Well, me and this guy went out for a while. He was great in every aspect of the relationship, but when it came time to pay a bill....boy oh boy did he back out.
For instance, on our first date we went to the movies. Of course, I offered to pay, and although he didn't let me, he made me go buy pizza and popcorn instead. After this date, we went to the movies again. This time, I paid. It's like....he's waiting for me to offer to pay, and he never says no. When we went out for dinner, I politely looked in my purse to bring out some money, but lo and behold, I ended up paying for the whole meal.
What's up with this? Regardless to say, we are no longer together. But it wasn't over money issues, something else. But still.....it bothers me till this day.
Who was wrong? Me for offering, or him for taking?
2006-12-21 09:01:12 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm a believer in "gentleman" - guys, in my opinion out of courtesy, should pay for the girls during their first few days. I would be happy to split it, heck, I'd pay fpr everything, if the relationship grew a lot stronger.
I just find it hard to find someone like that, I guess
2006-12-21 09:07:11 · update #1
Him for taking but you shouldn't have offered either especially on the first few dates. I would never and could never date a man like that. What a total turn off. I like and am used to generous men who wont let me pay for anything. That's the way I like it. They always say "Well women wanted equal rights" and that bs. I say the day men dont call women sl*ts and whores for having multiple partners will be the day I pay for things. Until then things dont seem equal to me.
2006-12-21 09:09:55 · answer #1 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I belive the first few dates should be taken care of bby the guy. That's the way I was brought up. After that then it's fine to pay 50/50. I think you may have been used in that aspect. But I bet you know how to act when you meet another guy!
2006-12-21 17:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by joyall57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I had one of those too. He's a mooch. He's probably known in his family for making every penny scream, he's so tightfisted.
Now, I set the ground rules from the beginning of planning for a date. If we decide to "go dutch", I only pay my half. If we decide he's paying this time, he pays. If we decide this time is my treat, then it will be. And I always make sure that he isn't overburdened with expensive dates, and neither am I.
2006-12-21 17:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anastasia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have set guidelines regarding paying, he should at least make an effort to pay unitl you let him know otherwise.
Find someone else...
2006-12-21 17:12:52 · answer #4 · answered by Axeman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were about to become a "sugar momma"...but if you offered it was within proper etiquette for him to accept, but i think we all expect the man to step up to the plate and be the man...I think he was looking for a momma
2006-12-21 17:08:04 · answer #5 · answered by iamhhi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were polite for offering he was a mooch for taking repeatedly.
2006-12-21 17:05:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jenine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a mooch. You did yourself a favor getting rid of him.
2006-12-21 17:03:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
him for taking.
hes a cheap loser
At the dinner thing I wouldve made him watch me eat while he had his "Sparkling Water" XD
2006-12-21 17:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by Hola. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should have paid for everything, stop being such a b*tch!
2006-12-21 17:04:42 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Harry Fingerman 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋