She's got real anger issues that is seriously messing me up. She doesn't seem to care or admit it. I HATE HER. i don't know what to do, i just feel like dying all the time now.
2006-12-21 11:37:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
I've been failing school for years, she just yells at me does NOTHING to help me. I have no one to help me ever, my dad doesn't seem to give a rats ***, all he ever does is pay child support.
Shes constatly yelling at me, i can't take it.
2006-12-21 11:41:06 · update #1
This has been happening since I was little, it's just too much on me. =[
2006-12-21 11:47:11 · update #2
You have a really sad life happening there, hon. Talk to a counsellor at school. I also had a rough time in high-school for similar reasons.
2006-12-21 12:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by Mary W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a mother of a 16 year old daughter. I have had my moments of yelling,but I know it's my anger about her behavior is coming out of my mouth. And when she really goofs up - I go off and I always tell her. I wouldn't get mad if I didn't care. But, I think a person can cross the line when they yell at their child everyday. It's going to break yous spirit and I would talk to someone that you trust that is older than you. I'm sorry this is happening to you. My rule is to love more and show her how much I love her and explain to her what she has done and we just talk and it's all better. This time in your life is really hard and too shall pass. Just hang on!
2006-12-21 20:57:31 · answer #2 · answered by docie555@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about whether you have someone in your life you can talk with honestly, openly about your relationship with your mother. There may be ways to help her and get the difficulties in your relationship sorted out, but first you need to help yourself.
I would recommend speaking with a trustworthy adult; someone who isn't going to jump to conclusions or make a difficult situation worse--someone who can listen with an open heart and then help you make decisions.
Sometimes counselors are available at school. Ask about the confidentiality. There is the 9 line. 1-800-999-9999. The 9 line, last I was aware, is open 24 hours and is not simply for runaways but also for youth and anyone who is seriously overwhelmed. There are caring individuals who will listen to you anonymously and help you sort out your feelings.
If you are ever feeling suicidal, please know that there is the Samaritans hotline (I know that there is one in New York, and one in Boston). They will also help you by e mail (they have a web site). The Samaritans are excellent.
Sometimes the pain is so overwhelming that one can feel incredibly desperate and despairing. Please hold on and do something kind for yourself. You are experiencing a lot of pain--and there are those who can help you get through it. There are other options--and you are worth it. Once you get through this, you will be able to help others.
There are people who do care and will listen to you. Go make a phone call! Or e mail the Samaritans. Call a friend. Value yourself.
You can get through this. Hold on--because as Harriet Beecher Stowe once said (essentially), just when you think it won't ever get better, the tide will turn--so don't ever give up. A friend sent this to me once on a little piece of paper--encouraging me to make it through. You are not alone. There are many of us who have been through incredibly painful childhoods--I will tell you what--it builds soul. You can get through--just remember that you are worth it.
I wish you well.
2006-12-21 19:53:39 · answer #3 · answered by stonybearwinter 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're definitely not alone. But every relationship takes 2 people. Sounds like you both have serious communication problems. Why don't you tell her you need help? Have you actually said it that way? Moms (especially single moms) have a lot on their plates to deal with . . but I'm pretty sure if you (NICELY - without an attitude) tell her you sincerely need help that will get her attention.
Otherwise there's always plan B: suck it up till you can get a job, save money and get out.
I hated my mother too - then I grew up and became one and boy do I see things differently now.
2006-12-21 20:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by Freedspirit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably has her own pain/problems which remain unsolved or unsolvable, hence you could be just a victim for the moment. Bear with it, I can understand it's difficult. When you are financially independent, you can move away and from then, your relationship will improve. Believe me, it's really tough being a mom, and so is it as a child too. Never easy living with ANY ONE
2006-12-21 19:52:10 · answer #5 · answered by PikC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss this with her. Tell her that her excessive anger makes you feel very sad and does nothing to bring you two closer. If you have a lot of unexpressed anger and pain let it go, do no suppress it. You can also protect yourself from the negativity of her anger by visualizing a golden sphere of pure light surrounding your presence.
Take care.
2006-12-21 19:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by Alexander K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel your pain. my mom was really paranoid and had REALLY BAD anger issues. I would go up to her and say, "Im hungary" and she could yelll for hours and hours. and locked me in the house beause of her paranoia that everyone was out to get me to get to her. so she continued to yell at me, i guess she thought it was my fault....and if i didnt make good grades, she did it even more. i really dont know what happened. I started to run off and do crazy things...i got arrested last year, and io guess she relized what she was doing, so she left and left me with my grandparents. its not much better though, they abuse me more....so i cant tell you what to do but its always nice to know someone out there undertsands.
and i started to cut myself, and to be honest, it helped alot. DONT do that though. lol.
2006-12-21 19:47:37 · answer #7 · answered by savvizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's really hard, I'm sorry. my mom yells a lot too and the only way to stop her is to talk which could take time to do. You should go to a guidance counselor or something to talk to someone about it.
2006-12-21 19:45:22 · answer #8 · answered by Sharon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cry.....doesn't matter crying it not makes you a girlie boy.....
because you gonna remember that and you gonna cry in the unwishable moment and everyone is gonna said...
"what is happening to you????"
my family and i were not so rich....
i go to a expensive school.....so i do my best to keep in that school....
TIP:
when you're studying and you cant memorize something....go outside see the sun or the moon....like 10 mins.
and continue studing......that a efective tip...my teacher says that
2006-12-21 19:50:50 · answer #9 · answered by anaa;* 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to cool out and remember that when you are out of school and have a job, you don't have to deal with her.
Keep your chin up bud.
2006-12-21 19:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋