and now are living together. I dont want to push into marriage but i just want him to see I am a great person.
I do everything i can. But I have got to be missing something.
2006-12-21 14:52:11 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well off and on for 6 years... its a big whoa there buddy. But my parents were off and on for 6 years as well back in the day. If you truly think it will work then work for it and it will work. If you have tooo man cons more then pro's girlfriend... move on. i know its hard. i really know. but look at what your future might be. good luck
2006-12-21 14:55:10 · answer #1 · answered by Skye 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was married for 14 years - 10 of which were awful. I have learned much and decided after 14 years and two children, that I was worth more. I have been divorced 5 years have found ME. And with finding yourself, comes acceptance and new found love of life. I have since learned that you have to be "friends" most importantly. Share the same hobbies, interests, friends, etc. And take a good, long, hard look at the guys relationship with his mother. If he treats his mother with respect and they get along well then that is a true sign of his future treatment of the opposite sex. (not the homebody cannot let go of mommy's hand guy). A true love will let you have a life of your own, with your own interests, but will want to be involved. He will trust you when you are not together because he is secure in his own skin. Those who do not trust, have insecurity issues that should be dealt with before pursuing a serious relationship. A true love will encourage you and support you, not hold you down or belittle you. If you don't feel like your respected, then you aren't. Good luck...
2006-12-21 15:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by butternbiskits 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can not MAKE him happy! Make sure you understand that. Each one us has to define our happiness. You can be a contributing factor, but you can not make him happy.
You can make yourself happy by choosing men who want to be happy with you. If you are not happy because your boyfriend is not happy, then you need to get out of this relationship and go fishing. There are a lot of fine men in the sea--go find one.
If you want to get married, stop living with them. Men will use you for as long as you let them. Marriage and the talk of marriage will get you what you want. Giving them what they want makes you a loser--they won't commit. Look at your present situation: 6 years??? Come on girl, wake up, smell the coffee, and get yourself a REAL MAN!
2006-12-21 14:58:45 · answer #3 · answered by D.A. S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope. Your not missing anything but the right guy. If you are a good person like you say (and I am sure you are) then he should have married you by now, my gosh six years..and I really think it is time to have a talk about marriage. If he breaks up with you after having this talk then that just really shows that he is just not for you. It isn't you it is him. Find out why it is him.
2006-12-21 14:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by doesitmatter 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are missing something! You are missing YOU!
This guy does not need a peice of clay that is his to mold into some sort of "dream girl". This guy was attracted to you as an individual...Not something that chases him around trying to be what he wants is not the way to go. You will lose yourself in this relationship and it can take years to recognize the fact that you are not what you thought you were.
You deserve to be who you are. He should respect you more for that rather than being his puppet.
I wish you luck!
2006-12-21 14:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by MARY L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you have to be missing something. If you have to change to something other then who you are then he will not be in love with you. He will love something untrue. You should not have to change to please him. If you are even asking this "?" then you must be a very giving and loving person. I am not saying not to better your relationship by change bad habits or thing that you think you need to change. I was married for 7 years but he was not married to me He was married to an idea of a woman I thought made him happy. We did not work out because he did not know me because i did not know myself. I got lost in what i thought he wanted. I forgot what I wanted and who I was. Please change for yourself and no one other then yourself. You sound very caring, loving and wonderful so If you anit his MRS PERFECT then you WILL be someone else. I hoped this was something that will help you. Thanks T
2006-12-21 15:18:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't try so hard, and just be yourself. Also do not go and mention marriage that will not show him you are a great person.
2006-12-21 14:56:08 · answer #7 · answered by Weiners and Beans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he does not like you for who you are, honey let it go. dont try to be someone that you arent just to please someone else. you will be lying to yourself and your bf. if he doesn't see what a great person you are after 6 years.............he never will.
take some time to get to know yourself better and be happy with yourself. then you can go about meeting someone that would appriciate you for who you really are.
2006-12-21 14:56:02 · answer #8 · answered by PreciousLady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him he gets what hes got, and should be happy with who you really are you shouldnt have to change 4 a man that itsnt what ur looking 4 exactly
2006-12-21 14:57:15 · answer #9 · answered by :)e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are doing everything you can and he still isn't happy then you should just forget about it and move on because you can't do anything else!
2006-12-21 14:58:34 · answer #10 · answered by so_adorable! 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋