I mean of course you love your children to death, but does being mom just not seem like what it should have been?
2006-12-21 12:26:13 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
No not at all... yes it can be tough and exhausting, but I enjoy it all. And I especially love seeing I make my son happy.
2006-12-21 12:28:15 · answer #1 · answered by m930 5 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I Love Being A Mommy. I Have A 2 year old Son And I Love Him To Death. I Am Now Pregnant With A Girl. And Love My Child To Death. I Love Being A mom. It May Be Hard At Times But Im Doing Okay.
2006-12-21 22:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it didnt turn out the way it does in the fairy tales. It has been the hardest most thankless task I have ever taken on. Oh I tried, I still try. Sometimes I cry because I dont think I can take it anymore. I love my kids of course, but I ended up being a single parent..things just dont always turn out the way you plan them. I guess it has taught me a few things. There are days I dont like it at all. My oldest is one of those 'challenging children'. Im glad hes almost 16 now. So very very glad!
But the alternative...being childless, growing old without any adult children, no grandchildren...being alone...dosent sound so good either. I guess then is when all the love we give our children comes back to us. It just takes a long long time. Im very close to my elderly mom now and speak to her every couple of days. Shes alone otherwise. She says Im her angel.
2006-12-21 23:16:06 · answer #3 · answered by paradox is interesting 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Motherhood is the most underappreciated and thankless task that can happen to any female in life -- and that is for sure.
Single Motherhood is even more thankless and definitely NOT appreciated -- and everyone judges you constantly -- making rude comments, ugly remarks, and trying to affect the self-esteem of the hard working single mom who has to fulfill multiple roles (including being the sole wage-earner).
That said -- yes, it is VERY Difficult to be a Mother -- and especially so when the children hit the teenage/young adult years -- the children at that stage are VERY abusive to their parents -- the angst, the swearing, the pushing and breaking of the rules, the times when they disrespect you and tell you not to be around when they are wanting to 'socialize' -- checking up and bringing them back to school when they do something stupid (like skipping class or trying to drop out), and wow -- the ways that they are influenced by their peers -- that just adds to the problem behaviors that a MOTHER has to deal with at that time.
Now with all that said -- I have to say that I definitely took Responsible Motherhood SERIOUSLY -- and raised my children to adulthood and they are (FINALLY) independent of me and I can start to De-Stress. It is just quite something to FINALLY see peace and quiet around me -- something that I've dreamed about for so many, many years .. and yes, I FINALLY have the pleasure of having peace and quiet in my home ... but it does NOT mean that I care any less about them (to the contrary -- I do care -- just that all MOMs dream about the far future when they will FINALLY be able to sit down for a while and get past those horrible TEEN angst and Raging Hormones years!
2006-12-21 20:45:36 · answer #4 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some days - no - I don't like it.
It was really hard when my kids were little.
It's harder now that I have teens.
Yes - we love our children - deeply!.
But it's true of anything, right. Wife, mother, sister, friend, career.
Maybe you just need a break. See a movie with a friend, go for a walk, get your nails done, take a craft or exercise class. Any of those work for me. :)
Merry Christmas!
a p.s. - My son will graduate from high school this coming June, and my daughter starts high school. I know in a few short years my job with them will be done - and I will have to adjust to being an empty nester...I am missing them already! But until then, it's 24/7 (but not like when they are babies!)...if you know what I mean!
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2006-12-21 20:31:36 · answer #5 · answered by what's up? 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I love my daughter to death and I would never wish to NOT have her. But I truly wish that I wish that I would have waited to have her. I adore her and love her to bits and pieces. I just don't have the same freedom that I had before her. I know that people are going to say that I should have taken preventative measures. I did. I was on birth control when I got pregnant. I don't believe in abortion (just personal), so I didn't do that. I didn't want to do adoption, and would I ever get a chance to be a mom after her? I love motherhood and I love my baby so so so much. I just wish that I would have waited to become a mother. To her, of course. I love my baby.
Hope this helps.
2006-12-21 20:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by Summer 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
of course.
my grandma left my mom and her sister when they were toddlers she was so fed up with the housewife and mother scene.
She loved them, but she needed a career. my grandparents divorced and once she got settled, my mom went to live with her. She still wasn't the greatest mom, according to my mother. But obviously anyone who can walk out on her family and then come back and get the kids is a pretty strong willed character. but she does love my mom and my aunt and it shows.
I don't know if I really like being a mom, but i wouldn't want to have the alternative, being childless. I have 5 kids, 3 girls and twin boys in that order.
it's really a thankless job a lot of the time, all that overtime and being on call 24 hrs a day.
my kids are older now and it's a relief that they are more independent and actually do stuff like make dinner!
I get to have some time to myself, now, you know, at say 1 AM , lol!
I guess what you want to know is does being a mom live up to the expectations? for some of us, no.
2006-12-21 20:38:47 · answer #7 · answered by Nancy K 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It really sounds like your tired and need a break! You need to get a sitter and go out and do something you enjoy. Mothers all get burnt out from time to time because it is a 24 hour job, and you do need a break and a little relaxation! Do you maybe have a friend that could sometimes just come over for a while so you could go out and get some fresh air, exercise, or go to a salon and pamper yourself a bit! Usually when you get home you can handle it so much better! Its better for you and your kids!
2006-12-21 20:34:09 · answer #8 · answered by autumn wolf 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Obviously there are, my sis's hubsbands mum had him when she was 15 and she pawned him off on her mother all the time....and yet now taht he's married she won't leave him alone and hates my sister with a passion. Huh go figure. Good example of why you should never become a teenage mum. Her son is an amazing guy but his mother is terrible.
2006-12-21 20:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Some moments, I wish that I were care free again but that doesn't last long. I love being a mom, but don't necessarily like it all the time, it's hard and difficult and worrying and no one told me all the horrid things that would happen, like being smeared with poo and stuff like that!
I love my Angel though, and realise that everything she is doing is because she is learning about life, but it's easy to forget when I'm rushed off my feet trying to sort a million things out at once, and she chooses that moment to stick to my legs!
Great question!
â¥Merry Christmasâ¥
2006-12-21 20:32:27 · answer #10 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Ja...the role of a mother has changed somewhat. It is not as cherished or respected as it was in the past. I sometimes wonder if you are right when I hear of all these parents who split up the family in divorces, remarry, and create constant upheaval for the kids. Sure, they love their kids, but shouldn't they sacrifice more for the kids? Instead of putting them in daycare under the charge of strangers, raise them yourself. If you can't spend the time of day with the kids you have created, what kind of true mother are you? It is much better to not have a car, and pay rent and see your kids, than to keep up with cars, mortgages, and hardly ever raise your children.
2006-12-21 20:50:09 · answer #11 · answered by Benvenuto 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋