I am getting married in June to a wonderful guy. We are both believers of Christ. I was raised in church, and he was not. I can't imagine being married and not taking my future children to church....We agreed to start going before we get married, but I have heard that you can't change a persons habits. I have been out of church for about 2 years now. Do ya'll think that it is possible to get into the swing of going to church and keeping it that way with BOTH of us???
2006-12-21 09:21:19 · 10 answers · asked by ♥ sweet-n-low ♥ 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It sounds like you have six months to try. Many churches will be having services this Sunday. Walk, drive or bicycle to one. If he tells you he doesn't want to, he doesn't really love you. Real men keep their promises.
2006-12-22 06:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that's what you both want to do. Your married shouldn't depend on your activities in church though. Your relationship should be stronger than that; you can even get married by a justice of the peace and still have a valid, loving marriage.
You changed your habits from going to church as a child to not as an adult, so you've just proved that one can change her habits. People are able to change their habits all the time, but they just need to motivated and have commitment. In order to have motivation, there are two factors: expectancy to succeed and value. If you expect to change your habits and you value the change, then you will be motivated to execute whatever the task is.
2006-12-21 09:31:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs. Pears 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do what is right for YOU..... why have you not gone for 2 years? Do you feel your faith & belief is any more or less for going to church or not? Are you getting pressure from anyone making you feel like you SHOULD be doing something you haven't? What about your fiance, and will you be going to church for yourself whether he joins you or not?
You know little kids don't sit through church anyway... besides, going to church doesn't make you a christian, that is in your thoughts, words, and actions. You can be a good christian and raise your children in the faith without going to a special building once a week.
2006-12-21 09:28:47 · answer #3 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's important that your spiritual beliefs be similar. "Going to church" is very generic compared to choosing a particular belief. Although many Christian churches have similar beliefs when it comes to the "big" stuff, there are still differences in smaller, less spoke of items, that are big enough to split a church, not to mention a couple.
You can't change a person's habits, but you can change your own. If you both want it to be important in your life then you will make it important in your life. If you don't have a particulare belief system in mind, "shop" churches to find one you are comfortable in and with.
2006-12-21 09:30:35 · answer #4 · answered by G Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a habit which you can form. You are starting out on a new life together and this can mark the start of this new life. The important thing is to find one which you both feel comfortable in, wnhich may mean a change for you. Tell your fiance how important you feel that this is for your future life together and he will want to please you. (If he doesn't want to please you at this stage there really is something wrong!) Pray about it. "Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up." Ecclesiastes 4: 9-10.
2006-12-21 09:34:41 · answer #5 · answered by Doethineb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would really suggest the two of you get this figured out BEFORE you get married. Sounds like it might be easier for you to get back into church than it will your future husband. He may at first but unless he is truly doing it for himself and not just to please you then forget it, it will not last.
2006-12-21 09:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by ndmagicman 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your in love, your committed to one another, and youve made a life desicion. Just like any other one you will make together, about money, or where to live, you both have to uphold your end of the bargain. You can only assure your side, not his.
And yes, its possible. With God, ALL things are possible.
2006-12-21 09:24:52 · answer #7 · answered by sweetie_baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you can but you need to find a church that you like and enjoy going to no good doing just for habit.
2006-12-21 09:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Easy as pie but its easier when you have kids, and start taking them to CCD class
2006-12-21 09:28:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
First things first.....don't listen to the morons on here that will tell you not to worry about what God thinks......WRONG.....
It is absolutely possible to get back into it....it takes comittment, love, and prayer......you can do it....!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-21 09:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by Allen 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋