Hm. So here's an interesting dilemma: I go out with this great guy, we have fun and laugh and he even puts his arm around me (on two separate dates) it's going really well. A friend of mine (who he doesn't know) asks him if he's interested in me and he says we're just friends. I clean up the mess, but there's still something missing. I'm thinking she scared him off for me and I"m stuck in the friend's pool again, but it doesn't look like he's really open to sharing anything with me right now. Any ideas? I would like to go out with him again, but I think we're both short on cash due to the money-sucking season. haha. thanks.
2006-12-21 09:17:49 · 21 answers · asked by iambic_chatterbox 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This has been going on for about 3 months. Although I'm not looking for a romantic partner, I just dont' want to spend the next three months dating other guys wondering about him.
2006-12-21 09:28:41 · update #1
first of all...dont spoil a good thing by having your friend talk to him.thats a bad idea!bc 1 u dont know wat she said to him nd 2 u dont know if wat she tells u he said is true.also...u dont hav to spend a lot of money to hav a good date.go on a picnic or something else inexpensive but romantic.
2006-12-21 09:23:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like this guy enough, give the whole thing another chance. But don't push him. It sounds like things were going pretty good for awhile, but after your friend mentioned something to him, things suddenly snapped into perspective, and he got a little scared. Don't be too hard on your friend. It sounds like your friend was just trying to help you out. So the guy's a little shy...just give him some time and see if things work out. And the deal with not spending too much money this time of year? That might be to your benefit. You can go on "informal" dates which might take a lot of pressure off of him if it's not so structured. There's plenty of cheap and fun things to do. Hang out at home watching movies together.Take a scenic walk through the woods together. Drive around late at night Christmas light gazing together. Give it a little time and see what happens.
2006-12-21 09:33:05 · answer #2 · answered by Sam-I-Am 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First a date does not have to cost loads of money. Two people can amuse themselves without spending a dime. They can play cards or computer games or even board games. They can visit a museum or during the holiday season just go by a old age home or hospital and visit shutins. Offer some holiday good wishes and put a gleam in someone's eye that is lonely. Rembember it is in giving joy to others that we find joy ourselves. The brightness in an older persons eye when they are given time to expess themselves is very rewarding. Think of others instead of yourself and things will be really different. Do not push things let them happen.
2006-12-21 09:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some guys have a hard time showing there feelings and that is ok, we tend to do the same thing. Just give it some time, see how things go. I would politely ask your friend not to do that again. Let you and him get to know each other. If money is an issue ask him over to watch a movie. Have fun!
2006-12-21 09:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by All yours 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to go on a date that costs money. Pack a midnight picnic and go to a park at night. Go to a local river, lake, or OCEAN. At night. Romantic! It sounds like you two care about each other, and your friend should stay out of the relationship. Tell your friend you appreciate the friendship between you two, but your relationship with this guy is important, and completely seperate from your friends. Focus time on your guy... Remember nightime dates.!
2006-12-21 09:20:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's so easily frightened off, just by someone asking if he's dating you, then clearly he's just not that into you. He's not willing to make that effort, and he's probably not worth your effort.
There are two schools of thought on how to revive and increase his romantic interest in you: 1) ignore him, let him chase you, be fabulous and friendly, but stay at arm's length until he's willing to brave the idea of dating you properly, or 2) flirt with him like mad, then be bold and ask him flat out: do you want to date me, or do you want to be just friends?
2006-12-21 09:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously still likes you...and you should have proved to him that you liked him a long time ago when you're friends were treating him that way....you're just as bad as them standing there or not standing up for him...and so what if he's overweight you like him right. And he probably likes you a lot he's just worried that you don't like him back and that you're just going to let your friends put him down more. And let him know how you feel now before he actually does move on and then just leaves you to think about what it might have been like if you two had dated or at least had a friendship. And dump your friends if they don't respect your choices they have their own life to live don't let them live it for you.
2016-05-23 07:11:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you end up dating regularly, you are still just friends until you have the 'exclusivity' conversation. Just date the guy and have fun. Don't worry about the other stuff it will happen if it's meant to happen. Once you stop worrying about it you will feel a lot better. Good luck!
2006-12-21 09:22:06 · answer #8 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is wrong with being friends? Plus, you do not have to have money to hang out...ask him over for a movie and you make dinner! But, if you want to find out if he truely likes you than you are going to have to ask him! If he wants to be just friends and you want more then maybe, you need to date someone else. This may make him want you back...if not, at least you are not at home waiting on a maybe!!!
2006-12-21 09:21:57 · answer #9 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she scared him off he just answered with a typical teenage boy response. His reponse to your friend keeps his options open to other girls but at the same time not dismissing posibilities with his relationship with you. Guys yor age are not at the stage in life where they really want to 'share'as you put it cause frankly they want as many partner options available as posible, deffinatly doesn't want to have to explain anything or 'share'anything with you. His hormones are telling his brain that his chances of a sexual encounter increase if he keeps his options open. Thats the frank and honest truth!
2006-12-21 09:24:57 · answer #10 · answered by Yorkshire Aussie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just wants to be really good friends. If u want to go out with him then confront him and say something. Tell him u like him and if u get rejected at least u tried. But you should do what u want and follow ur heart.
2006-12-21 09:21:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋