for single mum. are you happy or not ?

Question

i am pregnant and i think i will be a single mum.

thanks you for your answer all. i have a relative who is a single mum of 6 yo kid. her boyfriend left him right after she found out she was pregnant. but she is happy with her son even though she is a single mum.

Answer 1

Although it's not a first choice, it's also not a bad one. I think it's healthier for me and my son. He doesn't have to be around all the arguing. Also, I love the fact that I'm a woman and I could do it alone. Good luck and if you ever have any other questions e-mail me.

Answer 2

Happiness is in the eye of the beholder. Being a single mom is hard at times and challenging but you make the best of the situation. It was just me and my daughter for 8 years and we were and still are very close. There were times when I would shed a few tears because of the struggle or the loneliness but not near as times as I laughed with my daughter. If you are a single mom you will be OK and that doesn't mean that you will be single forever. I met a wonderful man who has been a father to my daughter and my 19mo son... it will happen but shouldn't be the main goal in your life. Providing a safe well adjusted stable environment for you and your child is.. whether its just you or you and a partner raising the child. Take Care Honey... and Merry Christmas.

Answer 3

Yes, I'm a single mum. My son's father did not want children and reject our child almost from the very beginning. So I'm definetely better off without him.

Hopefully I will be pregnant again in the new year. A loving single parent is better than 2 who dislike each other.

good luck

Answer 4

i am single mom to a 12 yr old a 22 month old and a 5 month old, although i'd love the secure family unit it doesnt always work that way. at least when youre on your own youve got more time and energy to give to the baby cos you havnt got to think about dad. the only thing i will say is, if u do need help ask for it dont just try to muddle thru. good luck xx

Answer 5

i am a single mother of almost 2 (pregnant with 2nd). and even though i do want my kids to have a father figure (i plan on marrying in a year) im happy at the moment as being single. it gives me more time with my children than having to deal with relationship problems of a boyfriend or even a husband. BUT i still want to get married.

Answer 6

Yes I am a single 21yr old mom of a 2yr old girl and pregnant now. It's all what you make of it. The father of my child isn't in her life but that's ok because I am there for her. Yeah, it would be easier if I had the help but I am happy. Don't feel bad, just be the best parent you know you can be and everything will be ok. Good luck

Answer 7

thats a tough one am i happy being a single mum?...
i love my kids with all my heart ,but i have to answer that being a single parent is hard,and my needs come last every time ,as it does when you are a parent .it is tougher at the end of a hard day when you have no-one to chat with about all the stuff going on in family life,it is differcult to get that from just normal friendships,and lonely being single.
also its tough being at home all day with a child ,it can be isolating aswell as rewarding.there is no-one to hand over to when you just want a long soak in the bath,and the baby is crying with colic.
i paint a grim picture i know ,but i am trying to be realistic for you that the tough times can be very tough.
however that said ,my children are the light of my life,they make me laugh,i enjoy family days out ,a trip to the picures,a wet sunday afternoon watching a dvd and muching on sweets and crisps with the kids.watching them in their school nativity xmas plays,feelin proud when they acheive awards,watching their first steps,knowing that im their mum..
so it is tough , but with as with all things tough there are rewards,and you know that you have bought them up to be happy and healthy so you feel proud of them and what you have acheived.
good luck :)

Answer 8

i have 3 children and was left as a single parent when they were very young babies. Although its not the ideal situation, I have coped very well (i think!) and they are now 15, 13, and 11, and very well-balanced, well behaved kids. You can do it, and although tough at times, we have the ability to cope well on our own!! I never expected to do it on my own, especially as my own parents have now been happily married for 43 years, but with the support of a good family, i am pleased to say that i have done it, and done it well, on my own
the very best of luck to you

Answer 9

You may have your doubt right now. I'm not going to tell you its easy. Heck i have my moments, where i want to run. But then just as you think you had enough they will do or say something that makes it all worth it. Ex: my son(6) notice i was a bit down, my boyfriend just broke up w/ me. so he had my mother make dinner and made me a card that said I LOVE YOU. he set the table up and everything all on his own. my girls ae the same way. I could go on. MAC

Answer 10

I'd rather be a single mom, or give birth and give the baby up for adoption knowing that child will have a good life.

I couldn't bare the guilt of always thinking "What would that baby be like had I not aborted her?"

Point blank: Ask anyone if they wished they were aborted, chances are they'll say no.

Answer 11

This is so sad. I guess that finding someone that would stand by you and work with you would have taken some effort. Instead, you had a child with someone, before finding out if they were your life partner. Getting your life in order and doing things in a proper order would have been to inconvenient. Get laid, get pregnant, and he goes to do the same with someone else. Next, I guess that we will carry clubs and fight for the right to mate, the strongest gets to breed and the woman submits to the winner. So much for evolution.