So I've met a great girl, we've been dating for about a month and so far I love spending every possible second I can with her. Physically, she is beautiful, but one of the things I continually focus on (and if this is my problem, or something I should let slide, you girls can let me know) is her upper lip hair. I would think that the average person could notice it at about 8 - 12 feet away. It's making me wonder if she shaves her legs or arm pits, (I have not seen her in a skirt / shorts because where I live it is very cold around this time of year) because if she did not it would be a major turn off. I would continue to date this girl regardless, and I don't consider myself a shallow person, but I'm just curious as to why she would leave her upper lip hair (assuming she shaves elsewhere) and more importantly, would it be ok / how could I go about asking her to remove it?
(as a side note, I think she has rather senseitive skin)
2006-12-21 12:19:15 · 17 answers · asked by speakfromspeakers 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay... 1. her feeling might be hurt if you point it out
2. if you do tell her make sure you tell her that you think she is beautiful over and over...
3. offer to pay for the waxing appointment and get her a manicure or something too.
2006-12-21 12:22:13 · answer #1 · answered by angie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop and think carefully about this one, because it probably has more ramifications that you think.
1. You like this girl as a person.
2. You're not keen on the fact that she has a moustache
3. You haven't told us -- and maybe you haven't figured out -- whether your dislike of her moustache is because you don't like the look of it or because you're a bit concerned about what other people will think about you having a girlfriend with a moustache.
4. Most American girls have some moustache growth -- the average American woman aged 15-45 removes hair from her upper lip at least once a month.
5. If your gf's moustache is obvious enough to see from 8-12 feet away, she's clearly got a moustache, rather than a little hair on her upper lip. There are underlying reasons for that and you should think about them.
6. Are her ring fingers longer than her index fingers? I they are, it's an indication that her body has been sensitised to respond to testosterone and she's likely to be hairy in many, most or all of the places a male is. It will also indicate that her brain will have developed in a particular way.
7. Don't jump to the conclusion that that's negative -- women who have those characterisitics are also much more likely to enjoy the physical side of a relationship.
8. Her moustache is probably an indicator of the sort of person she is. Hormone changes with pregnancy later on may cause it to fade a bit, but it'll probably become much heavier in later life and she'll probably eventually, at menopause, develop beard growth too. She may well decide to start shaving at that stage anyway.
9. I'll go against the crowd on this one and suggest that don't say a word to her about it. And don't worry what other people think about it. Enjoy her for who and what she is. Enjoy the fact that she's got the personality that comes with being hairier than average. Let her enjoy the fact that she can relax with you in the knowledge that you love her WITH a moustache whereas others wouldn't go out with her because she wears a moustache. And on the assumption that her legs are hairy, enjoy the fact that she is who she is. These things are part of what makes her different and special.
2006-12-21 23:59:45 · answer #2 · answered by Feinschmecker 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-25 01:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you hate it when something like this happens...I used to date a guy who always had food stuck in his teeth. It was the grossest thing. Anyways, surprise her with a trip to the spa. You defff don't want to tell her because she'll get upset. Good luck...and hey, i'm glad you stuck with her. Most guys are shallow and would have left her by now. Congrats!
2006-12-21 12:36:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is inappropriate for you to ask her to remove the hair. You started dating her in spite of the hair, so why try to change her now? The sensitive skin is an issue. If it is waxed off, it may rip off a layer of skin, cause cold sores, etc... Her only other options (besides expensive electrolosis) is shaving or a cream like Nair. With either of those it will grow back quickly. The bottom line is, if it doesn't bother her, it shouldn't bother you.
2006-12-21 12:24:43 · answer #5 · answered by ubiquitous_mr_lovegrove 4 · 0⤊ 4⤋
When you are watching a movie at home, hint around. Say something like how nice someone looks. Then ask her if woman usually remove facial hair. It will be less hurtful.
I knew someone like that, and I still wonder why she kept that facial hair.
2006-12-21 12:25:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
that is a hard thing to tell a women and that can make them very self conscience but their is hair removal for the face that you can buy.. maybe you can send her some anonymously and she will get the hint? that way you don't hurt her feelings and if she uses it and you notice say something nice like wow did you do something different to your face you look great, not sure what it is but i like it. you know something like that. good luck
2006-12-21 12:24:59 · answer #7 · answered by parrotsarenoisy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her to have a conversation about qualities that each of you have their own opinion on and tell her what of those qualities bother you - perhaps she has the same peeves about herself but fears removing those hairs will make them grow back worst. between waxing, hair-removal creams, bleaching or seeing a dermatologist there are answers. She may even have peeves about you that you don't care to address.
2006-12-21 12:25:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
youforget when you start shaving the hairtends to grow back faster.if it is really that noticable thensay that someone make a comment about it and ask her how she would like you to deal with it in the future.this way you r showing concern not criticizm.good luck
2006-12-21 12:29:56 · answer #9 · answered by marfanman00000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
plan a spa day for her. give her a gift card to some spa oor beauty salon that threads upper lips and theen suggest it nicely
2006-12-21 12:22:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋