2006-12-21 14:08:38 · 38 answers · asked by Ottie H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
dont worry about it, it's your close friends daughters wedding not your friends so, they are not obligated in any way to invite there parents friends.
2006-12-21 14:10:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how you must be feeling. Your feelings are extremely hurt....right?
Is your close friends daughter paying for the wedding herself? or is your close friend paying for the wedding?
What kind of wedding are they having? Small & just immediate family with only the bride and groom's close friends? or a big blow out? Do you know anyone who has received an invitation?
When you talk to your friend does she talk about the wedding a lot?
Maybe yours got lost. Maybe since you are such good friends, she assumes that you will be there and didn't feel an invitation was needed. Invitations are quite expensive, then add on the postage.
It seems very odd that you wouldn't get invited.
My only suggestion is to talk to her about the wedding plans. Ask things like...
How are the wedding plans going?
How many people are being invited?
Have the invitations been sent out yet?
Let her answer. If she says the invites have been sent and because this is obviously bothering you...just mention to her that you didn't receive one. Then hesitate a moment. Watch her face for her reaction. Give her a moment to answer you. If she doesn't answer immediately, starts babbling or changing the subject or starts making excuses on why you weren't invited, interrupt her and say..."oh I was only asking because I wanted to get them a small wedding gift."
If you and your friend truly are that close, I can't imagine her not inviting you unless it is going to be a small, family only wedding.
On that same note...if you guys are that close, you should feel comfortable coming right out and telling her that your feelings are hurt by not being invited. That's what friends do. Our closest friends are the ones in life we feel the most comfortable with and can say anything to without any fears.
Even if you aren't invited...because you feel so close to the mother of the bride...you should buy the couple a wedding gift and be happy for them.
2006-12-21 14:53:50 · answer #2 · answered by Riviera_ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Then don't go. Just wish the couple well. It's your friend's daughter getting married, she probably only invited her close friends over. Think about how you'll save money by not getting her a nice wedding present.
2006-12-21 14:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by Andrea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't take it personally.
I'm not inviting any of my mother's friends to my wedding. Yes, I've known some of them longer than I've known any of my guests, and I appreciate all the support they have offer my mother through the years. But, fact is, they are her friends and not mine, and I can't afford to invite everyone. I'd also feel really ackward having an intimate affair witnessed by someone who I would never discuss my private affairs with.
Personally, if I were you, I wouldn't sent a gift or make a deal out of it in any way at all. You'll just guilt-trip the bride, who is probably stressed enough as it is. Talk politely to the mother of the bride if she brings the issue up, but otherwise just carry on as usual.
2006-12-22 09:25:37 · answer #4 · answered by Alarya 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do anything. It's one thing to be close friends to someone and not get an invite. It's another thing not to get an invite to their child's wedding. There might be different reasons as to why this occurred, and I'm sure it has nothing to do with you. If they were limited to space, they may have had to start cutting some people. If you were close to the parents and not the couple, the couple might have kept friends of theirs who they are close with as opposed close friends of the parents. I know that my fiance and I are dealing with the guest list and trying to balance the number of seats with our family, our friends, and friends of our parents. It's hard. If you are really bothered by it, perhaps talk to your friends. I'm sure they could explain everything and tell you what the reason behind it was. I'm sure it had nothing to do with you as some other reason. I hope this helps.
2006-12-21 16:32:25 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Generally the bride and groom invite their friends and families, unless you were "godparent" to this young lady or a major influencing factor of her life then they probably didn't think about it. Most times people have limited amount of people they can invite, I could only invite 30 to my wedding, that is all that was allowed in the small chapel I had my wedding in, after family that number was filled. I'd still get them something nice and wish them well.
2006-12-21 14:42:33 · answer #6 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't do anything...their choice to not invite you could have been for a number of reasons with cost being the top one. If it was only in their budget to invite X number of people, then it might end up being a small wedding. Don't feel like you were left out because they didn't want you there...it is most likely financial.
2006-12-21 14:16:55 · answer #7 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either you were not that close, or it is a very small family wedding or they did not want you to send a gift because they knew you could not go. Be thankful, don't say anything.....and do not send a gift! Answer: Do nothing and don't ask questions to people you think might be going. NOTHING .....to anyone. Set still and eventually the "close friend" will say something, because they can't understand why you have not whined about it! Cheer up, you are lucky!
2006-12-21 14:16:33 · answer #8 · answered by Marley 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can understand how puzzled you are about not being invited.
Buy a small gift for the daughter (just a little something) and take it to your friend. She is bound to say something about why you were not invited.
Go to the church and be part of the congregation even though you aren't invited to go to the reception afterwards. Lots of people do that.
2006-12-21 20:31:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You get over it. Maybe your friend can't afford to invite everyone. Traditionally the guests are either close friends of the BRIDE or groom or relatives. You are neither. Just dont mention talk about it to her. And guess what? She may not consider you a close friend.
2006-12-21 16:23:15 · answer #10 · answered by Educated 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the fact, don't ask. It might be a small wedding, but it could also be an oversight or the invite got lost in the mail.
I would casually ask if you could send a wedding present and wait for their reaction. If they have send you one, they'll be asking you why? And if not they might give you an explanation as to why you didn't get one.
2006-12-21 14:18:56 · answer #11 · answered by Mightymo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋