Do I just move in with anyone that will just be around to keep mr company or do I try to become happy by myself ? I just don't see this happening though.
2006-12-21 13:01:15 · 26 answers · asked by Leigh J 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
buy a pet, cat or dog usually helps loneliness
2006-12-21 13:02:33 · answer #1 · answered by TC 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Id go to a counsiler/specialist and talk to them about your problems and see if there is anyway they can help you out. Next option try and find a man and once you have really attached yall move in together. Or try living on you own but dont stay home all the time get out and be with family and friends that way it takes your mind off of living alone for most of the day. Hopefully after awhile you will start liking living on your own being able to do whatever you want to do to it and everything because it is all yours. But if all else fails then I guess try living with someone that will keep you company. Hope this helps some.
2006-12-21 13:08:35 · answer #2 · answered by blazin_cripz_2006_0wner.sheena 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you CAN be happy by yourself. Sincerely. Just don't think of it as ALONE meaning LONELY. You could get a pet, but you could also try to appreciate that you are your own person. You don't answer to anyone. If you want to come home and take a hot bath and read a book in the tub, you can. You can go to the store and buy your favorite foods, rent a movie you really want to see, make yourself a nice dinner and watch your movie with no interruptions!
If I were you, I would embrace being by myself...because when you're not looking, THAT'S when someone will come along and you'll find your perfect mate. Believe me...living alone is MUCH better than living with someone you can barely stand. TREAT yourself! You're not lonely...you're just taking the time to do things to improve YOU! Take some classes...learn to play a musical instrument...learn to ice skate! What's stopping you?
2006-12-21 13:02:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa E 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
The exact same thing happened to me. After I broke up with my long term boyfriend that I was living with for 3 years I was suddenly living alone for the first time in my life. The best way to overcome this depression is to adapt to living by yourself and learning how to be happy by yourself without living with anyone else. You can still go out in public, hang out with friends, go out on dates and visit other people even if you live alone.
2006-12-21 13:50:05 · answer #4 · answered by Citygirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? I have the exact same situation. You can email me if you like & I'll tell you what to expect. It's not at all easy.
But another answer here was to get a pet, preferably a dog - that is an excellent suggestion! It's a definite - It is amazing at how much difference it makes. Honest!
Whatever you do, the worst thing is to get a roommate. Don't do it!
2006-12-21 13:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel like you can't be happy by yourself..then get a roommate or just spend a lot of time out with friends. Don't think about it too much and just keep busy. People sometime get depressed when they have nothing to do but be alone with their thoughts...besides people are social creatures and we need interaction.
I hope this helped.
Vicky
2006-12-21 13:05:16 · answer #6 · answered by Vicky A 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Loneliness generally visits all of us at one time or another in our lives and we wonder how to cure loneliness. Feelings of loneliness can occur at any time of the day or night and are most prevalent around holidays or special occasions. Loneliness is an intense feeling of being deserted or abandoned by everyone. If left untreated, loneliness can lead to other problems such as depression, feelings of uselessness, and lack of self-worth.
It is possible to ease your loneliness or even get rid of the feelings of loneliness altogether. All you need to do is get busy doing things that take your mind off of the problem.
Consider these tips on how to cure loneliness:
Keep Busy. If you are lonely, don't dwell on the fact. Get up and get out! Go somewhere where there are a lot of people. Don't worry if you don't know any of them; sometimes being around other people can help brighten your spirits. Other simple things you can do to keep busy are to join a club, take some classes at the YMCA, volunteer at a non-profit organization, or take up a hobby that requires mental concentration. The point is to find something that interests you and run with.
Get Involved. Your neighborhood and your church are two great places to start getting involved. On the surface this might sound like the same thing as keeping busy. Getting involved in something will require a little more time and lot more of your attention, but that is what you want. So commit yourself to some cause or charity that you feel passionate about. The more involved you get, the more people you will meet, the less and less loneliness will be an issue. Look around at the people you know who do not experience loneliness. Chances are, they are busy and involved people.
Help Other Lonely People. There are a lot of people out there like yourself: people who are lonely and don't know how to cope with their loneliness. If you look for those people and strive to help cure their loneliness, in the end you will also be helping yourself to cure your own loneliness.
See it for What it Is. You will need to start to view loneliness as a choice and not as a defined way of life. This means that you choose to be lonely when you do not really have to be lonely. Try being happy for a change and you will see the difference a smile will make. Just as feelings of loneliness breed more feelings of loneliness, feeling of happiness can bring about more feelings of happiness. If necessary, join a group that deals with feeling lonely. A group setting is designed to help you develop an optimistic attitude.
Change your Thought Pattern. I don't know why, but people who feel lonely and depressed tend to watch shows and read materials that reinforce their depressed mood. Are you listening to music about heartbroken people? Are you watching movies that require a box of tissues? What you need to do is change your way of thinking! Start listening to uplifting music, read inspirational writing -- such as poems or the Bible -- and start watching uplifting TV shows. All of these will help to change your negative thought patterns.
These are only some of the ways you can help to ease or eliminate your feelings of loneliness. There are others out there; all you have do is use your imagination. Also remember drugs and alcohol are not remedies for loneliness, they will only worsen the symptoms and ruin your physical health as well. No matter what you do to ease your loneliness, try to seek out remedies to loneliness that involve getting to know new people and making new friends. These are always the best way to change your thought patterns which will help you move on.
2006-12-21 13:13:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also live alone with the kids coming to visit from time to time. I just stay busy with hobbies and work or go out with friends. Maybe adopt a pet. I hope your ok, this time of year really sucks for me but i manage
2006-12-21 13:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by preciousmoments1962 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a purpose, a focus. When the mind is busy doing things, the mind doesn't have time for depression. Surrounding yourself with "just any man" will probably not bring you the happiness and contentment you seek. Better off getting yourself a pet or two. (if all else fails.......you can have me as a pet)
2006-12-21 13:07:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You must force yourself not to isolate. However, this does not mean that you should hook up with someone in the hopes of feeling better. After all, if you find someone who wants to be with you now, how are they going to feel when you begin to get better. Will they try to sabotage your better health so that you will stay with them and be depressed?
2006-12-21 13:05:00 · answer #10 · answered by maggiepirsq 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
how about a housemate to share the house and expenses. If its somebody you could eat with and see a movie, etc. it might help. There are roomate services some are very thorough in their screening, they match you up with compatible people.
2006-12-21 13:28:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋