I am SO tired of being ALONE!!!! Please help!?

Question

Men what do you really think of a girl who is pretty but overweight??I am told i am very pretty,i dress well,and i am very outgoing......but men do not ask me out at all!!! It has been 2 years since i had a boyfriend and i am really sad and lonely!!Would you approach a heavier girl if you liked her,or does it all boil down to wanting the PERFECT model to show off???I have been the skinny model type before so i know how men treat you when your thin.Am i supposed to just be alone forever cuz nobody will approach me??I will not approach them cuz i am terrified of rejection!!HELP..only serious answers please

Answer 1

I feel the same way and i always get complements too about how pretty i am (im not overweight but im not skinny either) but i havent had a bf for a year. The guys that like me i dont like and the guys i like dont like me it never works out. Just keep your head up and i promise you your prince charming will come one of these days and he will love you like love you've never experienced before. Please dont settle for the least as i sometimes i came close to. Wait for the one thats the best for you. Some guys just don't realize what kind of a girl you are or they just dont have the confidence to approach you. But the one who will love you and appreciate you is the one that deserves you. Good luck!

Answer 2

There is overweight, and then there is OVERWEIGHT. I don't know what category you fall into, but it does make a difference.

I'm not the most athletic guy (I could stand to lose 10 pounds myself) I'm not ambitious enough to run marathons or bulk up to be super buff, but I do play sports and do other outdoor/athletic activities. As such, when dating (married now) my preference was always toward moderately athleticly shaped women; that isn't to say I never dated someone a little plump - I did - but someone who didn't care to stay fairly fit would be less likely to share the same interestes that I have, and so I would be much less likely to ask out a heavier person unless I came to know them well through other means. Also, most people tend to let themselves go after settling down, so some guys might be afraid that you might get even bigger down the road.

That said --- I would rather date someone slightly overweight than someone frail and bony or someone who smokes.

So to answer some of your questions. For guys who like to do physical activities, overweight may just not be worth their time. Sure you might change for the better or that you share enough other interests, but is it worth the time investment to find the answer is no? Do we want the perfect model? No, we don't.

So if you are willing to shed some pounds, good for you. Not only would you be more attractive, it would be healthier. If not, perhaps you should take up some hobbies/join organizations where you will meet guys on a regular basis and be able to get to know these guys in a more casual setting, instead of waiting for someone to walk up to you on the street/at a store and just ask you out. Then they might see you for the wonderful person that you are and find that even though there are some interests you might not share, there is enough there to warrant persuing a relationship. Heck, take dancing classes and enjoy the benefits of exercise and meeting people.

Answer 3

If you are comfortable with your body weight, that's what counts. There are plenty of overweight people (men and women) out there that are involved in serious relationships... it has nothing to do with it. When you say "the thin ones get all the men", that is only because those men are one single track... SEX. I wouldn't go out with Jessica Simpson, but she would probably be a great one nighter. If you are looking for a true relationship, the right man will come along at some time in your life when you least expect it. The rejections you get now are from those that seek only one thing. Be patient... it happens to everyone.

Answer 4

Maybe you need to try different approach. Men love it when a woman ask them out for a drink, or just to walk in the park. Yes, a lot of men are looking for the girl to show off. But not all men, and don't be afraid of rejection, you won't get a date unless you ask, and if the first one turns you down the next one might say yes.

Answer 5

You sound very sweet. The world is NOT a fair place, and unfortunately, good looking men and women have no trouble finding dates, and are typcially NOT interested in those they feel are "below" their level. The rest of us, however, have to work at finding that special someone. I personally know several "heavier" gals that seem to have found true love with men that compliment them, so it's not hopeless. However, there's no doubt that you'll improve your chances remarkably if you lose the extra pounds. And don't do it for them: DO IT FOR YOURSELF! This is an immense confidence builder, and you feel better, look better, be more alert, AND you'll have guys beating a path to your door! ;) Don't give up; You're a sweetheart.

Answer 6

You need to put your energies towards something else instead of dating. Your perfect male friend will come to you when you least expect it. Get involved with people who are doing something other than looking at their outer appearances. Do some activities that you enjoy and you will find someone who enjoys them too. Surround yourself with people of purpose, don't worry about dating, just be involved with other folks and in time a relationship will develop through networking. Take your mind off of you for a while and work on the things in life that make you happy. Put yourself in an enviornment that will cultuvate a good relationship.

Answer 7

It's not that men want you paper thin, model type. They want you to seem like you care about yourself by losing some weight. I hope you know what I mean. I was really fat after my first husband died. Then I lost 55 lbs. I felt better too. This is not a put down but it's just how this country thinks.

Answer 8

first of all
no body and i mean NOBODY would go out with a low self esteem person.
u have to be confident, and brave.
appearance is not everythin u should be concerned about.
i know alot of pretty girls, who cant have a decent topic to talk about.
u r beautiful by the way u act, the way u love, the way u care, and the way u socialize with ppl.
there's a man or a woman out there for everyone, so dont give up on him .

Answer 9

Nobody is going to be banging down your door. You have to go to the places where men hang out. Try sporting events, bars, church, wherever the men go. You have to meet people and put your outgoing personality to work. If you go expecting to hook up with someone it will show. Once you stop looking it will just happen. So go to have fun and meet new people.

Answer 10

It depends on what one likes. Some people like skinny types, some like around people with regular weight and some types like some people with a few pounds above allowed weight... I think this is an individual matter... Try to be yourself, if this does not work, you can always try to come back to the skinny yourself...