My son is 2 and has autism im sick of people making comments about him when i take him out?

Question

because he gets very upset and screams he cant talk but looks trotaly normal so people say nasty things about him when we are in shops because he freaks out people tell me i should but a badge on him saying he is autistic the thought of that makes me sick why should i make my son look like a side show its bad enough he has autism without that as well what do you think what would you do im sick of telling people he has problems

He son was diagnosed 2 months ago with high level autism and learing problems im a great mum and i love my son with every inch of my body he is my world he needs me as his dad walked out when he got told his son has autism so i susspect that why i get very cross when people say oh what a horrible noise that child is making etc etc

Answer 1

Unfortunately, there are several spoilt children out there who's screaming and general misbehaviour has more to do with bad parenting then a condition, so I suppose comments are to be expected. Just politely tell them he has autism, and they should leave it at that.

Answer 2

I have a friend whose son has Autism. She made these little business cards she printed from home that said something on the lines of...." Please bless my son, he has Autism...etc..etc" You could get creative.

My children do not have Autism, but they sure take there turns at acting a fool up in the store. I have learned, mostly, to just ignore people who stare, make faces, and and comments. People can just be some darn rude it's pathetic. But sometimes I get the best of myself and put poeple in their place. I've told people to not be so rude, and that it isnt easy shopping with 4 boys. I've told people to mind their own business. Most of the time, I put on a smile, hold my head high shoulders back, and make due with my circumstance. I have even told many youngsters "See, this is why you use birth control!"

Answer 3

Unfortunatey this world is filled with unaccepting people,who think that they are here to judge others! There is not much you can, or should do. You are trying to live your life for the benefit of your son, and to be honest I wouldn't care what people think!! They are making a judgement without even knowing your little boy, and therefore they are the ones with the problem!! Don't allow others to stress you, as raising a child with autism is hard enough! You just concentrate on him and yourself and forget the freaks that judge ... they don't even deserve an explanation!! I know it can be hurtful, but you need to just shut them out as they are not feeding positive energy, and your little one will pick that up. No wonder he screams and gets upset, they freak him out!! You don't owe them anything!! Ignore them!! I wish you well!

Answer 4

Iknow how you feel my son and daughter have Autism and people used to stare and say what a naughty child i would do this and that if he /she was mine, my daughter is now 16 and very hard to handle she went to a swimming pool once and one of the attendants was seen to mimick her taking the mickey the school complained but i hit the roof i get so frustrated and annoyed at people but stay strong and i wish you and your son all the luck in the world and a very happy christmas and new year good luck

Answer 5

People will always look and make you feel uncomfortable. You know you're not the world's worst mum and you've got to get to the point where you don't care if they think you are. Complete strangers might pass comment but does it matter when you will never see them again? I used to feel self-conscious like you when my daughter was younger as she has autistic tendencies. In the end I got sick of justifying her behaviour, after all why should I? Let them stare honey and just carry on doing what you're doing - loving your son and being a great mum. x x x

Answer 6

That is very wrong, and people need to shut up. I use to be a preschool teacher and had a child in my class who had autisim.I also have a neice and nephew with autism. One thing I have learned is that these children are borderling genius and need to be appreciated.

You're a strong person for dealing with people in society and there stupidity. Your son is also only 2 years old, people need to get a grip, he isn't the one who's the freak, it the people in society making fun that are the freaks and they should wear a badge stating that they have a big mouth.

Answer 7

Hello,

My heart goes out to you, I did some voluntary work a few years ago with people who had profound learning difficulties including what would be called autism. So I can really understand how difficult it can be for you to cope.

**I dont want to excuse other people's disgusting behaviour towards you & your son. But such people often respond in that way because they have no understanding of what autism is, so they fear what they dont understand. Their reactions sound extreme, uncalled for, intolerant, they are biggotted, & hostile,etc.

I know saying this doesnt help you, but its clear that your feeling extra senstive about it because of your circumtances with the father of your son leaving. You are allowing these reactions from people in public to get under your skin and to hurt you and to upset you in away that they wouldnt give different circumstances.

**I dont see why you should have to explain anything about your sons condition to anyone in public, unless they ask in a genuinely kind or interested way. You DONT HAVE to justify yourself or your sons condition to anyone.

**What matters most is that you love your son, and I'm sure he knows he's loved too. You must not let other people's lack of understanding hurt you, thats the bottom line as far as I can see it.

In other words other people who dont understand can go way, & you dont have to engage with them, your sons autism is non of there business.

**In other words if other people have a difficulty with someone who has autism thats actually their problem NOT yours.

**In all of this please dont forget to be VERY kind to yourself as your probably feeling very vulnerable, fragile & emotionally sensitive. Please be good to yourself, lifes hard enough without beating youself up too.

I really do wish you a gentle and kind time over the holiday season and I hope things go better for you and your son in 2007.

Warm Regards to you both, IR

Answer 8

Well unfortunately some people, who are considered mental normal, seem to have a less then normal mentality when it comes down to dealing with others who have mental disabilities such as your son. My friend's older brother also has autism, and I have personally seen the kid freak out on his sister and unfortunately the parents who are both "normal" didn't help the situation any of the times.

Answer 9

There is no reason to put a label on ur child just to please other people plus most people have no idea about autism. I think maybe if some1 makes a comment u can say he's autistic.
I think if people are aware of things they won't prejudge but u have nothing to worry about u know ur son don't worry about those outside. B strong a nd confident!

Answer 10

Try not to take any notice,and i know that its hard.Some people can be really cruel and many of them will never understand because they don't have child with autism.You shouldn't have to tell every tom dick and harry the reason why your son behaves the way he does sometimes.It is none of their business.I always get looks when I'm with my son,and he doesn't even suffer from autism.I would just try and focus on your son,and don't even batt an eyelid at these people who think its great to stare.If you wanna chat ,email me!** [e-mail]

Answer 11

are you sure he has autism though? maybe since he can't talk, it's just a language delay.. kinda the same thing happend to me.. my son took forever to talk.. i took him in for evaluation and they diagnosed him with "slight signs of autism". they put him in a special education class. 4 months later they re-evaluated him and said he didn't have autism but he did need speech therapy (I ALREADY KNEW THAT).. but now they look at his past records and always ask " does he have autism".. and i always have to explain that it was a mistake!! he only had speech delay.. he use to yell a lot too because he couldn't communicate with me.. they get frustrated.. his language is much better now though.. so to answer your question.. NO you don't have to put a sign on your son and don't have to give explanation to anybody.. just try to calm him down.. forget the others and you do what you got to do.. don't feel ashamed of your son either.. hopefully it's just a language delay too .. good luck..