so my ex-boyfriend and i are cool right well the other day he came to me and said he needed my help and i said with what he goes i think i am addicted agian see he just got out of lock up not to long ago for drugs and now i have no clue how to help him because i always told himthat i will help him no matter what and now he asked me to help him and i have no clue what to do and my boy friend is telling me to forget it and leave it alone but i can't i got to help him but i don't know how i can so plez tell me how to help him
2006-12-21 12:23:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The key word in your statement is EX. He is not your problem anymore! Go ahead and help him because he is going to use you and get money from you for his habit. And after that your present bf will dump you and you'll be stuck with an ex boyfriend who is addicted to drugs and you won't have any money. your boyfriend is right, leave it alone. not your problem anymore.
2006-12-21 12:31:58 · answer #1 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you can provide him with rehab there's not much else you can do. A person has to want to break the addiction themselves first of all. You can be his friend for mental support, but if he is not ready to help himself it will not be much good. My sister was addicted to meth for 20 years. No matter how much anyone tried to help her, she just would not quit until SHE decided to. It's mind over matter. You should tell him if he wants help that he will need to get into rehab. Do yourself a favor and don't get to pulled into that part of anyones life. He may not really be ready, and it could come in between you and your boyfriend. He's a big boy and should have some kind of idea what to do since he has already been locked up for drugs. I would imagine he's already had some type of counseling or been given an avenue for help, Be wary so that you don't get used. Usually drug addicts are very munipulative.
2006-12-21 12:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by C C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to make sure he gets rid of all the drugs he may have by flushing them and he needs someone with him at all times to ensure that he does not go out and buy more. Then you can call around to rehab centers and ask if they have an opening. You should at least have one in your town, I know that alot of police stations work with these places. Ours here is called Harbor Light, yours my be different. Call the police station and explain that you have a friend who wishes to get off drugs and ask if they have a place they recommend. You could even call the hospital and ask this. Sounds like your new boyfriend is a bit jealous that your ex is back in your life and that's why he said not to help. Good Luck to your friend.
2006-12-21 12:30:47 · answer #3 · answered by Danelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I have a few things to say about you...1. you seem very nice and caring, 2. I can tell that you don't want him to. the only advice I can think of is to first find a therapist or whatever that you can trust THAT WILL NOT RAT. ask ur bf how what why how and when, get him to see how dangerous it can be, how much you care and how you can't have a prper relation ship if hes in jail. See if its peer presure.BUT WHATEVER YOU DO, PLEASE DON'T LEAVE HIM unless he startes getting violent. The best thing you could do is to try and stick around him as much as you can.It must be really hard on you.Please, we have enugh addicts in this big lonely world.
I hope thats good, i dunno, im only 11.
( i hope it gets better,)
2006-12-21 12:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by Cheshire-grins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get him into a rehab program immediately. That is the only way he will get the help he needs. People, in most cases, cannot quit without professional help. I know it's hard to approach him with this, but it needs to be done. Good luck.
2006-12-21 12:26:49 · answer #5 · answered by dramatic_miss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is he on? i had a problam with meth, coke, and heroin. i have been clean for almost 2 years now. starting out is always hard. but if you are always there hell get through it. trust a former junkie.
2006-12-21 12:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by death_of_faries 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intervention is all i have to say. Even though it might hurt him now. it won't hurt him later. He will love that you saved his life. do the right thing.
2006-12-21 12:26:04 · answer #7 · answered by Skye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you owe him nothing... he is a big boy trying to manipulate you into his world so he can have attention...
you have your own life too think about and a good relationship with new b/f...
walk away...
2006-12-21 12:26:54 · answer #8 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋