when we started going out he was all talking to me about sex that the girl that he had like the most he had f···· her when they were only 5 months. he tell me all this stuff that he loves me and this and that but im still not sure. last tme i talk to him i told him that one friend of his told me that the only reason he wuzz going out with me is because he wanted to **** me. and he start sayiung all of this stuff that if that wuzz what i thought of him we wil not do it. im not scared of doing it the only thing i afraid of is getting pregnet. an i dont want that. i really like him so please help out!!!!!
2006-12-21 11:52:16 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get a condom or birth control pill. If you are not going to do that, then you're not ready for sex. You should hole up in your room and not go out with guys and lead them on. All they want from you is sex. They don't care about anything else.
2006-12-21 12:01:54 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, i dont think he cares about you. He May Seem like a really nice guy at times and can talk really smooth that he loves you and cares about you and you make his life so much better but it can be a load of B.S. You can kind guess what he told the other girl he had sex with and see how their relationship ended. If he really loves and cares about you he wont force you into having sex much less bring up his past sexual experiances. Guys can be very manipulative and so can girls and that is why i suggest you get to know him better and see how he acts, what is he proud of doing? Dont Do Something You Will Regret Doing. Even If You Do Use Birthcontrol or a Condom It Will Never Change The Idea That You Gave Urself To Him and He Was Able To Get Over You. I Can only hope the Best and i hope this helped you some.
2006-12-24 20:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by ATMAFIA09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alright. so we get that you really like him. BUT EVEN SO, a guy that is pressuring you to have sex? who only wants you because he wants to get some action? based off the way you talk, you are for sure underage, and for minors its illegal to have sex. your boyfriend could go to jail for rape, even if its not rape. i am also a minor, and the reason why im not having sex is to avoid getting pregnat. i dont trust the birth control options and am not at all ready to take care of a child. basically you have three options.
1. make the mistake of having sex before you're ready. if he is dating you for sex, the relationship will eventually end afterwards. having sex DOES NOT bring two people closer together. it will not save the relationship!
2. lay down the law that you will not have sex until you are ready, get married, etc. if he is pissed..dump his sorry ***.
3. DUMP HIM NOW!! you deserve to be with a guy who respects you and does not think of you as his constant booty call.
hope you make the right decision. :)
2006-12-21 20:01:15 · answer #3 · answered by bluenecklace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your not ready to have sex don't let him push you, especially if you even have the slightest idea that he may not want to have sex with you for the right reasons. Most importantly know your worth and don't let anyone make you settle for less or convince you to do something your not ready to. Trust me I've been in your shoes before you regret it if give it up to soon.
2006-12-21 19:59:36 · answer #4 · answered by Faye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question to a group of total strangers, you're obviously not mature enough to be having sex with anyone. Make a list of the pros and cons:
Cons:
You're not feeling ready
You're not sure he even likes you
He blabs about the other girl he had sex with (do you really want him talking about you that way, too?)
You're afraid of getting pregnant (and you can't even spell the word.)
Pros:
(help me out here - I don't see any)
2006-12-21 19:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by SL_SF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are trying to make an economic decision.
Is the cost of giving your virginity worth ... what? Giving him what he wants?
He got what he wanted before, and left it. Its not going to give you security in the stability of your relationship.
Theres a lot of diseases that arent AIDS that you can get. Think about cervical cancer.. on 40% is treatable and it comes from vaginal warts.. an STD.
Save yourself for your marriage. Dont waste it on this creap. You are going to have a ton of regrets in life anyway, why make more?
2006-12-21 19:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by Curly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey.. first of all don't date someone who just wants that from you because once u give they leave so its not worth it. I say you just say forget it and leave. But since you say you really do like him, first i would get birth control pills from your doctor your parents don't have to know or insisit he uses a condom, but i don't think your ready so i would just back away from that situation. You don't wanna do something your going to regret the rest of your life. Good luck on desicion making.
2006-12-21 20:00:31 · answer #7 · answered by Skye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you knew you were ready then you wouldn't be asking this question. Anytime you have to ask someone if you should, that obviously means you can't make that decision on your own so your not ready. It seems to me like he is trying to just use you, he told you about another gurl he fuc*ed? That is not cool! Don't have sex with him you will regret it!
2006-12-21 19:59:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex when not ready and just because you are pressured
into it is bad enough.
But doing that and getting pregnant is really bad.
he won't want you after that .
Give your self to a guy that really loves you and cares about you.
2006-12-21 19:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex. You don't sound ready at all and you will regret it for the rest of your life. You only lose your virginity once! Make sure it is with the right person. You'll be glad you did. :)
2006-12-21 19:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by fluffomatic24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋