My boyfriend and I just broke up (after 2 years) and we have a gorgeous home that never of us can afford by ourselves. The house is technically in his name but we have shared all costs. We also have VERY expensive furniture that we both have put money into. We don't hate each other and we both are still hurt. I still love him but I cannot be in the type of relationship he wants, so because of that, because of my trust issues and because of his unwillingness to compromise we are thinking about continuing to live together as roommates. I would move into the guest room and there is more than enough room for both of us but I am worried about other issues that may arise. Does anyone have any feedback? Thanks!
2006-12-21 09:04:28 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, thats not a presentable issue. if there is anyway you can JUST part company then do not hesitate to do so but if it will demand so much from you as you have to get into your own appartment, then i will advice that you dont stress yourself that much. live with him and be sure to get busy all the time. dont involve yourself so much with anything that concerns him. About the reason you guys broke up, if you truelly love him and wish to live your entire life with him, then express your feelings to him. tell him how much you would love to live with him forever if not for that attitude. if there still isnt no change then you must really need too live with rules and regulations as to what to do and what not to do so you dont entice any happening. my dear, you can decide to live with him and nothing will happen if you dont want anything to happen. remember that you control what happens in your life. its a matter of identifying what you want and devising strategies towards it. Do exactly that and you will have a sweeter life than you ever thought.
2006-12-21 09:27:56 · answer #1 · answered by MissyFlexsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will be issues, realize that from the jump, but everyone, in every relationship, has issues. Issues are no big deal, they are moments that we go through that define who we are and what we will become. The important thing is how you handle these issues, one might suggest that since you two couldn't make it as a cpl that as roommates you would struggle even more, but that isn't always the Case and doesn't have to be the case. I don't know how old you both are but maturity has a lot to do with how you handle issues. There are heaps of scenarios one could speculate on but the bottom line is respect, if you two do not respect each other then you will have no desire to resolve even the most simple issues.
I pray that all goes well and that you two can resolve ALL issues and be lifelong friends.
2006-12-21 09:13:49 · answer #2 · answered by justbuddy67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will NEVER work.... It's not a healthy situation, you'll end up hurting even more. If you are broken up then 1 or both needs to move out. Sell the house and go 50/50 on the furniture. Do the right thing!
2006-12-21 09:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by joyall57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're loose to deliver him out, afterall you are the "landlord"! yet make useful that he gets yet another place to hotel beforre you're taking the action, in any different case God may be indignant with you. despite in case you eject him, you will nonetheless stay pals? If particular, then pass forward and purchase him yuletide presents. this might practice you as a infant of God and practice which you're no longer kicking him out with hatred, yet that it quite is finished on your peace of ideas and interior the suitable activity of the two one in each and every of you.
2016-10-15 09:44:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mind on your money and you can do anything.
If living with an ex is the difference between paying this much or that much. Do it and who cares what you use to be. Business is business/Friends is friends.
2006-12-21 09:07:58 · answer #5 · answered by BionicNahlege 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes people can. I did. We are still best friends but I moved out for 6 months to regain my self again.
NO, you can't because you said you still love him - a recipe for disaster.
2006-12-21 09:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they can but i would really think about if her brings a girl back to the apartment how you would feel and vice versa if you think that you might be jealous than don't be roommates
2006-12-21 09:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by shortysherry46 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy crap, there is no way that can work. Men don't operate that way. Think of what it'll be like when he starts bringing ladies home. Bad, bad idea....
2006-12-21 09:18:23 · answer #8 · answered by superfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you handle seeing his dates, can he handle seeing yours? Watch the movie: The break up with Jennifer Aniston.
2006-12-21 09:11:16 · answer #9 · answered by Akasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One question: When he is ready to date again, how would you feel about him having HER over to visit or spend the night? That's what I thought!
2006-12-21 09:08:00 · answer #10 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋