do any of your parents do this?
2006-12-21 14:41:20 · 29 answers · asked by ♥heartbroken♥ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
well of course, she's 100% positive there's gonna be no drugs in there. but she looks through to check out my grades.... it's annoying.
2006-12-21 14:49:56 · update #1
I highly recommend parents snooping on their kids - that way we know what you are up to. Hopefully one day you will understand, and when you have your own kids, you too will snoop.
Good luck and enjoy the rest of your childhood years.
2006-12-21 14:49:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is okay for parents to go through back packs, bedrooms, etc. My mother even went so far as to rip the back off of my locked diary so she could read what was in there...She got an EYE FULL. The fact is that your parents have the right to know what is going on in THEIR home. THEY are paying the bills, putting a roof over your head, clothes on your back and food in your stomach...so suck up and deal with it. If you don't want them finding something that might get you into trouble, don't take it home.
2006-12-22 00:31:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent, I routinely search my 14 year olds room, purse, backpack and whatever else she has because I cannot trust her to not be in possession of things that are prohibited in my house, or to take things that are not hers. I rarely go into my 13 year olds things because I already know what she has... she shares with me. In your case, your mom is most likely trying to make sure you're safe and not being pressured into doing anything you don't want to. I hated my mom doing this when I was a kid, but now that I'm a parent, I understand why.
2006-12-21 22:47:40 · answer #3 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How old are you?
I go through my son's backpack because sometimes things get lost in there and he can't find them! (He's 12)
As parents we have the right to look through your things. But depending on your age, your parents should also be respecting your privacy. My son knows I won't snoop, but that I have the right too, which keeps him honest!
What's in your backpack that you don't want them to find? That's the real question. If you're hiding things from your parents, you should ask yourself if maybe YOU should be the one to show them what's in your backpack! They love you and will be there for you, regardless of what you're hiding in your backpack!
2006-12-21 22:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by rtlsimpson 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is okay. You live under her roof, she buys your stuff, she pays your bills (grocerys, rent, utilities) and it is her job to protect you. Plus, if you had something illegal in there she could get in a lot of trouble right along side you. Have you given your mom a reason not to trust you? Ask her. Work on building an open relationship with her so she doesn't feel like she needs to snoop.
2006-12-21 22:45:38 · answer #5 · answered by katherinernilson 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
yes it is ok. your mom is responsible for you, even more than you are. if you were selling dope she could be held responsible. If you get into trouble before you are 18 she will be held accountable. If you have nothing to hide what's the big deal? If you have something to hide she needs to know that too. Parents have the job to teach you how to be an adult that makes responsible choices. They can't do their job without getting in your space.
2006-12-21 22:53:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anthony M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my mom never did, but then she never had a reason to distrust me...i was always honest with her...i told her when i started smoking, drinking...we talked things through...
by the way, don't smoke and drink...
i know that i would not go through my daughter's backpack unless i had a good reason to...if my daughter proves to be not trustworthy and i have reason to believe that that's where she hides things she shouldn't have, then i would...but i'm big on the right to privacy...however, that right has to be earned...
i would sit down with your mom and talk to her...ask her why she does it...is there something you're doing that makes her think she needs to rifle through it....talk to her and set her mind at ease...ask her to allow u to gain her trust and then make sure you're always honest with her....
2006-12-21 22:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by tiger_lover124 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG...control your parents! You can't let them act up like that! That's your stuff! If they wanna know your grades they can wait for report cards just like millions of other parents... LOL
And no, I think secretly my parents are afraid of me. They know one thing--and it's I DONT LIKE YOU IN MY STUFF, and they pretty much trust me not to do anything overly horrible. I can handle myself for the most part, and they know it. I guess they started treading on ice last summer when I locked myself in my room for 2 days because Mom said I wasn't disciplined...
2006-12-21 23:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by Eris 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's concerned about what and how you're doing, then she'll snoop. I realize for a teen this can be annoying and feel like a lack of privacy, but she's doing it because she loves you. Try not to be too hard on her.
2006-12-21 22:45:52 · answer #9 · answered by Miami Lilly 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Come on if you get checked on the airport or school would you make a fuss? If you don't have nothing to hide then don't worry about it because they are only doing it for your safety its not like they are placing drugs or anything.
2006-12-21 22:45:52 · answer #10 · answered by kheno64 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋