who else gets yelled at for helping people besides me?

Question

it often happens by the person I am trying to help or do something nice for. It's a really ugly feeling.

Answer 1

I read some of the previous answers to this question.

The average person has no medical training what so ever, sad to say.

It is a matter of record that people do the wrong things in attempting to help people. They move unconscious people and find out later, that they caused a spinal injury.

Even Physicians are reluctant to assist an injured person, because they can be sued. The Good Samaritan law went out the window years ago. Town Police cars are prohibited from transporting an injured person, because they not an ambulance and can not care for the injured person properly.

There are numerous statistics to prove that most people make a situation worse by interfering. A domestic dispute is a perfect example....You attempt to intervene and the complete Family attracts you. They will say that you made the situation worse.

Example: You see a child being attacked by a Pit bull.....simple answer here....You kill the dog to save the child....take your chances on being sued by the dog owner.

For the person who interfered with the alleged Suicide attempt...You may have used excessive force in preventing the alleged suicide attempt.

The bottom line is: Observe...then react and intervene and take your chances that you did the correct thing. The Legal ruling is....One you touch the person, you now become a part of the problem and not always the right solution.

My daughter witnessed a theift from a UPS truck....she was brought to the police station five times to view Mug shots and had to identify the Bad guy out of a line up....took a year to put the man away.....at great risk to my daughters safety...The Man was a gang leader and was looking for drugs in the UPS Truck.

Answer 2

Pay attention to that ugly feeling. You describe a function. A function is like a seesaw. You go up, he goes down. He goes up, you go down. You are connected. Some people can form more wholesome functions than can other people. In that case, it is left to those who can form more wholesome functions to match the vision of the other person on the seesaw. That ugly feeling that we get when we engage with someone else who is not able to seesaw with us in our more wholesome way, is about our disappointment in never getting to seesaw with a socially compatible partner. That ugly feeling means you are hungry for more constructive, forward-moving engagements with people. Seek them out. Continue to help people, but on their level and do not expect that they will be as wholesome or supportive to you in return. In health care, that is called a "therapeutic relationship". We lend support to someone who is suffering and we do not expect the poor soul to support us in return. For example, we may help a coyote get unstuck from a fence, but understand that it is frightened and wild and may very likely bite us in the process. Anyone who yells in emotional outburst is suffering somehow someway.

Answer 3

I do. I saved a man who tryed taking his own life. In doing so, I broke 2 of his ribs, i will not say how, and he sued me for it. I feel terrible, even though I know that i did the right thing. I hope someday that man feels the same way.

Answer 4

Been there all too often, people just put up emotional walls because they don't want to be let down or trust any one so they fail to realize and see when some one is trying to help with them with pure intentions.

Answer 5

There are often times when people try to do things for me that they've decided are helpful but aren't, which in fact become a hindrance to me. If someone truly wishes to be helpful to me, then they should find out from me what will be helpful. Otherwise they aren't doing the things for me but rather for themselves.

It doesn't matter what you tell yourself your intention is, it's the end result that matters. Personally, I'm sick of people screwing up my life because they want to try to feel good about themselves.

Answer 6

Wow I feel better!! I thought it was just me!! No really I thought I was a freak . That some how I had misread peoples signals. That maybe when they said they were in pain and wanted help .... that they actually in deed wanted someone to say something encouraging to them . Then Like an idiot I do and ''blame"!! they take my head off. Thanks so much for your question. I feel sooooo much better. Great question. By the way ,please don't stop. You will run across someone who needs you. Like ME!!

Answer 7

YEAH I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN AND IF YOU EVER ASK A QUESTION LIKE THIS AGAIN WHY i DONT KNOW HOW i WILL REACT, i MAY USE WORDS WE'LL BOTH HAVE TO LOOK UP. seriously dude I would not worry about it. I mean after all its not like they can knock on your door and beat the crap out of you (HEY YA WANT THIS GUYS ADRESS? I SAY WE GO BEAT HIM UP) sorry I dont know why that keeps happening any way just keep answering to the best of your abilitiy peace brother

Answer 8

if your an engineer and its job related, i can understand why. otherwise life is full of those things. im to the point where id rather kick an old persons walker away from them than help them cross the street.