He saw the box in my car and it is big. He assumed that it was expensive (it is not!!). He called me later day and said I don't have to buy him anything, he doesn't need anything or he can get it himself of he want something. From his voice, I don't really know how he feels about it. Now I don't know what to do (I got him the massager since he always have back pain) . I gave it a lots of thought to pick the gift. Should I return the gift? and just get him a card or give it to him anyway. I don't want him to feel that he obligate to get me anything. or should I get something else smaller? This is suck!!
2006-12-21 08:53:42 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go ahead, just do whatever you want. You are so care for him. What did he do for you? I think a massager is fine. It is what you want to send to him, and it is also you think he need. That's enough. If he still can't be satisfied, that means he is the man with big stomach, difficultly to fill in. Then I suggest you to think over your relationship very carefully.
2006-12-24 18:04:38 · answer #1 · answered by hellenwashington 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your boyfriend might be feeling really bad in that he assumes you bought him something expensive and he maybe does not have the money to buy you something nice. You could try and make him understand that you bought him the gift in the spirit of Christmas, not the need to get gifts from him. You did give it alot of thought because of his back problems. Give it to him anyway, and if he finally tells you he feels bad because he can't get you something, tell him that is not the reason you gave him a gift.
2006-12-21 08:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by Charles & Elizabeth C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all u should have told him see suger if i got this cos i wanted and that's a gift and on a gift ur not supposed to gimme ur ideas if u don't like it just throw it away or give it some one ...and tell him if u buy me some thing u won't see me again ...u know what when u get some thing for guys specially when its big OR expensive they get so happy inside but they just want to pretend once i bought ma BOY a handy camera which was so expensive he said :O o baby i just really didn't need sucha big thing like this and i said baby i just felt that its cute that's y i did it and he was like c'mon what da **** i don't want u to do it ever again and i said see baby am not a shitty cheap gurl to get some thing so lousy for ppl it is not becos ur my boy friend or some thing even if u would have been some one who i met 10 mins back i would have bought u the same thing i got no habbit to buy cheap things and then he started again what i did i just threw that digital handy camera outta the cars window and pass over it with car :D he was **** scared and i broke up right away well it was just some thing i shared
2006-12-21 09:08:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess what some guys don't understand is that some women really just want to give a good gift with no obligations. Tell him to stop being a big baby. You know he is capable of getting stuff for himself, he really needs not to say that. If he doesn't come around use it to whack some sense into him.
2006-12-21 08:59:23 · answer #4 · answered by sassy_natz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it back and get him nothing. If it upset him that much then don't spend money on him. Nothing. Just tell him Merry Christmas. I doubt he got you anything. Don't feel bad about it either. Maybe he can't afford to get you anything. I wouldn't sweat it. Those massagers your talking about or about $100, so yeah, that's kinda pricey for some people. Find someone who appreciates gift giving.
2006-12-21 08:59:28 · answer #5 · answered by righteousrose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's horrible that he is treating you this way. Sounds like he wasn't planning on getting you anything, so he's upset that you got him something. You put a lot of thought and effort into it - and it is a gift - meaning you didn't expect something in return. So I would say just give it to him. Then, afterwards, when you confirm he's a cheap jerk who never planned on getting anything you can dump him.
2006-12-21 08:57:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the present with the receipt that way if he doesn't like he can exchange for something else perhaps he felt bad for he didn't get you a big gift and this is his way of acting out for feeling bad and guilt HUGS
2006-12-21 08:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by Angel Virgo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats nice but ask him how he feels about it if he hates the idea of u getting him something say ok and give the gift to a relative and make him a mixed cd or something.
2006-12-21 08:59:32 · answer #8 · answered by Heather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the gift and tell him he better like it. You didn't discuss ahead of time that you would not buy gifts, so fair game. If he's being ungreatful, then kick him to the curb.
2006-12-21 08:57:42 · answer #9 · answered by Rosie aka Rosie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is upset that you gave him something for christmas and you still have the receipt take it back to the store and get your money back
to make you feel better i will wish you a merry christmas and a happy new year
2006-12-21 08:57:12 · answer #10 · answered by ken s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋