Okay....so i've been with this guy for 7 months. I am absolutly in love with him and he is so caring and loving. He has never tried to push me into anything but I really wanna do something besides making out and kissing. I am 17 and he is 18 and i don't see why we shouldnt becasue we love each other. We have both decided that we want to wait to have sex until we are married if that is our future but i still want to take out relationsship to the next level. However, i have always been the good girl and i dont even know where to begin on how to do anything. I need advice on how to please him with my hand and my mouth!
2006-12-21 09:31:57 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay just so everyone knows.....he wants to too.....we have talked it through several times. i just want it to be perfect for him. and i am still remaining abstinent for those who think i am not! and no i dont go to GHS whereever that is.....
2006-12-21 10:07:20 · update #1
When starting out, teasing him will get him riled up and ready to go. Light kisses all over his body work wonders. When you expose his penis to air it may already be erect (good chance of it actually). Rub it lightly or just stroke it with your fingertips. Don't use any pressure right away, make him wait. Keep going until your comfortable with it, don't let him push the pace. Another good point is lubrication, a dry penis is an uncomfortable penis when being "jerked" on. Just apply saliva (a lot of saliva) to your hand or directly to the shaft and wrap your fingers around it. Stroke up and down using different amounts of pressure, but not enough to make him scream or whimper in pain. If you're ready for oral, use lots of saliva to make him wet and slippery, and put only what you can into your mouth. Start slow and find the point where your gag reflex kicks in, but don't let him see you gag. It's such a turn off to watch your girlfriend dry heave. And don't use teeth unless he asks you, this will prevent any accidents. He will tell you what he likes from here on, and if he doesn't, then you're doing just fine. Have fun.
2006-12-21 09:42:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little confused. It sounds like you are or WERE committed to abstinence until you are married. Are you no longer committed to that? The REASON you should wait is the same reasons that you always had. I can certainly understand that it may be harder as time goes on.
I'd suggest that if you are going to have sex, that you at least don't try to lie to yourself. Either say, I am going to have sex and have sex or say I'm not going to have sex and don't have sex.
Don't say, "I'm not going to have sex until we're married. And then decide that it's okay because you love him or because he's really cute. If he IS committed to it and you pull him into something he is doing his best to hold off on, you could cause resentment.
You're expected to struggle with something like this. It's a hard commitment to make (and one I certainly didn't keep). If you have a pastor, priest, or mentor who you can talk to about this, I suggest you do.
2006-12-21 17:45:38 · answer #2 · answered by Portence Blitherschnork 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's plenty of literature out there that can help you with that. check out your bookstore for stuff on that subject from someone that really knows something on the subject. be careful though; it's easy to say what you'll do today, but difficult to question what that will lead to tomorrow. what you're suggesting, is something that perhaps you should do after the fact or what you're waiting or holding off to do, not before.
2006-12-21 17:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what advice you get in here it wont help when it comes to actually doing whatever you want to do, which isnt a bad thing, just be natural and let it happen, you will learn what he likes from the way he reacts to your touch
2006-12-21 17:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by laughinggiraffe2003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking for help from people on the internet than maybe you really aren't ready for the "next level". stick to what won't ruin your life with a huge mistake - take it slow, don't be in such a hurry to grow up.....if you want to know what may please him...ask him. If you can't talk openly about it - you shouldn't be doing it
2006-12-21 17:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use your mouth to tell him how much you love him. Use your hand to caress and comfort him and to have him feel your affection and your care.
Use your hands and mouth, with love and passion, to kiss him and caress his body.
And if you are really old enough to ask this question, use your instinct to know where and how you can use both.
2006-12-21 17:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you stick your hands down his pants just do it slow and take your time... But ask him what he wants or how he wants it. He will be more then happy to help you along with it, coach you through it. It will be uncomfortable asking him how to do it, but if you love him and he loves you you will both get over it.
2006-12-21 17:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by hollywooddane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ask one of your guy friends what thei favorite porn is.
Then go watch it and see how the girl does it.
Also ask your most sexually experienced girlfriend for how to tips.
also, while your amking out, just bend down, unzip his pants, and say, "dont move, I want to see something..."
then try it and see for yourself how it is supposed to go.
Everyone is different
2006-12-21 17:36:08 · answer #8 · answered by undrgrndhiphop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i think you should grant his wish and wait till marriage.
1. It will show you really love him by respecting him
2. Its the best thing to do is wait as long as possible
2006-12-21 17:36:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he ready to go to the next level? If so just be careful.
2006-12-21 17:34:48 · answer #10 · answered by Orleanslady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋