I'm a catholic and I was wondering if having sex before marriage is okay. I know it teaches celibacy but I have a girlfriend and she's willing to go all the way please help.
2006-12-21 14:45:16 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are a true Catholic, you would be willing to listen to what the Church teaches, and to learn why it is so. You sound sincere. The short answer is no. it is not okay in the eyes of the Church. This is why: Sex is not there for recreation, but procreation. It is not for our pleasure, but to be open to the life of a child. Only in marriage is this truly possible. which is why it is important to wait. True love can wait. It is lust that makes us think we can't! God Bless!
2006-12-23 13:52:17 · answer #1 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex before marriage may be somewhat prevelant, - but that doesn't make it OK.
Catholic or otherwise, it's a teaching that understands the human design, and success for kids and marriage. To classify kids / marriage as a back burner item, and put indulgence on the front burner, is "wrong" anyway you look at it.
She may be 'willing', - but you're the man. I'd usually think that the woman is the 'gatekeeper', but if she's not thinking straight (she / thinking in the same sentence?), then you need to be a real man and do the thinking for both of you.
On another note, - this kind of practiced-temperance will pay off for your future and your kids. You'll have a 10% less chance of divorce, and that bankruptcy that shouldn't happen, - won't happen 36 years from now... Get the picture?
2006-12-21 22:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by MK6 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just this week in the news, a report on human sexuality was released. According to a study of American sex habits that goes all the way back to the 1940s, over 90% of every generation has had premarital sex. Basically no one has EVER been a virgin on their wedding night, not even granny!
So Americans are just a bunch of horny, pre-marital sex having folks. But that does not jive with the Church!
I would bet, people being people, everyone has been having sex before marriage, all the way back to Adam and Eve, despite what the Church says. H3LL, even priests have sex, so they don't practice what they preach too well either.
If you love each other, and you think the time is right, knock out a piece, but be careful young man.....use protection. Don't need to give up virginity and take on parenthood!
2006-12-21 23:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by warhorse 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay I am not a Catholic (Christian though) and no matter what sex before marriage is NOT okay! just think of this, what will u do when she gets pregnant, you are having to pay child support, and u r stuck with that on your permanent record. not exactly something that a college will like on a resume
2006-12-21 22:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by annabanana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I don't think that this should have to do with religion. If you really believed in your religion then you wouldn't be asking other people for advice when you really would know the answer to that question. If you are really serious about this girl, and can honestly picture her in your future as your wife, then maybe you should talk about getting married. If you really do want to do what your religion teaches then wait until you're married, but don't get married just because of that reason. Do what you fell to be truly right. If you really want to have sex with her before marriage, then go right ahead, but you do have to realize that you have to deal with the consequences. Do what you feel to be right and not what others tell you to do.
2006-12-21 22:50:47 · answer #5 · answered by Kayla K 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No.
Judeo-Christian tradition has taught for thousands of years that it is God's will that:
+ Single people should be celibate.
+ Married people should be faithful to each other (adultery is wrong).
The Catholic Church recognizes the power of sex when it teaches, "Sexuality affects all aspects of the human person in the unity of his body and soul."
Chastity means the successful integration of sexuality within the person. A chaste person's body and spirit lives in unity and opposes any behavior that would impair that unity.
The purpose of sex is to bring a husband and wife closer and to create human life.
Fornication, sex between an unmarried man and an unmarried woman, is contrary to their human dignity and the dignity of human sexuality.
Respect your girlfriend and yourself. Sex will be that much better after marriage.
With love in Christ.
2006-12-22 01:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by imacatholic2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im not catholic but sex before marriage is wrong no matter what you are
2006-12-21 22:47:18 · answer #7 · answered by PhillyDude 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Catholic or Christian, it is the same this way - if you care about your relationship with the Lord, you will keep to his word and remember that Jesus went all the way for you - do for Him and save yourself as he commands.
Remember: it's your future at stake!
2006-12-21 22:51:01 · answer #8 · answered by Rebecca B 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm not Catholic but from what I understand Catholics can do whatever horrible sin they want as long as they make sure they go to mass and ask forgiveness. So I guess if your Catholic have fun say your hail Mary's tomorrow and no harm no fowl..
2006-12-21 22:49:21 · answer #9 · answered by Lucinda M 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well i've heard it's not ok, but as we all know people do it.
2006-12-21 22:49:46 · answer #10 · answered by Skye 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋