I have repeatedly read Christians say that homosexuality is unnatural.
Well, homosexuality is the only natural sexuality for me. Attempts in my youth to try heterosexuality were entirely hideous. It felt like forcing myself to eat maggots.
After coming out, I spent almost 12 years with the man of my dreams until he died of cancer. We were monogamous, HIV negative, and deeply in love in a way that to us felt entirely natural.
How can you possibly know what is natural for everyone? Why would you have gay men like me reject the only capacity for intimate love that we have?
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2006-12-21 13:39:11 · 33 answers · asked by NHBaritone 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I am a Christian, but do not agree with much of the "dogma" that is taught. My son is gay, and he is a joy, good natured, compassionate, understanding. He is the way God made him, as you are the way God made you. People are lucky when they find a person that they love and that loves them, why would anyone judge that a sin? I know that you have taken a lot of abuse, and have been the target of much hatred. My God, however, says that we should "love one another", and also to "do unto others as you would have them do unto you." There is no room for hatred and bigotry there. God bless you.
2006-12-21 18:08:12 · answer #1 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, its not for me to say that homosexuality is wrong. I know the bible may state that it is, but I was told by a spiritual person, and I also believe this to be true, that things were added to the bible that are not entirely true just to please the kings back in those days. Who is to say that what the bible says is entirely accurate anyways? Back then, everything had to be hand written, someone could have decided to change a few things also, or omit things as well. I believe in God, and everything He can do, I also believe that if your homosexual that its not a choice, just as being heterosexual. You cannot help who your attracted too. Im a female, I love guys, I am only attracted to guys. God is the one who created the soul, who created your body, He made you who you are for a reason. If homosexuality is so wrong, then I dont think He would have made you that way. I guess what Im trying to say is, even though God gives free will, I dont think being homsexual is a matter of free will. As much as people have shown hatred toward homosexuals, wouldnt you think that if they could just snap their fingers and say Im straight, and no longer attracted to the same sex, just so they wouldnt have to put up with all the hatred, and bigotry there is, do you think they would? I dont have all answers, only God does. The only thing I can really say is to pray on it, and if you feel that God says it is ok, then who cares what everyone else thinks, besides, He is the only one you really have to answer to in the end.
2006-12-21 13:50:37 · answer #2 · answered by ang 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For many people, sexuality is a very frightening phenomenon. It embraces our deepest desires and our darkest fears. It can be a way of affirming our shared humanity, or it can be a way of denying the personhood of another.
I think some people's phobia about homosexuality comes down to a lack of imagination. I think some people have genuine difficulty grasping the fact that another person can have different ways of feeling and perceiving than what they do. The reasons people reject this imagination are complex, but include fear of their own deeper feelings and a need to identify with social groups and ideologies.
But without that imagination there is no empathy, and without empathy there is no love.
If you have love, be glad. It's a good thing.
2006-12-21 15:06:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Pardon me for saying so but I believe if God intended homosexuality, instead of heterosexuality, to prevail naturally, He would have created another Man, and not Eve, a woman, instead. That is how I know homosexuality is not natural. By the way, I also believe that you and your the other half would not have existed if not for the existence of both your respective mothers. Imagine a world in which all men are gays, that world will likely meet a natural death. There will then not be any debate on gays anymore.
2006-12-21 13:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by Alfretz T 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear Friend,
I know your pain. I grew up in a Christian home and was always taught that homosexuality was not only un-natural, but also sinful. I have sense re-educated myself about this matter and have found that the verses in the Bible that Christians claim condemn homosexuality are actually taken out of context and culture or are not even speaking about homosexuality at all.
Homosexuality in Biblical times did not exist as you knew it with your partner of 12 years. Homosexual activity in biblical times were basically just practiced by temple prostitutes - certainly not what you would consider yourself. The love you shared with your partner was just as much love as any straight couple's love and no one with any common sense could argue with that, whether or not they believe homosexuality is a sin or not. Love is love. And I have never understood logically how God could be against that. Until I figured out that He is not - instead uniformed Christians who have been spoon-fed the Bible are - Christians who have never studied the Bible from a historical perspective or who have never saught out the true translation of the words in the Bible. (It wasn't written in English!)
How would you feel if you found the word IPOD in the Bible? You would laugh right? Why? Because IPODs didn't exist back then. So then how can the word "homosexual" be in the Bible when what you shared with your partner did not happen back then? Temple prostitutes engaging in lustful man on man sex acts to appease gods, or men sleeping with young boys dressed up as women as part of pagan rituals --- that is NOT homosexuality as we know it today, but it is the closest thing they had back in ancient times. The only reason the Bible says "homosexuality" in certain verses is because what should have been translated to say "pedastry" or "temple prostitution" was instead improperly translated to "homosexuality" (in biased fashion) MANY years later. So...all that to say, the Bible has nothing to say about the love you shared with your partner for 12 years. Only uniformed Christians do.
Please do not allow the hate and hostility of some Christians get you down. I would recommend you check out ecwr.org to meet gay Christians who will accept you as you are with open arms. You can also go to soulforce.org
God bless you.
2006-12-21 14:00:23 · answer #5 · answered by Kwik Wit 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the scripture warns against same sex behavior because it causes several diseases at least one of which is often incurable to this day. That would be prostititis. Also TMJ is the result of another type of man on man behavior. The body was not made for these expressions. No reason you could not have had all that you describe without commiting any type of sodomy. No doubt one those could be avoided by using a condom today, but don't you think perhaps there are other reason that you may not be aware of yet. I know when I have rationalized that I could do this or that because it was different today than then. I later found I did not know as much as I thought.
Recent studies of identical twins where one was a same sex person, point to a trauma in the womb that may be the cause. I myself do not condemn you but I do advise that you cease the practice and ask forgiveness. Not because you believe you did something wrong but for having pride and assuming you know better than what is taught in scripture. I do not see practicing same sex behavior as any different from one who gossips rails or whispers. Just stop and go on.
2006-12-21 13:53:13 · answer #6 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First, I am sorry your friend died. Secondly, I like your perspective. I am not Gay but my sister is and she said she knew from a very early age that she was "different". She tried to be straight and got married and had two wonderful kids during which her husband divorced her and she came out. She and her partner at the time did a wonderful job raising her son and daughter.
My opinon is that a great many so called Christians don't have a clue about the realities of life. I don't think that a person's sexuality should BE an issue but it so often is and I believe that you DO have to follow the path that is right for you and that you shouldn't have to be judged for it. Everyone is different. If we only have one life (or if we only remember one) then we all deserve to be as happy as we can by causing a minimum amount of pain for those around us.
Peace to you and thank you for sharing!
2006-12-21 13:49:31 · answer #7 · answered by AKA FrogButt 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
We all have our crosses to bare and yours is a difficult one and is a great challenge. For some it is drugs, others its alcohol or some sexual perversions. You my friend are called to chastity just like a priest. The problem many face is they try to do this alone which you know is nearly impossible. However By the Grace of God all things are possible. You would have to transcend yourself to him totally and it will work. That's if you want to live Gods way and leave your selfish passions. I know its difficult but I also know that God is tougher then any problem even if it seems that it is built into nature. A greater love for God
will help you Because he really does love you just not your lifestyle. To make amends you would have to get Baptized which will wash away all the mortal sins and the punishments due to them. From there I would recommend that you begin to KNOW, LOVE, AND SERVE GOD. That is the purpose for all human souls. May God love you and good luck
2006-12-21 14:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by Gods child 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in many cases homosexuality is correlated with highly immoral behaviour exhibited against the person. The question is did this happen to you? That's the psychology question in the matter.
Insomuch as we do not know the answer to you question, I cannot answer in any other way than I have.
Also, as a moral issue, however, I would offer that it does our children and society greater justice to leave marriage as a man and a woman.
I am glad that you enjoyed 12 years of love.
Merry Christmas.
2006-12-21 13:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by BigPappa 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It always puzzles me this "unnatural" nonsense.
Look to nature - dogs bonk each other - as do Tom cats if there are no females around. Some animals (one a species of ape - the Bonobo) are almost ALL bisexual.
Most animals just "do what seem like fun at the time" - it is only humans which have such hangups - and only certain cultures which have them too.
Just as the bible suggests farmers who grow two crops in the same field should be burned to death (leviticus), it also reckons blokes (no mention of women) who have fun with each other are "an abomination" - mind you eating shellfish is an "abomination" too.
The only sex that is unnatural, is that which cannot be done.
2006-12-21 13:45:23 · answer #10 · answered by Mark T 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋