I went out with some buddies a few nights ago and ended up talking and "clicking" with this woman right away. We ended up kissing and next thing I know she jumps on me (we were sitting on my friends couch) ... and starts making out with me ... and then starts to head south!
Now I'm not complaining... it was nice at the time... but now I'm just not interested in anything more. I wonder where she's been and how many guys she's done that with, etc. She gave me oral sex without a condom. This woman was 32 years old and I met her only hours earlier at the bar with my buds. Whatever happened to waiting to get to know someone a little before going that far?
Do women really think that this type of behavior makes men want to date you?? It might sound bad but now I'm turned off by her because she wasn't a challenge. I feel bad... but that's how I honestly feel.
2006-12-21 12:47:51 · 23 answers · asked by Latin_Lvr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For all of you who are saying that "she just wanted sex"... WE DIDN'T HAVE SEX. SHE JUST GAVE ME ORAL SEX. I DIDN'T DO ANYTHING TO HER. So what could she have gotten out of that??
2006-12-21 12:58:50 · update #1
I have some girlfriends of mine that act that way. I've always noticed it's the most insecure ones who do this sort of thing. I think they're looking for a guy to make them feel good about themselves. But it never works because they always end up crying over the fact that "men are pigs". I think they have self-esteem issues. Any woman can get a man to be interested, momentarily... but it's another thing to keep him interested. Also... oral sex without a condom is just disgusting if you've just met the person. Sounds like you should go to the clinic to get tested. You're right! You don't know how many men she's done that too. I doubt you're the first. Yucky!
2006-12-21 13:04:40 · answer #1 · answered by Jenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Where were you in all this? In the heat of the moment? All it took was for you to decline her. That would have been the respectful thing to do. Maybe that is why you don't feel good about this now. She disrespected you as well. Am sure she regrets too. Talk to her. See how she felt about the situation. Ask her if she does that with all men she meets. If she can have sex with you in a matter of hours am sure she will not mind the question if she is honest. Something more is going on there that you are not seeing. And that maybe she isn't seeing either. If anything you two will have some kind of closure about this. And learn from it. Sounds like you both have learned already. The hard way. Communication is essential. I know is an unpleasant situation for you to deal with. But you need to own up as does she. Good luck.
2006-12-21 21:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she was just horny and likes to give oral sex. She used you. You had something she wanted a taste of. Especially since you mentioned you had been at the bar, if she was drunk, then she probably just needed a piece, and you were it. At 32, she knows that's not the way to start a serious relationship, so she wasn't trying to get you interested, she was fulfilling an oral craving.
2006-12-21 20:53:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is not the official Ambassador for Womankind.
She is just one person and everyone is different. Maybe she didn't want to start a relationship with you and just wanted a bit of fun, or maybe she has low self esteem and thought you'd like her for it.
But at 32 I think she was just out for a bit of fun. Maybe she thought you were too.
As a women I would say (and I think I speak for my fellow ladies here) we do know that moving that fast isn't going to be the start of anything beautiful in the long term.
2006-12-21 20:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I know what you mean! I've had girls do stuff like that to me - it's fun at the time, but then you think "how many other dudes has she done this to?".
Then you think to yourself, "God, what a slut!" and you run down to the Health Department Clinic to get tested! And you never call that girl again!
I don't know why some women are like that!
I knew one girl like that who told me that she'd been with 18 men and 1 woman - and she was actually suprised that I didn't want to date her!
Another girl who was like that once told me that she'd have guys come by her house at 1 in the morning while her kid was asleep and she'd run out, give them head in their car and then run back upstairs before her kid woke up - and she couldn't understand why I wouldn't want to date her either!
2006-12-21 20:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you just got done "Catagorizing" all women!! She's definately an exception to the "Rule"!!! I remember her types, when I was in "Highschool" and they also had a name for her types! Not all women are like she is! So, dont be afraid of all women now, PLEASE!!! Some of us are COMPLETELY opposite and men try to sudduce our types...... That was the problem I had, during my high school years, and afterwards! Men wanting only one thing, but thank-God I was taught Good-Morals..... And I'm sure their's many other women out there alot like myself, just be "Patient" you'll come across just the right girl... If you dont come off like your only after one thing, she'll be the careful type, and want to take things slow, but it takes time to know her, so you just need to respect her "Morals" and get to know her awhile..... And who knows you may even find her to be the Marrying type down the line, once you've gotten to know her awhile, you know?! Not all women are the same, in fact we're just like men, very different and unique in our own ways!! Good-Luck, shopping around, and "Happy Holidays, to you!!!" Smile!!!
2006-12-21 20:59:17 · answer #6 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she's a slut. That's gross. I'm all about oral sex, I'm definitely no prude, but I would NEVER, EVER, give oral sex to a man that I just met... especially without protection. Sounds like a classy lady. Yikes. Go get tested... hopefully she didn't give you anything.
2006-12-21 21:12:10 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think she really wanted to date you? No, she probably just wanted sex, or some fun. Men do this same thing. Who cares? At different times a girl wants different things, sometimes no strings attached sex, other times, a boyfriend. We know what to do to get each.
2006-12-21 20:51:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think that women who do move fast they do it because they think that is what the guy wants. They are insecure or they could just be the type of women who are looking to have some fun and don't care about the consequences.
2006-12-21 20:53:44 · answer #9 · answered by Adelaide V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever think maybe she was just looking for a little fun?
How many girls have you been with? Maybe she thought about that the next day aswell. If she actually wanted to date you, I'm sure she would have restrainted herself and got to know you better.
2006-12-21 20:52:06 · answer #10 · answered by thankgodformaryjane 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋