I was wondering if in your opinion it is better to chase after someone you really like even if it takes months and years (not in a desperate way though) or to just give up and move on?
2006-12-21 09:13:42 · 17 answers · asked by Anna M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
move on! if it was meant to be.....you wouldn't have to keep chasing.
2006-12-21 09:16:38 · answer #1 · answered by stop it 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is an area in between giving up and chasing.
Chasing is what you should do for a few days when you're trying to test the waters with a new love interest.
Giving up is what you should do when you know the other person knows you are interested, yet they show no signs of being interested in you. If you wait to long to "give up", you risk looking like an obsessed loser. The longer you wait to give up, the worse you are going to appear. The worse you are going to feel about yourself, too.
And when you do give up, REALLY give up, don't trick yourself into thinking you are going to give up for a while, then she/he will come running back to you. You will still be living in an obsessive fantasy.
2006-12-21 09:55:31 · answer #2 · answered by sixgun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to get so obsessed that I would chase these people for 3 years at a time. I have learned though, that its better to let them go and get on with your life!
chasing doesnt get you anywere, if they dont like you know, their taste wont change by you chasing them!
2006-12-21 09:20:05 · answer #3 · answered by Dominique-Duh! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have tried the chasing approach and it has not worked yet. I am not saying give up either. Keep it light, and in the mean time date someone else. Once you stop chasing that significant other, they might realize it and come around, Who knows?
2006-12-21 09:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by george 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, tell them how you feel. However, before you spill your heart out, really get to know the person and have a few deep conversations to make sure that they are really worth it. And if they're not interested? Well, move on and don't let it bother you.
There is someone out there perfect for you! Good luck!
2006-12-21 09:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that there might be a slight chance for SOMETHING to happen there, go for it. But move on if you find after a couple of months that they are not interested. If, when you've moved on, you can't let go of that person. If they have stolen your heart and haunt your dreams, then you know that they are somone that it is worth chasing after.
2006-12-21 09:18:03 · answer #6 · answered by Val 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think a woman should do the chasing...If he knows I like him and enjoy him, I'll wait for his move, If he does'nt pursue me..well??????? Then it's obvious. Like the saying goes,..... "Here's your sign!"....lol
2006-12-21 09:50:19 · answer #7 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in a similar situation before.. and i also didnt know what to do. it really depends on the situation, so my best advice would be to not make any unthoughtful and sudden decisions, just think about the + and - of both options and see what's best for you.
2006-12-21 09:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by goldenheartcity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them know you are interested, aggressively let them know, then let them make the next move. It they don't make a move in a couple of days, write them off and move on.
2006-12-21 09:16:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you know for sure they don't like you i say chase after them because you like them so much! =D
2006-12-21 09:16:43 · answer #10 · answered by Tom M 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should never stop being friendly and nice with them, because you might spark their interest if they come to trust you and rely on you, but don't be closed to anyone else who comes along.
2006-12-21 09:17:46 · answer #11 · answered by snake390 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋