I do not understand why he has to be so darn hateful! It's been 4 months since we broke up, yes, I made him mad and he said he's never to be my friend again, but come on. Everything I did before he loved, now he looks at me with digust evrytime. (Unfortunatley we work together so I'm stuck with him right now- we are both teachers together) I've said I'm sorry, I've never treated him poorly, I've tried to talk to him, he just replied, "That's how I roll". WTH?! (I called him in the middle of the night & got him in trouble w/gal he apparently liked more than me!) I don't want him anymore- I just want to be ok at work! He is awful! And I'm tryign to be tough skinned but he does things on purpose just to hurt me all the time. WHY?? They are still together so why can't he just let it go and forgive me? She obviously forgave him!! Guys out there.... what is up????
2006-12-21 13:49:47 · 25 answers · asked by littledreamergirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he feels somewhat embarrassed and he's trying to make himself feel like you really screwed up. ehhh its so hard to explain. its like this. he got shut out and now he feels like hes gotta prove that he was good enough and that the reason you dumped him was your fault. itll get better after they break up or get married. just ignore him completely and he'll stop being so egotistic er whatever that one word is. dont stress, christmas break will be nice
2006-12-21 13:54:10 · answer #1 · answered by slightly confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's upset things didn't go the way he wanted them to. Some people are like that and they carry it for YEARS because someone ruined their perfect little world once apon a time.
I say people...because females do it too. I don't know how many times I've had ex's treat me like that and they'll keep doing it just because it makes them feel better to get revenge.
One time it got so bad I finally had to confront the person if they wanted it or not. I said, Fine you win! Cease fire! What will it take to get you to drop it? I'm sick of this! You want a sorry? Alright!...and just let into them about how this has got to stop some how.
2006-12-21 13:59:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy thinks the guy you are talking about is a jerk, plain and simple. "That's how I roll!"? Give me a break! The question is what to do about it.
As for being okay at work, have a discussion with your supervisor and see what kind of things you can work out. Its probably not productive for your employer to have two people working for them that can't get along with each other for whatever reason. Most employers have policies with regards to getting involved with people if one is in a supervisory position over another, and some have policies with regard to being professional equals. You'll want to inquire about it, and possibly file a harrassment claim if he is really bothering you at work. That should get somebody's attention, at least.
I hope it works out for you.
2006-12-21 13:57:18 · answer #3 · answered by G A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From personal experience I have found the more horrible they treat us after the break up is because they have some other female waiting in the wings for them. They never would admit to that, but that's how it has been for me in the past. Or they are friends right after the break up and when they find someone new, they treat us like dirt.
2006-12-21 13:54:15 · answer #4 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because they have been hurt and they just do not want what went wrong in the last relationship to happen all over again. They guard their self from being hurt they do not want to let their guards down. Don't blame the guy blame the girl that was with him before you.
2006-12-21 13:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by jonzie007/babygirljones/deb/debb 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of al not all guys are like that and second of all this guy you dated is just a jerk and you need to just leave it alone and if you give him some space then maybe he'll come around and want to be friends but if he doesn't then he's not worth your friendship. My exboyfriend never did that to me when we broke up he was so sweet and we became friends so I know not all guys are jerks after the break up. Just give him some space and maybe he'll come around but if not then he's not worth your time even as friendship.
2006-12-21 13:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's called a big EGO and some guys can't get past it. You need to ignore him, act like he doesn't exist. Just because you see him at school doesn't mean you have to make eye contact or even acknowledge his existence. Move on and stop worrying about it so much. Enjoy your new found freedom.
2006-12-21 13:52:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Male ego, dear, male ego. You hurt his ego. Another thing that is different about men. We don't care about being friends after a break up. It is better to be an enemy than a man in the "friend zone".
2006-12-21 13:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who knows. Maybe he's mad b/c he still wanted you and he's using the new girl as a jelousy-creater or something stupid like that. Guys are complicated in their own way, but he still doesn't have to be a jerk around you.
2006-12-21 13:53:13 · answer #9 · answered by Synyster 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It skill which you're able to look warm, yet which you're able to maximum possibly be a jerk and that they could destroy up with you. Tone down your " im a fifteen out of 10" mindset, and supply up being so self-absorbed.
2016-11-28 03:09:18 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋