i was ok until i moved to the country then i became dark, rude, negetative and snobby (i cant help it )and i really dont know why im always being blamed for things and i know this sounds crazy but i have gotten so tried of crying and hating my self that ive concered cutting god i need help to get myself back to the way it was
2006-12-21 12:38:30 · 9 answers · asked by sarahperez1105 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
im a city girl but cant move because i still live with my parents(16yrs old) my cousin who was like my best friend died that same year
2006-12-21 12:45:12 · update #1
There are so many ways to go with this, and specifics like your age and the reasons for your move would help. But, here are some general suggestions.
Any change creates upset. Your routines are off. Your friends are far away. You are a stranger. You may not be sleeping well. If it's been less than a year since you moved, you may still be settling into your new environment.
All of your bad social behavior could just be a reaction to being the new kid in town. You may just be uncomfortable with strangers. You seem to be aware of your behavior, and that is a necessary step to changing it. You can help yourself by making a list of the kinds of antisocial things you do and when you do them. You might see a pattern. You might see some triggers. Just work those through in your head and the simple act of raising your awareness and discovering those connections could be enough to start making those behaviors go away.
You also have to explore the reasons for and your feelings about the mood in general. If you have some resentment about moving, or if it is associated with something stressful, you may be "displacing" your emotional upset. In other words, you aren't dealing with what is really bothering you, so you take it out on the people around you. Your internal misery is validated or rewarded by the rough way the world is treating you.
If you can't get through this on your own, find a psychological counselor and do some talk therapy. Even a few sessions can go a long way toward getting your old self back. And since your feelings may be part of something more serious, it's never a bad idea to turn to an outside professional.
2006-12-21 12:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by Tom M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you've taking the first step of emoting and accepting that you want to change. Now comes the work. Visualize how you want to be. What do you see? What kind of person are you. How do you walk, talk, act, laugh, etc.? Hold that vision in your mind's eye constantly and you will start to adapt the positive characteristics that will result in positive changes. It's also great to have a support network of friends you can lean on when times are tough. Seek out people who will listen, not neccesarily help, but just be there for you when you need to vent. Good Luck, sweetie!!!
2006-12-21 20:43:40 · answer #2 · answered by Twinki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you changed into a mess, it's proof this isn't permanent.
I've gone through darkness and in a way it prepares you for even more light. You may not be able to force a direction of your choosing right now... but life is always changing.
Don't resist or you'll just be frustrated. Instead... turn in a new direction and just go that way more and more every day... eventually you will arrive, and move beyond, what you want now.
2006-12-21 20:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by unseen_force_22 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you. Im asking because it may have nothing to do with the move. It could be your age. When I was a teen ager I hated everyone, everything and myself. Think about why your angry and you may be able to answer that your own self. Remember what you say you may not mean but others are always affected. Let people know you are human and you are not always going to be jolly.
2006-12-21 20:44:10 · answer #4 · answered by jss2ha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you gotten your hormones checked lately, with a blood test? Sounds like you could have an imbalance that's causing you to feel bad, especially if you feel both angry and depressed.
2006-12-21 20:40:36 · answer #5 · answered by Sabine É 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you have a chemical imbalance of serotonin.
See a shrink, perhaps? Talk to your family about better options?
2006-12-21 20:41:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's good though that you apparently know the reason for such a change. so why don't you go back to where you were and be cheerful once agian.
2006-12-21 20:41:50 · answer #7 · answered by maiax 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll make u laugh dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. call 1800 dont cut. plus try music and walking. pray. beliefnet.com and holisticonline.com helps. good luck.
2006-12-21 22:40:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know the feeling. add me on msn and we can talk. never know you may just need somone to talk to. billyjoebob14@hotmail.com my names Andy
2006-12-21 20:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋