Why is it that the one person who believes in love, the one person who really truly believes in its existance and in its magic always seem to end up with the complete opposite: the one who does not really want it, who does not really believe in it, the one who does not like to be tied down. Why is it that those people take our trust and then slam it in our face and kick us while we are down, over and over again. It is not like she has only done this once, but many many times. Why do such people like to hurt us hopeless romantics? Why do we end up with people who take us for granted, who don't respect or honor us or love, and with people who just do not care that they are doing this to us? Why!!!??? Why do we get hurt?
2006-12-21 10:22:10 · 9 answers · asked by pilotmanitalia 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It hurts because we are the ones willing to take that chance. To wholeheartedly try to achieve our personal rendition of love in action.But that is what it is... "our" point of view. If we are with a partner who most often want but don't know what loving looks like, they end up doing things conscious and unconscious, that shatter our desires. Loving people like ourselves have to establish mature assessment of who we are trying to love..Sadly they may not wanna or not know how to love us. It's not all magic!!!It may seem like it but it take alot to learn, accept, and love unconditionally an imperfect human in an imperfect world. Love doesn't devastate if you truly consider what you are getting yourself into. Emotional recks, addictions, financial disasters aside..It's still hard work to compromise, be at peace, and love anyone, sometimes even family and you know them better than the stranger from the bar, cafe, office, grocery store, online profile or gym last week..Be patient your divine love is out there..Just become what you want to attract, but still screen them all! Don't give up your beautiful heart to someone who just want the *** and will regurgitate whatever you tell them to get you drawers off! The failure of you to see it coming is not all their fault, especially, if you are not doing your homework! Peace and blessings, I'm still looking too..Just got over the last heartbreak, but not giving up on him or myself..
2006-12-21 10:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by Ms B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most people don't believe in love the way hopeless romantics do....it hurts...i know....but there are people out there who don't even believe that love exists...and i have seen a lot of them....
I guess for some reason we sometimes fall for the wrong people....and getting over them becomes very very difficult....but i think getting over them gives us a chance to find the one who would really bring happiness to us...the one who will love us as much as we love them, if not more....
We get hurt because we think that we have found then person who would love us, respect us, and give our hearts everything we hoped for...the safety, the love, the "walking in the clouds" feeling....but then it turns out that all this was just a dream...not a reality....
I think we all go through these experiences to get to know about reality...how hard and cruel it is....but, this reality should give us hope...hope to find something better....hope to find someone who truly cares....hope to find happiness....
I hope you find your happiness...
2006-12-21 10:36:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you come on a little too strong in the love and romance and magic that they feel suffocated and want to leave? Seems like they do like it but when you say they don't like to be tied down, it seems like you might be wanting a little too much. Do you want a little too much of their time/attention? Do you not like it when they want to go out alone? Have you tried asking them why they leave you? If it happens often perhaps you need to look inside to see what you could be doing wrong repeatedly.
2006-12-21 10:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by Die S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to take self-inventory and find out why you are attracted to this kind of person. It's painful, but not as much as getting kicked to the curb. Will save you a lot of hurt in the future.
2006-12-21 10:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by beez 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is not always what someone expects it to be. Shouldn't have such great expectations. That's fantasy, real love isn't fantasy...
2006-12-21 10:28:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they expect too much. If you do that, chances are you'll wind up VERY disappointed. It's easier to expect nothing and be happy when something does happen. (Personally, I expect nothing and want nothing. I don't need love.)
2006-12-21 12:02:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wonder the same, but i believe that there are a lot of things in this world that are beyond our control.
2006-12-21 10:28:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think, if you think you're firm in your love, you're going to be tested for it.
Gold has to go through a lot of fire to be pure.
2006-12-21 10:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by red 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Umm, take it from Def Leppard: IF YOU'VE GOT LOVE ON YOUR SIGHTS - WATCH OUT, LOVE BITES.
2006-12-21 10:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by Hefeweizen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋