I just turned 18 two days ago. In these 18 years, Ive never had a gf.. or kissed a girl, or anything.
Now it really has me worrying. I have a few friends that are girls, but mostly all my friends are guys. At first I wasnt worried because the majority of my friends didnt have one, but slowly over the past few months Ive become the only one who doesnt have one. I donno why I cant get one. Im pretty quiet in school and only talk to my friends, and now that Im aware that Im so pathetic that Ive never had a gf that is has started affecting my courage when Im around girls and whatnot.
And now my friends keep teling each other stories about how they are all hooking up with their gfs and Im sitting there.. never having had a gf and I just feel horrible. What can I do to turn this around? I dont just want a gf to have one, I just feel lonely and crappy now because I dont have someone to be with, and I really dont know what I do differently than other guys. What do I do?!
2006-12-21 10:26:39 · 12 answers · asked by Uh Oh 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is all in your head. No girl wants to be with the depressed, insecure guy. They all want the guy who knows he's not perfect and is completely okay with that. Once you change your attitude, your whole situation will change. Trust me.
2006-12-21 10:29:32 · answer #1 · answered by elionwy76 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most women are shallow. They haven't taken the time to get to know you on a deeper level. I don't know what you look like but most women are 90% attracted to looks, 5% the way you act, and 5% what you have to say.
That's just what I've noticed in the women I've been around. Your predicament sucks, I'll give you that.....and I know that the last thing you wanna hear is "be patient" but, you know what? You gotta be patient.
Hell, look online if you want. Put up an ad on Yahoo Personals or something. You can meet some great people there. I met my current bf on yahoo personals and I'm living with him now. Just give it a try.....maybe someone will turn up.
2006-12-21 18:33:59 · answer #2 · answered by Abby C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry maybe u just haven't met the right one yet. Ur only 18 there is still time, its not the end of the world. Also maybe u haven't focused so much time on finding a gf as ur friends did, just start talking to girls and finding out if the 2 of u have things in common. Don't rush it, take ur time.
2006-12-21 18:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by 2good4hem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're only 18 give yourself some time. If it's affecting your self esteem then break out of your comfort zone and be more sociable. Girls like the "quiet type" as long as you know how to play it to your advantage. Guys who are quiet have a mystique about them that is attractive and make girls want to know what is going on in that head of theirs. Being more social with make you easier to approach for people to want to find out who you are and what you are all about. A word of advice....
Once you get a girl, because trust me you eventually will, treat her like a lady... this alone will make you irresistible.
2006-12-21 18:49:53 · answer #4 · answered by Bridezilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really young to be worrying so much about it. But if you like someone ask them out. Sometimes you might get turned down and sometimes you might not. Just be honest with yourself and you cant make anyone else happy if your not happy.
2006-12-21 18:30:00 · answer #5 · answered by Believe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your problem is because you are quiet in school and only talk to your friends,I am kind of having the same problem,i am shy,and so quiet in the school....i only talk to the ones who I know.........so,as a result I don't have many friends (especially guys)......I think we should try to go over that quietness , and make more friend.... Good luck
2006-12-21 18:42:32 · answer #6 · answered by Gardenia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will meet someone that will be suitable as gf material. Don't jump at the first girl you meet. Everyone goes through this stage in their lives.
2006-12-21 18:29:35 · answer #7 · answered by Vehement 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you know i am the same boat as you, but i am 21, and i fell i have a serious problem, but you should be fine, you have a long time, relax, and i know people that are 40 and are in the same boat as we are in, i have a feeling that we will find some by then, good luck,
2006-12-21 18:34:00 · answer #8 · answered by Linux7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there and you will find someone special one day. I admire that you are different than all the rest. Being different is not a bad thing.
2006-12-21 18:32:20 · answer #9 · answered by Miss Crickett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, wait some more, There will be a girl in your life that will love you. She will be perfect, dont worry now, you are still young.
2006-12-21 18:29:52 · answer #10 · answered by inna2507 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋