My ex-boyfriend and I agreed to break up in October because we thought we were meant just to be friends. However, about a month later he would often tell me how he really does care for me and how he wants to be with me but he doesn't know if I would ever trust him again. (He told me he cheated after we broke up and apologized, he truly did hurt because of what he did) I told myself time and time again that I would never have anything to do with him relation ship wise because he cheated on me. But, now I am starting to have these emotions over him like he is the one for me. I want to tell him but then again I am so scared. Also, i think he may be seeing someone new now. One night when we were drinking a few weeks ago he told me he thought he was in love with me, was it the alcohol speaking, or honesty? I know this all sounds pretty lame but its all thats been on my mind lately! PLEASE HELP! Thank you!
2006-12-21 14:16:49 · 13 answers · asked by . 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you two should let your hearts do the talking cause I really think this will work out. Talk it all out, kiss and makeup and good luck to the both of you, it sounds good!
2006-12-21 14:32:53 · answer #1 · answered by Mercadies2000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to tell from here if it was him speaking, or the alcohol.
The real question here is how do you feel about him? Obviously, he really hurt you before, but you are having second thoughts, and you sound like you're really still interested in him. Maybe not "all the way" interested, but interested nonetheless.
I think the reason you are scared is probably because you are doubting yourself here. You certainly have some reasons for doubt after everything that happened previously, but despite your doubt, are you willing to give it a second chance? If the answer is yes, why not? Maybe he has become a better person in the process. If you're willing to give him another chance, I'd say go for it. If not, then run away as fast as possible because you won't ever be able to commit to him if you can't do so now.
2006-12-21 22:26:23 · answer #2 · answered by G A 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him. If he is seeing someone then he can decide what to do next. But you also need to tell him you're not sure you can trust him and if you guys do get back together things have to be different and he's got to earn your trust back.
As far as the alcohol, I had a similar problem with a guy who had a couple of beers and called me and expressed his feelings for me. He's a complicated guy and I think the alcohol gave him courage to admit his feelings finally (he told me if he gets a couple of beers in him he can really express himself and his thoughts.) But everyone's different and I think alot has to do with how much alcohol is involved and how able to express himself he was sober. I'll be interested to see what others say about
alcohol's effect on what people say.
Probably everyone deserves a second chance and it really might be a case of he didn't know what he had until it was gone. Good luck in however you decide to handle this.
2006-12-21 22:34:40 · answer #3 · answered by Hopeful girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all he didnt cheat on you if he did it after you guys broke up and if you are both feeling this way then why dont you just try again try sitting down with him and telling him how you feel and that you would like to try things with him again but move slow and tell him you dont trust him right now and that hopefully youll feel different after a while and if things are meant to be then they will happen good luck
2006-12-21 22:32:56 · answer #4 · answered by advise_gal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always heard that when people are drinking and say something it is the truth. But you have to ask yourself if you want to get back with him since he did admit that he cheated on you. Remember, once a cheater always a cheater. You would not want to go through that again..would you? Its up to you, sorry that is all I can offer
2006-12-21 22:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by ridingis4life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him and cant move on give him one more chance but if he shows one sign of cheating i would let him go hes not worth it. an let him know how you feel and that you are scared that he might do it again.
2006-12-21 22:23:07 · answer #6 · answered by angeldancer68 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It The Alcohol speaking from him guys don't really mean what they say when they are totally wasted with their ex gf and forget I know how it feels though... believe me
2006-12-21 22:21:53 · answer #7 · answered by sexygirl4adam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should. If you don't he'll never know how you feel. He's not a mind reader.
2006-12-21 22:29:03 · answer #8 · answered by purplepennyduck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if you keep it bottled up inside it can hurt you and the other person. break up with him
2006-12-21 22:23:44 · answer #9 · answered by kierra is too fine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might have chnged cuz he seemed truely sinceere in his apologe tell i think he really does like u
2006-12-21 22:20:38 · answer #10 · answered by na 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋