I work in an office with 12 people we are in customer service and during the holidays our customers bring us in goodies. All of us share with everyone else but one person...she is the first to grab at community goodies but when someone brings her something she immediately hides it in her office and takes it home. Should the other 11 of us say something to her or let it go.
2006-12-21 10:02:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Guess I failed to mention that she is a salesperson and she brings customer info to us to enter into computer, service customers and make sure she gets paid for it. The 11 people share one cookie tray every other day while she takes home two to three gifts a day. She would not be able to do her job without the other 11 of us.
2006-12-22 01:15:59 · update #1
If I could not restrain myself, I might say (as she grabs a goodie) "Good grief, you mean you've already finished all that stuff you had squirrelled away?"
But I would be laughing goodnaturedly and holding the plate up to her as I said it..
2006-12-23 11:12:46 · answer #1 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take home my goodies that the customers give specifically to me, although everyone else shares with the office. I don't take them home to have it all to myself though. I figure that during the holidays there is enough food for everyone at my work to gain 10 lbs over the holidays, so I take my goodies home and share with my family, sometimes I don't even take any for myself. I only do this if the box specifically has my name on it with a Christmas card to me and its from a customer that ONLY I work with. So I think you should let it go, because you might not know her story, and if she is just being greedy, O-well, she'll be 10 lbs heavier after the holidays.
2006-12-21 18:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by Agnostic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, let me see now. Sounds to me like this misfit needs a good comeuppance. There are eleven of you, and one of her, so that suggests to me that when customers bring you goodies, there ought to be plenty of eyes and pairs of hands around to get in there and grab them before she can get her greedy mits on them. Then y'all just hand her what you think might be her fair and reasonable "twelth portion" and share the rest out among yourselves, right there and then. Either do that, or all eleven of you agree on a plan, that whoever is given the gift, keeps his own while she's around, looking, and then y'all can share it among yourselves when she's not there. When somebody gives HER a gift, what the heck, let her keep it.
I bet she gets the message in a hurry. But if she does whine "No Fair", then one or more of you can quietly explain it to her.- that since there seems to be a problem about who gets what, why, the logical solution is for each person to keep his own. And let's face it, after that, each individual can do with his own gift whatever he wishes to, which means he can offer some of it to anybody he chooses, and leave out anyone he chooses to, as well. I'll eat my hat if that doesn't fix her waggon LOLOL
2006-12-21 18:20:31 · answer #3 · answered by sharmel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have an idea. You can get back at her by buying some candies and lacing them with or a cake and inserting in it some constipation medicine, pretending the goods are from the customers and letting her get to them first. Just joking. Don't do that. Just let that go. Don't get worked up over something trivial and ruining your holiday.
2006-12-21 19:59:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you could do something about it very politely, but firmly and simply
you could ask her directly if she would share such and such thing you noticed her had received, like: oh, what did you get? great, may i have a piece?
I would do it in front of the others in the office, it could work as an incentive for her
in this way, you give her the opportunity of correcting her behavior and at the same time, you are putting things at front
2006-12-21 18:38:46 · answer #5 · answered by international 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LAST YEAR, as the holidays approached, I read an article detailing a "disease" running wild in America. It's called affluenza, a term a sociologist coined to describe our country's insatiable appetite for material consumption. While affluenza's prevalent year round, the "gimme bug" is epidemic as Christmas approaches.
2006-12-21 18:10:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would let it go. It sounds like there is plenty of food in the office. If she feels the need to hoard the food for herself, let her. Maybe she is giving them to charity or feeding her family of 14 that lives in her basement, who knows?
2006-12-21 18:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by Suzie Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore it. Saying something isn't going to help. Maybe she is worse off than you think and needs the gifts.
2006-12-21 19:42:46 · answer #8 · answered by ramman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is directly given something, she does not have to share it. Next time, encourage her to share gifts given directly to someone else and invite her to participate in the sharing.
2006-12-21 18:24:36 · answer #9 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should say something to her because it's not fair and it's not right. as long as no one says anything to her she will continue to do it. and as long as she continues to do it, it will make you angry and cause your blood pressure to go up. if you don't want to just come out and tell her to her face for what ever reason, write a note and stick it on the board or on the mirror in the ladies room telling her about it .this way she wont no who wrote it .
2006-12-21 18:16:57 · answer #10 · answered by desperate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋