Im dating this girl and her ex just wont leave us alone. He stops for a while then he call her up and break her down emotionally. And it hurts me seeing her like that and i really dont know what to do. She does have a kid by this guy thats why i kinda what us all to be friends. But for some reason i dont see it happening. So any advice?
2006-12-21 12:59:40 · 4 answers · asked by alan_hornet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, i deal with a similar situation, but on a much larger level. I am married to a man with three kids from a previous marriage and an ex-wife that won't quit. Anyway. first things first. If he still has the ability to break her down, she is still in love with him or has strong feelings for him. She may deny it now but it's true. Also, if the two of you are serious, he shouldn't be calling unless he is calling about arrangements for the child. So you have to demand ( in a non-agressive way) that an end be put to that. Also, she cannot be on the phone long enough for him to bother her. He gets a kick out of seeing her like that. Explain that she shouldn't even give hm the pleasure. I have a feeling that she is beautiful. she deserves more than to just be put down by an ex. Also, you deserve all of a person. Either all or none. Hope this helps.
2006-12-21 13:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by beautyzhername 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your in a tough one there.... the best thing i can say, is first talk to her, with the kid and all she can't exactly just cut off all contact, but she doesn't have to listen to him when he calls to break her down like that and she can tell him that its not ok to just stop by like that all the time especially when she is spending time with you, you could also talk to him, tho this can be difficult but either way he shouldn't be doing to her what he is doing....
2006-12-21 21:03:57 · answer #2 · answered by Justin M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very important that he has a plan time to see his son, . no just show up, he dose not have the right to interrupt your life. she no need to see him and she needs help to get over the manipulation of him.
2006-12-21 21:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by latina_y_sincera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she isn't over him yet. You should give her space and tell her to call you when she knows what she really wants.
2006-12-21 21:03:43 · answer #4 · answered by Fruit Cake Lady 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋