how can i get guys to like me more?

Question

they like me when they first meet me. but i have a problem with self control. i sleep with all my guy friends and i hate it but i dont know how to stop it and then the guys think im worth nothing and they wont talk to me. i didnt used to be like this please help?

Answer 1

I think you need to love yourself before you can expect someone else to love you. You need to respect yourself. You should consider focusing on school/job and becoming successful at that and not worry so much about your social life.

Answer 2

You are probably going to get some crazy answers. I think you are like many young girls today. Its nothing new. This generation of girls is losing their value in my opinion. First of all, you have to stop sleeping with your friends. That will only ruin your rep. Im sure you are a nice person but no one will see that if you just give yourself away like that. You have something valuable to offer. You need to treat your virtue as though it were a fancy pair of shoes. Okay that may not be a great example but you wouldn't let just anyone wear them! You also might want to talk to someone. A school counselor or something. Find out why you feel so needy for affection. Good luck to you.
And don't feel bad. Just start over and do things different.!

Answer 3

First of all, no matter how many mistakes you make, you are still a worthy individual. I know what you mean by not knowing how to stop, but you have to mean enought to yourself yo stop doing that. Not trying to shrink you or anything, but you should spend some time discovering who you are as a person b4 you even approach any other guys. Because, right now, having gone from man to man, you do not know your own self worth. And trust me, no man will ever be able to fully appreciate you if you don't REALLY appreciate yourself. I have been there. I've done the exact same thing and God blessed me with the most wonderful husband after i took time to discover me.

Answer 4

Don't give away the candy store. Girls today don't put a value on their self respect and that is what you have to have, self respect. Males like females that respect them selves. Feel good about who you are. Read everything you can get your hands on. Be well spoken. Know what is going on the world today and make intelligent conversation. Only go to bed with someone when you are deeply in love and not just to keep a friend. Every time you have sex with a male you give a part of yourself away emotionally. Soon you will have nothing else left to give. That's not good. Keep your legs together.

Answer 5

I think you answered your own question. If you want guys to like you, don't sleep with them early on.

Also, it's ok to have a friend with benefits on the side but "keep your worlds separate." Are you known as an easy girl in your circle? If so, oh well, but at least make sure the guy you like isn't from that circle and isn't going to find out that you've been sleeping around.

A quality guy isn't going to leave you or lose interest because you won't put out within the first few weeks. Rather, it makes you seem like a higher quality, more desirable girl.

Answer 6

Well, it's like you sexualy active obviously but you need to control yourself just before you think nearly think you are about to think of sleeping with them take three steps back and Three large deep breaths and clear your mind and for now dont throw yourself at them try to step out the box and worry about something more then sleeping around you never know what could happen if you keep doing this people going to call you out your name lke smut , ho , slut all the bad names in the book so i really dont want that to happen to you but dont **** up and do the wrong thing cause i dont want people to talk **** about you hun be yourself but be careful what you do AND LEAVE DEM BOYS ALONE AND WORRY ABOUT UR FUTURE AND SCHOOL WORK!!! Good luck

Answer 7

stop sleeping with them. You'll gain some self respect as well as respect from others. Plus you're gonna have to start all over again, some place else where people don't know you. No man wants to be seen with a woman with a reputation. Sounds to me like that's what you got. Their talking about you that's why they won't talk to you anymore.

Answer 8

This is a tough one. I don't know why that would drive guys away. I known if a girl wanted to sleep with me all the time, I would stick around. You don't need to sleep around. If they like you when they meet you, then just keep doing whatever you did when you met them. You don't have to sleep with guys to get them to stay. If you are addicted to sex, then you could always get professional help for that.

Answer 9

Begin be studying the New Testament. I would suggest that you find a non-denominational Church and begin a BIBLE STUDY with them. After you are knowledgable then you should find the answers that you seek. I believe that the answer is in your believing in GOD, then in yourself. A number of these "guys" are only looking for the one thing that you gave them. You can make that difference. I hope that this makes sense to you. My wife and I are both Christians as are both of our daughters and our daughter-in-law. YOU are one of GOD's SPECIAL CREATURES, don't let anyone tell you differently! Have a great holiday with friends and family!
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Answer 10

take an asprin,place it on your left inner knee,move your right knee towards it holding the asprin together with both knees closed...as long as this asprin stays between your legs with no chance of it falling out-----you will have friends,just stop sleeping with all of them..buy a sex toy or something.