My bf is the best thing that has ever happened to me. He is so sweet, funny, adorable. But our parents hate eachother! They don't know we are dating, but it is getting so hard to escape with him everynight, and every day the similarities to romeo and juliet grow more common. And, to top it all off, my arch nemisis(his friend) is always flirting with him. She hooks arms with him whenever I am around, and always has to include herself in our conversations or dates. I'm going to lose him pretty soon because of her and my family! It isn't fair, I finally found the perfect boyfriend, and everyone has to take him from me! I'm almost in tears everyday now because of her flirting, and having to listen to my family trash talk him and his family! Please, Help!
2006-12-21 13:35:04 · 5 answers · asked by Jade Skye 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dont be so negtive.. u dont know whats gona happen...just trust him ans love and i am sure everthing will work out for you...
2006-12-21 13:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by Boss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! What drama!!! You have some options here: keep everything the way it is and you will run yourself down with all of this stress or you can talk to him about telling the truth to everyone and deal with the consequences.
Let's examine a few things though. First of all, the boyfriend is the best thing that ever happened to you?? How old are you? If sounds like you are young. You have a lot to learn and a lot more in life to experience. What seems like a drop everything emergency to you now will be ridiculously insignificant to you in the future - looking back of course. Seond of all, you need to be the best thing that happens to you. You and all of your accomplishments. If you don't have any you better start focusing on you and start getting to know yourself. Don't be dependent on another guy for stuff. Thirdly, this guy may seem to be the greatest right now, but there are plenty out there. Boys are like busses, there is always another around the corner. Don't get so wrapped up in this guy and lose your identity. Fourth, nobody can "take away your boyfriend". He choses his actions. You and everyone else will not control that - influence maybe, but not control. He is going to do what he is going to do. So live your life for you and be happy. Lastly, no boy is worth your tears. Taking charge of situations like these and your emotions will give you more confidence in the future to better make decisions and handle things like this in the future.
2006-12-21 21:50:30 · answer #2 · answered by kryptychyck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and talk with your bf and tell him exactly how you feel about him, and then the two of you have to decide together what you want to do about it. Does he feel the same way about you that you feel about him? Maybe he is seeing this other girl now because he is also nervous about the family dischord between your two families and doesn't want to deal with it. I don't think thats the best thing to do, but he might think differently. There is, of course, one way to find out.
Wishing you the best of luck, and if you think this is Mr. Right, I certainly hope you get him!
2006-12-21 21:44:37 · answer #3 · answered by G A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I don't know what you can do about your two families. Maybe just tell them that you will respect their feelings, but inform them of your relationship, that he's not them, and you'd appreciate if they would just let everything work out at its own pace. But your boyfriend needs to let his "friend" know that's all she is and in the future will require an invitation before she hangs out with the two of you - when it's not a date! Good luck with this tough situation.
2006-12-21 21:45:26 · answer #4 · answered by Up an Evolutionary Tree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be bold and tell her off....tell your boyfriend how you feel and that he should not encourage her (unless he is deliberately doing it as well to shake you off??? Just a thought.....)...as for your parents....that's really difficult.....I wouldn't ask you to choose...you may regret it..... but then again who knows..your going out with your bf may patch things up between the parents someday...I've seen that happen....there is hope for change....there's always hope.....good luck!!
2006-12-21 21:46:55 · answer #5 · answered by Cream 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋