I met this copper through a internet forum online...in september 06 and he said he had a gf but she was ok with us chatting to each other online. He started to flir with me and I flirted back. She went off for a few month starvelling and he came online more and more chatting to me. Our conversations got dirty and we both liked it. Now (dec 06) he is due to see the gf in Jan 07 and now he is saying that he will cut me short in conversation as he has re-addressed his life and although he flirts with the girls at work....he knows that the gf knows these girls....so thinks its ok...and he says she doesn't see them at work.
I think I started to fall for him cos I wanted to give him my number. We chatted tonight online and I said I thought his gf would mind. He said he loved his gf and always would. How can he say that when he spent the last three months chatting intimatey with me...asking me to stick my finger in my ***** etc etc. I got really upset when he said he loved his gf and
2006-12-21 09:03:56 · 15 answers · asked by Blue_Bell 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and always would. I think the reason why is cos she can go off for several months with friends and and still come back to the arms of a man who loves her. I don't have and I feel a mixture of anger, jealousy and also just wanting to scream.
I got on really well with him. I feel like crying. I feel Like going bak online and still chating to him...but I know it means nothing. How can I get over it. I have o friends. No life. I feel crap.
2006-12-21 09:07:12 · update #1
sad prick just likes the chase
2006-12-21 09:07:46 · answer #1 · answered by gareth O 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Run away. Far away and very fast. This guy is using you to get himself off at your expense. He has as much told you he is attached and will not leave and just wants to have a good time with you.
No woman likes to have her man flirting with other women so if this supposed GF exist she probably doesn't even know what is going on.
Cut and run and find some one else. there are plenty of other men out there that will treat you right and be good for you to waste your time (or more) on this guy who is treating you like a piece of used tissue paper. Sorry to come on strong but I have seen too many scenes like this one.
2006-12-21 09:17:22 · answer #2 · answered by Julie Hartford 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi hes just playing with your mind, just never talk to him again, Hes a creep. When his girlfriends aways hes cheating on her and when shes back hes with other girls. How can you even say you want to speak to him online again. Tell himm where to go and what you think of him. That should sort your anger out, but if you need to cry do and get it out as this will help you to for get the, rotten sicko. i hope you stop whilst you dont fall for him even more. Can i ask how can you fall in love with someone you havent even seen or met. Just forget him he sounds freaky, he could even be lying to you thinking it makes his sound good because hes got all these girls.
2006-12-21 09:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He didnt really care, he only wanted the dirtyness. And dont do all the I have no life and no friends depressed rubbish! You do and I know you do because there is always someone there for you. Just forget and move on. Just dont do anything stupid either. Just keep smiling and talk to someone who you can trust and who you know cares.
Just keep smiling :)
You will find someone, i've been in your position before and eventuly everything is fine.
What you need to realise is that life is NEVER perfect and that you can't get what you want. Only life decides what you get, all you have to do is learn how to live with it.
But the main thing is keep on smiling :-D
I hope you have a good x-mas.
2006-12-21 09:15:48 · answer #4 · answered by adlingtont 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was using you. I'm sorry to tell you but you have been the substitute girlf while his girlf was away. Now she's back, she has priority again. He may be able to justify all this to himself with twisted logic but the facts stand clearly if you re-read what you have written that he is a first class W anker.
The best thing you can do is cut off all contact and move on. He has told you clearly that he loves his girlf. He will not leave her for you.
Sorry to be harsh but the sooner you take this on board the sooner you can pick up the pieces and get on with finding someone who will value you and love you the way you deserve- as the most important and only person in his life.
He is scum. Try to forget him, and avoid getting involved in such a situation again.
Hugs, x
2006-12-21 09:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
This guy is leading you up the garden path, hes never gonna leave his girlfriend for you. Hes proberly doin this to a number of lasses online...i bet hes not even a copper. He sounds like a dirty old weirdo,,,believe me you are better off staying well away from him.
2006-12-21 09:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you poor girl!!!!Listen to me I have had similar experiences and trust me this guy is using you!!!! Men (not all) can have that kind of thing with someone and not get emotionally involved. My advice is forget him scrub his email from your comp and don't go to that forum again. He could ask you all that stuff because he could pretended in his head you were his GF. believe me he is no good and I feel sorry for his GF she's dating a worm. My ex tells me he loves me all the time and that i am the one he wants to be with yet he is dating a girl who lives in Germany and is spending Xmas with her. yet if I say the word apparently he wouldn't go. This girl believes he loves her but he doesn't and I don't believe he loves me either. I won't touch him again he cheated on me and lied to me and this bloke is doing the same to his GF. do you really believe his GF approves of him chatting to girls on line.....would you be okay with it if he was your BF NO!!!! She probably doesn't have a clue poor girl. You are best off leaving well alone!!!! Don't let this guy control you hun you deserve better!!!!!
additonal: me to on the no life no friends. I have chatted to some very nice guys on dating sites match.com and pocado there are some wierdos out there but its good to just chat sometimes. I go out with my sister sometimes.....
2006-12-21 09:18:05 · answer #7 · answered by donna_eade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good grief. He's filling you full of b**l s**t. He's getting his jollies from making you talk dirty to him on the web. You should charge $4.99 a minute. At least you would make some money for your efforts. He doesn't have a serious bone in his body. I doubt he has a girl friend anywhere. I bet he looks at dirty magazines and j**ks off. Move on honey. You are dreaming.
2006-12-21 09:10:00 · answer #8 · answered by righteousrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok honey wake up and smell the rat! i have a bf and i still go online and chat to peeps but i dont get dirty. he used u and he's probably doing it to others. block him from ur friends list and ignore him if he tries to chat to u again! his gf obviously knows nothing about what he is doing! he lied to u so he is lying to her! flirting is ok but getting u to do dirty stuff? no way! kick him to the curb!!!
2006-12-21 09:32:48 · answer #9 · answered by Natalie B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have only met the guy online and just coz you chat dirty dont mean you need to start gettin attached to him. I have a bf and i chat to guys all the time some dirty and some just normal everyday hows your family chats i love my bf to bits it doesnt mean anything! its all social chit chat. Find yourself a proper guy not a virtual one and have "boom boom" for hours on end you'll soon forget this online guy
2006-12-21 09:14:02 · answer #10 · answered by aimzinch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
welcolm to the world of online dating. It can be just a cheap thrill to some men. They feel safe, cus you dont really know anything about him really. Therefore, he can be as dirty as he likes, and get you to do stuff for him (using you) stay clear and put all your energy into a real guy x
2006-12-21 09:10:06 · answer #11 · answered by saraharies2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋