The lady is very rude to my niece and her brother about there birth mother. She hates their real Mom, so she is very rude about things and hates them because she hates their mother. She is very nice around the kids while her husband (my husband's brother) is around. He has no idea so when the kids try to tell them what happens when he's gone, he never listens and then the kids get torcherd more! They are good kids and they don't deserve to be treated that way. She also has a child who is 5 and handicapped and he has one bone in each arm so he can't bend his arms. ( No Joints) He is VERY spoiled. How to I get her to be nice and any suggestions on how to handle this situation???
2006-12-21 11:43:55 · 16 answers · asked by me_mygang_1994 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Being a step-mom myself, I can tell you that een when we are really wrong, we don't like being confronted on the spot. so make sure that you pull her to the side and gently tell her that she is being to agressive. make sure that you are not mean and if she does not change, you make sure that the kids are not being abused in anyway. If they aren't, they'll make it. That won't be the first children that had an "evil" step mother. I promise that it will make them stronger than ever.
2006-12-21 12:04:06 · answer #1 · answered by beautyzhername 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant make anyone do anything some people are just immature and stupid. Shes probally jeolous of the cute healthy kids. I would just keep them kids away from CRUELLA as much as possible. And perhaps since you are an adult you can talk to her about her childish behavor tell her she has the right to like or not like whom ever she wants but she should keep her opinion to herself when talking to the children if she doesnt have anything positive or nice to say about the woman then dont say anything at all it is very hurtful and the children go through enough without her bitching at them everytime she sees them about there mother whom they happen to love and no matter what she says she is still that "THEIR MOTHER" or you could slap da Shet out of her and tell to shut the puck up and get a life!
2006-12-21 11:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not unusual for a person with a handicapped child to be
very guilty...She may be pushing the other children away because she is so guilty about her child being handicapped she wants to make sure he remains the center of attention.
People who are very guilty always try to over compensate.
You don't know why she is feeling guilty...maybe she did drugs.
If she continues to spoil him , she will be the only one who likes him. Bring this to her attention....also let her know she is handicapping the other kids with her poor attitude toward them.
Believe it or not, she may not even be aware of what she has
been doing, or at least it's repercussions.
Approach with caution..she is obviously very sensitive on the subject. If you don't feel you are the one to do this, pick the
best person for the job that you can think of.....
2006-12-21 12:06:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you seen this behavior first hand? If you do see it, confront her on the spot. Tell her she is being rude to her step kids and that you are going to talk to your brother in law and his ex wife about her if the it continues. Don't let up until something changes. The kids should not have to put up with this and someone needs to keep telling their dad until he gets it!
2006-12-21 11:48:09 · answer #4 · answered by schweetums 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well it is pretty impossible to get her to be nice so I would tell your husband's brother about what is going on and if he doesn't do anything tell the children's birth mother and see if she can get custody of them (unless she is dead or on drugs or something). And you should threaten the sister-in-law not like "im going to kill you" but tell her you are going to file a police report (cruelty to children)...she might stop then
2006-12-21 11:51:12 · answer #5 · answered by yasmine_horton 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, you are not gong to be able to change her, she has to do that herself,, or the father will have to set the standards that are acceptable for his children,,and if the father doesnt listen (i would try having a talk with him about your concerns, sit him down and address the issue in a non confrontational way,,,,,, just let him know what you see and feel ) anyway, if that talk does no good,,,, just give the children love and support,,,,,,they probably already know the reality of what is going on,,and will appreciate your support,,,,,,,their father will have to deal with their feelings when they are grown
2006-12-21 11:50:26 · answer #6 · answered by dlin333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your husband's brother made 2 mistakes: he married a witch and he remarried before his children were adults. He is as much a part of the problem as she is. He introduced this witch to his own children.
Divorce will fix this. Pray that they don't make more children.
2006-12-21 11:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by adamsjrcn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can not make anyone not be rude to people if u could i would do it a lot. I would talk to your husbands brother and tell him what is going on because he does not believe his kids then maybe he might believe you.
2006-12-21 11:48:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the kids have no control over who their mother is and if you ever hear her say anything negative to them about anything, you will step in and kick her ***.
2006-12-21 12:23:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her off!!! just kidding!!! sit down and talk to her the kids and her husband at the same time and you back the kids up on what they say is true.if it is
2006-12-21 11:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by lil momma 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋