Is it jealousy?

Question

I have a boyfriend who I am in love with.. But I still feel jealous over an ex... I don't want to be with him or anything but things never worked out between us and we still have amazing chemistry and it just suprised me how things never worked out for us because I always thought they would eventually. So I got over him a while ago and fell in love over the summer with an amazing guy who's been in my life now for 4 yrs and I love him to death but now that this ex is dating another girl and in love with her I feel twinges of jealousy thinking why couldn't that be me? I feel horrible. How do I stop being jealous and am I a horrible person I feel like I am cheating on my boyfriend but only in thoughts, not in action. Is this stupid?

Answer 1

in a way you are cheating on him, emotionally. you must still have feeling bout your ex, otherwise jealousy wouldnt be a problem. thats why you are feeling guilty. whatever you do though, dont tell your boyfriend unless you wnat an argument. you have to just move on and try to put your ex out of you mind. you are happy now with your boyfriend, keep reminding yourself that.

Answer 2

I'm not sure I agree with Marc V.

It seems to me that part of developing a good relationship is to keep the lines of communication open, even to the point where talking about "really difficult subjects" are still possible. I certainly wouldn't advise dwelling on it, but your boyfriend might appreciate knowing that you are being open and honest about your thoughts. Whether you should do anything more than talk about it, probably not, but it might just be good to get it off your chest with your current boyfriend so at least he will kinow why you might be "holding back" if he perceives that you are.

My advice: Don't try to live your life in the past. What was was, and what will be will be because you make it so. Make the best of it.

I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

why? he is not jelousy cause you got love again.. you should stop..