I've been with my boyfriend for about seven months now. It started off very serious, he was very attentive. After about a month he started to not want to go ANYWHERE.. he just wanted to stay home. He loves to cook, and he cooks delicious meals, but once in a while I like to go out, to a movie, to a restaurant, out with friends. I've tried to talk to him but he says I'm nagging. His job is physically demanding and he is tired when he gets home, but I'm not asking to go out all the time. I told him I would like to go out at least once a month but he keeps brushing it off. We've also been arguing a lot about silly things. I don't feel like he's taking my feelings into consideration. He did not get me anything for my birthday. I feel like giving up but I'm so confused because this is the first man I have been with in a long time who does not cheat and does not lie, he's always very honest with me and I do love him.
2006-12-21 11:53:39 · 5 answers · asked by Dee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you are in a relationship it is important to set aside a time for yourself as well as time for each other. it sounds like this guy is really great so i think what you should do is, when you feel like going out to dinner or to a movie go with your friends and let him stay home and do his own thing. this way he will not have to go out after a hard day at work and just relax, and you can go out and have a great time with your friends. this also gets the two of you away from each other so that it will give you a chance to miss each other and see how much you enjoy spending time with one another when you get home.
2006-12-21 12:04:14 · answer #1 · answered by play hard 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit nagging him. He is tired. Did you hear that?!?! Make it so it's easier for him. By nagging, you are making it hard for him. Be a part of his solution, not a part of his problem. If he comes back from work tired, have dinner ready and a warm bath to soak in. Give him a massage and make him feel rejuvenated.
You are being very selfish and needy. Why don't you see things from his point of view? If you make an effort to get him refreshed, he will not be as tired and will want to go out with you. What the hell is the matter with you? The solution is so obvious, it hurts, but I guess all women know how to do is to nag and be annoying as hell and make our lives even more tired and miserable.
Don't be part of the problem. Be part of the solution.
2006-12-21 19:59:35 · answer #2 · answered by Sax M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG..!!! This is the exact same thing going on in my life. For a sec I started thinking when I posted this! LOL. Anywayz, same situation here Gurl. Been with him for 10 mnths, he did not buy me anything for my B'Day that was in Nov (not even a B'day cake). While I bought him an expensive watch on his and gave him small gifts for 25 days. We use to go out a lot though. I told him a few days ago I don't wanna be with him. I got fed up!! There are nice guys or guys that we can be compatible with. Just Leave Him, Dump him and move on...Like I did!!!
2006-12-21 20:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by miss_curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship is not going anywhere. You have got yourself a homebody bum....if that is not what you wanted....you should leave.
2006-12-21 19:58:20 · answer #4 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him, if he's still an a**, DUMP him.
2006-12-21 20:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋