I am in love with a woderful girl, but I have had a fantasy for a very long time of some "back-door" loving. But my girlfriend refuses to let me do it. Now I truly love this girl and would do anything or her, sexually or otherwise. Is it a sign she doesnt love me that she wont let me do this with her?
2006-12-21 11:46:59 · 11 answers · asked by PleaseNoMoreNumbers 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was against this for many years but finally my husband talked me into it. Now it is something I tend to ask for. Give her time, if you love her. Eventually she might come around. I think women believe they are not supposed to like that, and if they do probably won't admit it. I don't think it is a sign of not loving you, more a problem of letting herself go and trying something new.
2006-12-21 11:51:37 · answer #1 · answered by KC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. My bf and I have a great relationship but if he asked me for that I would refuse till hell freezed over. Anal sex can be very bad for the body and cause hemeroids, anal leakage, it can make the person deficate on accident, and from what I have heard it is intensely painful. So while it may feel good to you, she probably knows what she is in for. Also, if you don't use a condom you can get a urinary tract infection if any bacteria gets in you. So even though it may LOOK great and be the ultimate "tightness" and pleasure... it's not all it's cracked up to be and I am highly against it.
2006-12-21 11:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No she is being open with you about her sexual preference. It doesn't mean that she doesn't love you!
You say you love her and you would do anything for her sexually or otherwise... so you have to follow that up by respecting her wishes.
Maybe she is nervous about it. You could try play (without actual sex, but foreplay you know...) and see if she likes it or begins to feel more comfortable with it. But don't force it. Bottom line (no pun intended! lol) is that no means no.
There are lots of other fun ways to play and have a fulfilling sex life!
2006-12-21 11:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by fluffomatic24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not, she is just letting you know that it is not something she is willing to do, love or no love. It is a painfull experience to some women, and until you experience it dont insist on her letting you do it. The question now is whether you love her enough to respect her wishes, love is about compromise. Learn to live with things you cant have, especially if it means showing you girlfriend that you love her and respect her.
2006-12-21 11:54:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesnt want to do it because probably she scare with the pain (it could be very painful without enough lubricant) or she is just not into it.
You cant judge she doesnt love you cos you want something on sex and she doesnt give it to you.
Its the same thing w a man who go out w a virgin and said: if you love me, you will have sex w me.
Love teach you willingness in sex, not threat of: 'if you love me, you would do xxx with me'
Dont force her to do it, you wont enjoy it if she is either in pain or doesnt enjoy it like you do.
2006-12-21 11:59:00 · answer #5 · answered by AlisonJonshon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you truly loved her you would respect her boundaries and wouldn't push her do something especially something sexual that she wasn't comfortable with. But if its something that you find necessary to be satisfied with your sex life then i suggest that you guys trade fantasies one of your for one of hers. But from a women's perspective "back door" loving is um comfortable and painful and offers no pleasure for the woman.
2006-12-21 11:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by Faye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me say this without hurting your feelings.... Why don't you try it first...if you like it, tell her how nice it was...see what she says. Until then don't even think she has any reason to do something like that...if it aint her thing, it aint her thing!
2006-12-21 11:53:11 · answer #7 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u realy love her, then ull respect her wishes
2006-12-21 11:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by DB9 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no its just she isnt into that find a whore if u really want to do that
2006-12-21 11:49:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.......shes just doesnt wanna do it. It probably hurts or it doesnt turn her on.
2006-12-21 11:49:08 · answer #10 · answered by g00dapple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋