my pet died last year and I can't deal with it what should I do?

Question

it hard to deal with a lot of things and sometimes I can't help my family with things I try to be nice to them and my friends and it is hard for me to get along with people sometimes

but I got 7 pet and it still don't cheer me up

o one more thing it a dog and he died before chirstmas last year

Answer 1

First of all, I am sorry for your loss, as that is so very difficult to go through - animal lovers know what you are going through. You could volunteer at a pet shelter or rescue. They need people to walk, groom, and pet the animals so that they can regain trust. This may help you as well within yourself so that you can also regain what has been lost deep within. Think of the positive that you would be gaining and giving. I totally understand the feelings of loss when a pet dies, as I have gone through that too many times myself. I myself did what I am suggesting to you, and it did truly help. The other people there are usually in the same frame of mind as you are, and that also helped a lot as they understood what I was going through. Give it a try.
Also, you may want to talk to your doctor, as depression can set in from the loss of a pet as much as other devastating things, and it sounds as if you are indeed depressed. Best wishes.

Answer 2

My 12 year old cat Dillon died 2 years ago of Heart Failure. My first little girl (cat) Roxy died of Cancer 5 years earlier. My son was 2 when the first one died so the effect was minimal. But the second one hit us all very, very hard. My entire family was in a depressed state for about a month. My son could not sleep and I cried myself to sleep every night.

About a month after this death, I wondered into a local cat shelter. I began to feel better just looking at and holding some of the cats and kittens. I brought my wife and son back " just to look." We went back and fourth several times to see if we could warm up to the idea of someone replacing Dillon. We did not think it was possible as the grief was so deep. Well, we looked at that one special sleeping kitten...and fell in love.

I'm not saying that the grief goes away immediately. It doesn't. But time and the head-rubs of a new kitten helped lessen the pain. We still think about and talk about Dillon at least a few times a month. But my son sleeps soundly with "Rachel"curled up next to him and we love her just as much as Dillon. I never thought that would be possible. Think about getting a new pet. It really does help ease the pain.

Answer 3

I certainly know how you feel. I lost my 14-year old cat, Jake, this past summer and I feel lost with out him. He always sat in the chair with me, especially in the winter and it's been very lonesome this winter without him.
What might help you is to keep lots of pictures around, if you have them, so that you can look at your pet often. It will make you think about the good times you had together.
Do a scrapbook of pictures, or other momentos of your pet. Write out your feelings in a journal or on a sheet of nice paper and add it to the scrapbook.
Don't forget your pet, ever. They are a part of the family and it's not a fun thing to lose them. I hope your heart will heal soon. Your pet wouldn't want you to be miserable. Take care.

Answer 4

I can feel for you. Our family just lost our beloved cat as well. It is very hard at times when he isn't greeting us at the door when we come home, or begging for ham when we are making sandwiches or coming up and laying on our lap. The thing that gets us through it is the memories that we have of him. When we are having a difficult moment we tell funny stories to each other about something that he did or we look at old pictures. It always makes us feel better knowing that we had such a special animal in our lives. We also then think about how better off he is now as he is no longer in pain. We keep saying he is up in heaven eating as much ham as he wants. Talk to someone close to you about it as well and that might help. Try not to dwell to much on the fact that you lost him/her think about the great times you had while he/she was here.

I hope this helps!!!

Answer 5

What sort of animal? How did it die? I think you are suffering from more than standard grief. If you love animals, and want to have animals, its your duty to remember that they dont have a human life span. The tiny puppy, kitten, chick or foal you love today will be elderly and needing care long before you are.
Its hard for me to get along with people too, I think I understand where your coming from. Im not going to tell you to get help because 6 psychiatrists couldnt help me! You have to find your own worth, your own purpose for being here, plan out what you want to do, then do it. Its the only way to be happy, is to find it within yourself.

Answer 6

sry for you loss i know it sounds bad but get another pet to help take your mind of him/her.. when i was younger i got a dog and kitten near the same time .. i had them both for 13 years then lost then both on the same day this past feburary, i still cry when i think about them i miss them too but getting 2 puppys and a cat really helped a lot but some times the new ones will do things that remind you of things the old ones did... sry again and i hoped this helpd you :)

Answer 7

You could get another pet, that helps the feelings of the loss of another pet, but remember a new pet is a not your pet that died. Pets do wonderful things for us. I hope things get better for you.

Answer 8

i know exactly what your going through... try to volunteer at an animal shelter.. during those times when you feel you can't deal with you family or friends, go walk a dog and just sit somewhere and pet him/her.. trust me it helps.. this might sound weird but it also helps to just like talk to them and tell them why you are so distressed... eventually you might find a dog or cat you really get along with and love on your walks.. get that one! its nice to have a pet to talk to when there is no one else so my biggest advice would be to get another pet

Answer 9

I am a pet lover too, and I know the pain of loss.

Consider getting another pet and seeking help from a professional therapist. I have gone to one on several occasions and I find it helpful.

I am also medicated, which is nice.

Answer 10

Me I am a dog lover. I have suffered there losses over the years and I grieve for a bit and go look for another, I never forget them...But the next one is loved as much..Just like people and family the memory lives in my heart!