revia1467 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You have a golden opportunity at hand. Go ahead and be gracious enough to allow her to attend. Right in the middle of dinner make a statement....call her by name and then state that since she has humiliated and embarrassed you by childish name calling, and then telling others all about it...would she please also be kind enough to explain to everyone why she felt the need to do so? What is she going to do? Act an a-s-s in front of all those people too? If she does....you have made your point about her.
2006-12-21 15:28:48 · answer #1 · answered by slick chik 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At first, I thought that it would be best to sit down with her and talk about how you don't like her behaviour but it sounds like she would be very unreasonable. Perhaps you could say to her, one on one, that you didn't like her behaviour when she called you a stupid *****. Tell her that type of behaviour is unacceptable and that you never want to hear her say anything like that again. If she insists on continuing or if she says that she is free to speak her mind, then tell her to leave your house calmly and immediately.
If that doesn't sound like a good idea, then just do your best to avoid her and to avoid anything that would tempt her to share her opinions with you.
Maybe she'll naturally die before that time. She is 60 years old you know... :-) And the way that she lives her life probably makes her more like 70 years old....
2006-12-21 15:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't HAVE to like her but she's your husband's sister so out of respect for him, don't make a big deal of it. She is part of the family and it would be nice of you if you could be cordial to her for the sake of the rest of the family. You cannot change the way she is but you can change how you react to her. I'm not suggesting you try to become best friends with her but I do suggest you not be rude to her on those occasions when the family gets together.
2006-12-21 16:07:14 · answer #3 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The heck with inviting her to my house. She's the one with the problem don't let her make you part of it. If she can come into your home and act like she has sense fine but otherwise I think not.
2006-12-21 14:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by older and wiser 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before she arrives, firmly tell her that she is only welcome in your house under the holiday circumstances and because you love your brother, and that she is not normally welcome in your house. Then kill her with kindness. If she's rude to you, she's the one that will look pathetic. it's your house, your territory, you don't have to worry about protecting yourself. If she's outright rude, everyone else will think so as well and back you up if it comes to that and let her know she's out of line!
2006-12-21 14:57:39 · answer #5 · answered by should be working 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh hell NO. You tell that ***** that the momma can stay but she needs to take her 60year old self and her loser *** husband to Denny's for Christmas. You also need to tell your husband to do a reality check about who gives him what he wants in that house and I'm sure it's not his momma or his sister. You tell him he better straighten up or he can just go to Denny's with his sister and her loser *** husband too....
2006-12-21 15:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She wouldn't be allowed in my house until she apoloogized and learned some manners.
2006-12-21 15:33:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-12-21 14:56:49 · answer #8 · answered by sndnads.com 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
it is one day. be nice. you arent the only one with this problem. everyone has to deal with it
2006-12-21 14:56:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instruct her on how to use a douche bag
2006-12-21 15:00:05 · answer #10 · answered by Cute as button72886 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋