My Grandma passed away 18 months ago. Ever since then my Grandad has been (understandably) depressed. He's 82.
Well, he has made a friend and has asked if he can bring her to Christmas lunch.
I think this is wonderful. His 'friend' has given him a reason to get up in the morning and put a smile on his face.
However, my sister, whose house Christmas lunch is at, is unhappy about it. She says Christmas is 'just for family'.
She has told my mother her feelings, and now our mother doesnt know whether she should 'uninvite' Grandads friend.
What do you think? Is it too soon? Or does my sister need a kick up the bum?
2006-12-21 13:12:34 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Encourage your sister to let her come. Psychologists say that if one seeks remarriage quickly after their spouse dies it's actually a testament to how happily married they were. The widow(er) is so missing that happy companionship that they desire to have it again. Christmas is for family, for friends and for making them happy. That's why we celebrate and give gifts, because on Christmas mankind received the greatest gift. It's out of that place that we celebrate. Looking at it like that, it seem ridiculous to tell an 82 year old man he can not bring a special friend who has brought joy back into his life. Also, what happened to honoring elders??? At least 3 generations and they can't honor the eldest?
2006-12-21 13:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by parents2sons 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone in your family should be cheering and high fiving your grandfather!!! Your sister is being very narrow minded at this, the most beautiful time of the year. Just how happy would your grandfather be on Christmas Day without his lady friend at his side. Omitting her might cause more unpleantries than imaginable. Plus, where are the social graces here??? How in the world can you "uninvite" someone? Goodness, your family members need a wake up call to adult behavior.
2006-12-21 13:21:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good for Grandad, no one will ever replace your Grandma, but how wonderful for him he has found someone to do things with. At 82 he still needs someone to go to dinner with, chat with. I'm sure your sister doesn't take him out to eat or just chat. So she should be grateful .
2006-12-21 13:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your sister is having lunch at her house shes probably getting stressed over every little detail. All will be good once the actual shindig kicks off, tell her to hang in there for Grandpa.
2006-12-21 13:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by liddycaliente 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's rude to tell someone they are invited to an event and then tell them they are no longer welcome! If your sister has any love and respect for your grandfather, she will welcome his friend with open arms. If the woman is bringing him joy and happiness, who is your sister to try and take that away from him? Tell your mom she needs to get a backbone and stand up for your grandfather. If your sister has that much of a problem with it, change locations and have the lunch somewhere else where EVERYONE (including your sister) will be welcome. Good luck to you and Merry Christmas!
2006-12-21 13:21:29 · answer #5 · answered by creole woman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont think its too soon! Because Christmas is about opening hearts to everyone. And if it makes your' granfather happy then its up to him..ofcourse your sister has her opinion but she should respect others as well! And plus its your grandpas friend and he should make that desicion on who he wants to see on this Christmas:)
2006-12-21 13:18:25 · answer #6 · answered by that_model_girl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boo to your sister!
Your granddad is FINALLY happy and smiling. I think sis needs to realize that and let him come to dinner with his friend.
So, your sister needs a kick up the bum.
2006-12-22 02:52:47 · answer #7 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sister needs to be happy b/c sorry to say its good that your granddad has something to look forward to now b/c if he would of stayed in that state of mind he was basically just wasting away his self then your family would of losst another loved one so tell your sister to back off a little and let your grand pops be happy.
2006-12-21 13:21:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dad should be able to bring her. He's 82 years old and if this woman makes him happy... why not? I think it would sadden him to know your sister doesn't want her there.
2006-12-21 13:35:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sis need to understand lie most still go on and like you said this person give him a reason to go i think your sis needs help in dealing with the fact that your grandmother is not around
2006-12-21 13:23:36 · answer #10 · answered by 4ever 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋