Is my daughter ready for underwear?

Question

I don't want to say her age because that tends to persuade people to a particular answer. She could be 18 months and she could be anywhere to 38 months. She doesn't like to wear a dirty diaper anymore. She tries to go to the bathroom sometimes, but only when she wants to. When I do let her go around without a diaper, she will go on the floor and it doesn't bother her. Should I continue to do it the way she wants to on a sometimes basis? Or, should I force it and put underwear on her?

Answer 1

No need to rush your daughter to pottytrain, however she sounds like she's ready for consistency. If possible take her every 15-30 minutes to the potty. If you can buy a book on potty time for you to read to your child. Also buy a pair of undies in her favorite cartoon character as an incentive to becoming a big girl and using the potty.

Make sure you reward her with praise when she does potty and encourage when she doesn't

Answer 2

let her do it on the "sometimes basis" but make realize at the same time what a good or big girl she is when she does use the potty and that underwear cool. Reward her for the accomplishment with something she will be excited about and make her want to start using it on an "all the time basis.".
Our daughter just turned 30 months and has been using the potty consistently for three weeks now. We went through what you mentioned for a couple months and we kept putting diapers back on but realized the only way to succed was not let her wear her diaper any more at all. Now she doesn't even wet the bed she will hold it or wake up and go at night. Refer to the book "what to expect the toddler years" It has many familiar circumstances and is a very helpful book for us. just try not to be to harsh if she does have accidents as it may scare her or make her not want to use the potty

Answer 3

Don't they have something like pull up diapers that kids can pull up and down like underwear but catch "mistakes". I think she's ready for that.

In my opinion, that going on the floor is laziness and some demand could be made on her in that respect. Other than a little sternness on that part, I think you should ask her...do you want to wear a diaper or grown up underware? "If you wear grown up underwear, you have to go to the bathroom even when you don't want to because big girls don't go to the bathroom on the floor." I think you could let her choose...diaper, pull up diaper or grown up underwear. Show her each kind and explain what you have to do to wear that particular item...I'll bet she will get it.

I really think giving kids a choice and some autonomy is a good thing...I like what that woman said about taking her to the store and letting her pick out her choice of diapers, pull ups or underwear. When she make a choice and makes a decision, I think she will do what is necessary but will rebell if someone tries to make her...however old she is she is very close to terrible twos and forcing any issue will only get you more trouble.

Answer 4

She's ready when she wakes up from nap and bed time dry, if she can go hours without wetting or dirtying a diaper.

Personally I think the whole thing of letting her walk around with nothing on and letting her go on the floor is gross and not sanitary for the house.

Try pull-ups or if you go with undies I'd get the plasitc over pants so if she does other stuff then pee it's not a huge mess to clean up, also try a reward system...get mini M&M's or those little stickers, for every time she just tries then she get's one, if she actually goes then she get's two.

I'd stop the letting her go where ever she wants to go in the house, she needs to learn that you potty in the potty not in the middle of the floor.

Remember this is something she can control, she can hold it if she wants. It's all about control. If you are going to continute and try potty train her, just remmeber she's learning the "feel" of needing to go, so if she asks to go every five seconds don't get angry if it's "bugging" you. She needs to know that you are supporting her, when she tries make a big deal about it, when she actually goes in the potty make a even bigger deal, let her know you're very proud of her.

Good Luck!

Answer 5

When I was potty training my daughter who was 18 months when we started and 2.5 by the time we got it down pat (even at night and in the car) here's what we did. I let her run around the house in panties only. when she would go (on the floor) I'd say "uh-oh hurry hurry we have to get to the potty to be a big girl" and we would both sit on the potty. Even if she didn't have anything left we'd still sit there for a few minutes. When I needed to go we'd sing our "potty song" and cha cha into the bathroom and she would sit on her potty while I went. Afterwards I would look down into the toilet, feign excitement and say "wow I pottied, i'm such a big girl, now i get a cookie" After the cookie incentive kicked in and she started trying to make it to the potty (dribbling all the way down the hall) things progressed quicker. One night while I was putting her pull up on she asked if she could sleep in her panties so i reluctantly let her fully expecting to have a huge mess in the morning. However, when she woke up she was completely dry and went right to the potty. So, the point is, they need a bit of nudging and instruction but ultimately with something so personal you really have to give them a bit of room to do it at their own pace and as long as they're making progress, that's what counts.

Answer 6

Try those new "pullups" first. Sometimes putting on pretty girl underwear and making a big deal about being grownup, makes them feel special. It sounds like she is showing signs of wanting to be toilet trained. If she has accidents, don't make a big deal out of it. Put her back into Pull ups for a day and try again. I'm glad you didn't include her age, because age is not a big factor...when they are ready, they are ready...be it 18 months or 4. Girls train faster than boys...their bladders hold more.

Answer 7

My 3 yr old would go potty sometimes but I noticed that if she had a pull up on that she would most likely go in that so she wouldn't have to stop what she was doing. To finally get her potty trained and ready for big girl panties I just stopped using pull ups except for bed time. So far it has worked! Only a couple of accidents!

Answer 8

you really need to stick with it. if you let her keep doing that it will take forever to get her trained. with my first daughter i would have her come in the bathroom with me and do my business and then sit her on the potty, you might have to make a few grunting noises i worked for me , and my daughter took right to it she was trained the same month she turned 2.
my 2nd daughter was a very different story. i didn't have to go to work with the first one. so i wasn't there as much with the 2nd one. and i didn't stick with it. i would take the diapers away on the weekend and than during the week i would get tired and give them back. so make sure you stick to your guns , ooh and one more thing she is the only one that knows when its time

Answer 9

I would try underwear. Back when there were not disposable diapers babies were potty trained at age 1. I think any age is good!! :) Try a reward system when she does go on the potty. A little toy or a few M & M's.

Answer 10

My daughter is doing the same thing right now. I found out then when I put underware on her she knows when she goes, she tells me that she is wet. Also when is is wearing underware she is apt to go to the potty. But she is also interested in wearing underware, I would say to give it a try it a try it wont hurt anything. If you get her underpants and she doesnt want to wear them you can always save them!!! Good Luck