We were together for 2 yrs, hes 23 and im 19, everything was goin great, we were talkin bout our future together and all that stuff. then he goes home to his parents house for one night, we live together, then he comes back the next day and ends it! says he needs to be alone, he cant be with anyone (like someone is forcing him too) and that his parents arent happy with us (they dont like me cause im quiet!! they think im just rude, i do talk to them, use manners and all that ****!) I love him so much and have tried talking to him but he just says its how it has to be and that it was going to happen eventually cause now all of a sudden after talking to his dad...he wants different things! do you think he just got scared and needs some time or is he a spineless selfish c#@t who deserves no happiness lol
2006-12-21 11:22:05 · 11 answers · asked by Onie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The guy is 23 years old. If he needs his parents to tell him what to do what the heck do you see in him. It will be a lifelong problem, someone who is taking this t ype of advice from mommy and daddy and then listening to it.
He is miserable. Feel sorry for him. His other girlfriends are going to experience the same thing, or worse. The girl they do like will really have it rough. Feel sorry for the whole lot of them and move on, sweetie. You're better than this.
2006-12-21 11:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by Vik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this has happened all of a sudden then it is very strange he visits his parents, then comes back and has a complete reversal of attitude towards you. What amazes me is the amount of people who have been with someone for more than enought time to figure out if they want to be with someone really, who suddenly up and declare that they want to have time for themselves. Always away from and to the exclusion of the other party. Either four things have happened. One, his parents put pressure on him- therefore he is a wimp. Two, he met someone else-therefore he is a liar and faithless. Three, he has willy nilly decided that for his convenience he rather not at the moment-which makes him totally unreliable and selfish. Four, he thinks you will come when he calls at his convenience-which show him to have no love and respect for you or your feelings. Either way crap is crap, wheather it is in the form of dirt, scum, spillage or junk. Whatever it is he clearly doen't give a fig for you. He doen't even have the decency to communicate to you properly to make sure you know what the hell is going on. And it IS obvious this is all of a sudden.
Take my advise for the sake of the rest of your life. Better you know now than when you are married to this loser and he does the same to both you and your children. Think of them also. DUMP THIS S.O.B. OF A LOSER. He is wasting you time. You deserve a hell of a lot better. There are tons out there. It is YOUR life, go and and take it. Put this mistake where he belongs. Where the rest of the fossils are. You owe it to youself and deserve so much better. TAKE IT NOW. It is yours by right. Good luck.
2006-12-21 19:43:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a mama's boy, run run far as u can!
His parents probably asked him point blank, "r u going to marry this girl? You're living together, so that's the next step, either take it, or jump ship". He probably got freaked about marriage.
YOU ARE TOO YOUNG TO NOT HAVE MORE EXPERIENCES IN YOUR LIFE!
Enjoy your freedom, he'll come running back.
2006-12-21 19:28:28 · answer #3 · answered by Chloe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loved you, his parents would not have been able to talk him into dumping you. Obviously he didn't think you were right for him. Move on. Maybe he just needs time, so if he comes back to you in awhile, then you can decide how you feel about him at that time.
2006-12-21 19:27:03 · answer #4 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about him girl he just have an other girl and just won't say it he is 23 and don't need his mom and dadd opinion or he don't work and mom and dadd pay for his **** then he should get his ass to work you need a man with determination if i was him i would say mom,dadd this is my life i am 23 i work and this is the woman i love if it bothers you i won't bring her to visit you but i won't be visiting you to often ok.....so the best answer to his behavior is someone else in his life.....
2006-12-21 19:34:00 · answer #5 · answered by Latin Lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he is spineless
he is listening to his parents
That is a good sign of , him not really wanting the relationship anymore.
He is using his parents as his escape.
Give him a benefit of doubt and wait a few day's , but don't wait
forever on him.
2006-12-21 19:27:17 · answer #6 · answered by StarShine G 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take this opportunity with both hands. I f he wants out then let him go. You love him, but he does not love you )or so it seems). Don't blame his parents, he is grown up at 23 and should be able to make up his mind and stand up to his parents (if he really loved you). So my advise is get on with your life.
2006-12-21 19:26:42 · answer #7 · answered by justhelping 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not ready to settle down. better that you found out now rather than later. Give him his space and keep lookin'
2006-12-21 19:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haha. Im thinking the second one.
2006-12-21 19:24:51 · answer #9 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, give him some time to get to his senses. If he doesnt Id just forget it. What a jerk.
2006-12-21 19:24:59 · answer #10 · answered by Mayonaise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋