Mother in Law rubs in my face that shes soooo much smaller...?

Question

Ok this goes for both me and my sister. We have small waists but a bigger bottom. And NO its NOT Huge, just bigger for a white girl. Anyway, both of our Mother in Laws rub in our face how they wear a size "6" or "8". One is short with a big O stomach and skinny legs and NO ***. And the other is tall and the same. My MIL always tells me how after giving birth shes always been able to get right back in her pre pregnancy pants and the lost the weight fast. For me I still have have some to lose and am bigger by one pant size. Even though i wear a 12 Im by far smaller then she. For my sis her MIL told her sraight out That she was way skinner and would sit in the back with the kids. The thing is I dont understand why they have to make it a point every single time about how they "Think" there skinner and that we are fat. Is this a jealousy issue? My MIL brings it up all the time. Im tired of it. I cant even go shopping with her cuz she makes remarks that shes never worn a size so big.

Whats a good comeback to put back right in her face? Please NO RUDE REMARKS!!!!!

LOL to Davidg32! But the thing is she's FAT. Im just average but NOT fat.

Answer 1

If she's that much smaller than you, just whip her as.s.

Answer 2

Been there...plenty of times, MILs have a thing where they sometimes feel competetive against the OTHER women in thier son's life, wierd, I know, its called emotional incest, just ignore her and instead of waiting for her to pull the first little snag about weight, just say something about how your husband loves you no matter what size you are or were, hey not everyone has a body made of elastic, or you can always say well I would have a smaller figure too if I had nothing else better to do than take care of my kids and look at everyone else's figures, tell her you have alot more better things to do that worry about that. Avoid going shopping with her, that should send a signal that you didn't appreciate how shes picking at you, shes got no right, shes not the one sleeping with you...

Answer 3

Some people only feel better when they are tearing someone else down. Please do not allow her to make you feel bad because of her comments. I don't believe you should get in her face simply because it's disrespectful and brings you down to her level (which is exactly what she wants). The next time she has something to say about your weight, just tell her "you know, I'll have to give that some thought" or whatever you feel you need to say to acknowledge her comments without justifying them. There's nothing wrong with your size and she knows it. For some reason she wants to make you feel bad. There are times when you have to kill them with kindness. You could simply say " I guess I wasn't blessed with the genes you have", or " I guess I'm not as lucky as you to have gotten the weight off so quickly". She will eventually leave you alone because you are no longer taking her bait. Good luck to you sweetie. MIL's don't go away, so you will have to find a way to live with her peacefully for your sanity's sake! Merry Christmas.

Answer 4

The next time your MIL starts the small talk end the conversation with a comment about this being a new generation or even go as far as to say well...(your husbands name) does not have a problem with my weight. Or tell her that her son loves it. I had do this with my mother n law when I first got married.(She was also bigger then me.) She never made another comment about my weight again. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 5

Well my MIL does the same thing to me. She is constantly trying to give me her clothes that she knows I don't fit in,(she is a 5 and 5'9, way too skinny, I'm 5'7 and a 10) I just tell her that I've given her 3 beautiful grandchildren and her son likes me just the way I am. Don't let it get you down. She's just upset that her son needs you more than her.

Answer 6

Yeah well at least my mouth isn't as big as yours.

Seriously, you need to tell her how you feel when she says those things. She is being very hurtful and disrespectful to you. If talking with her doesn't change the situation, talk with your husband and see if he is understanding about your problem with his mom. If he is, maybe he can talk with her tactfully. You don't want to start WW111 over this. If nothing works, just don't spend time with her unless you have to. She may wonder what the reason is and maybe then she will "hear" what you have been trying to tell her. Good luck....to you and your sister.

Answer 7

Here's an idea--just might work. tell them I may have some size(?) to me but I have a Heart unlike others I know.. It doesnt matter what size you are on the outside--it is what is on the inside that counts. Dont let the M I L get the best of you it is not worth it.

Answer 8

okay, this is going to sound corny but just take it. It could be that your MIL feels unsecure, so picks on easy targets. If she "attacks" you, just say, "I know" or "how 'bout that"

If you retaliate, that just makes matters worse. Trust me, if someone retaliated me, I could retaliate harder, and usually I end up hurting someone, and regretting it. Ever heard of the phrase two wrongs don't make a right?

You can also talk to your husband bout it, but I don't recommend this, or couse, their isn't much I can say, seeing as how I'm not in that predicament.

Like I said, don't retaliate. When she begins to rub it in, just take it like a sponge, and absorb it. Love beats hate. Who knows, maybe one day, destiny will come, and the tables will turn, but if that happens, try to keep the IN YOUR FACE attitude to a minimum, and remember how you felt.

Answer 9

ok this iS a problem
and don't answer back she'll only say that ur a snob or something. try sitting down with her telling her how it makes you feel and that everyone has a different build (big bones less weight etc.) and that u r trying to get back to ur orginal size (if u r)

or

talk to ur husband about it, hes lived with her his whole maybe he has a few tricks up his sleeve.

hope that helped

Answer 10

Tell her your man has no problem with your weight and that he told you the one thing he can't stand is a fat old woman. Look her straight in the eye when you talk about fat old woman, look her up and down then smile and leave it at that.

Answer 11

I would just off handedly mention her sagging breasts/face/skin/butt/etc. and her grey hair. dark circles under her eyes, etc.
To make it seem not so mean I would say something like
"Oh MIL, there is this new product my grandmother was telling me about. I think it could help you with those wrinkles around your mouth and eyes. It is called Whatever. Do you want me to buy you some for Christmas? I think it's going to get worse if you don't do something soon.